It's Koz knows!  Are you familiar with the "Parent/Teen Partnership Agreement."  If you are dealing with a teenager not listening and going through difficult times.  Maybe the grades are down.  Most parents are not okay with that.  They look at the worst case scenarios. The philosophy is based off a contingency agreement.  If the parent and teen agree on something and both accomplish the agreement, you become successful.  

How you work the partnership.  It is better to involve a counselor.  But come up with three things that you want the other person to do.  i.e. chores need to be done, certain GPA.  Also, the teenager comes up with some ideas that they want the parents to do.  But keep it simple and measurable.  Some things that are not good ideas is to have your teenager be respectful and honest.  We all know that it is difficult with a teenager.  If things are not being accomplished in the agreement.  You don't just end the agreement.  But don't give a consequence in the heat of the moment.  

With school, a parent should not track their kids assignments being turned in on time.  Put in the agreement that you check the grades one day a week.  If it isn't done, rather than a consequence, you get something taken away.  Allow a little flexibility too.  Be sure that you are calm when an part of the agreement isn't followed.

It is a lot easier for teenagers to come up with three things for parents.  i.e. Parents don't constantly check on teen about getting school assignments done, not constantly checking on the teen.  Unless the agreement states otherwise.  But the key for parents is to give their teenager enough space and freedom.

Remember this is all about learning to be discipline and to be successful.  Also, give them opportunities to make money.  Teenagers don't ask for an excessive amount of money.  Parents shouldn't have anything related to religion or specific things from the past.

Also, make a list of three things that your teenager will go without when they have a consequence.  i.e. 24 hours without cell phone, one day without hanging out with friends, can't borrow the car.  But leave it up to the teenager.

Ultimately, this agreement helps your teenager get ready to become an adult.  It helps them to be responsible and it helps them grow and progress.  

The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You can find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.

You can learn and get better at whatever you'd like to do just by having connections with other people. The Just Koz Show's David "Koz" Kozlowski talks about having someone there to support you in whatever you do, which means you're more likely to meet your goals to figure out old problems, or to figure out solutions to new problems. Even in this technological world, there are so many ways for you to learn more things through the connections available across the globe. 

The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.

2017 has been a difficult year for a lot of people and it has let to a lot of drama and negative emotions for a lot of people. The Just Koz Show's David "Koz" Kozlowski talks about how life happens, and you can't rebuild if you are in defense mode in your life. Whether you are dealing with relationship problems, health problems, or anything in your life, maybe you see 2018 as the year you will shine. Rebuilding mode can lead to great success as long as your defensive time is in the past. Koz says Big Sean says it best in his song Bounce Back: "Last night took an L, but tonight I bounce back. Wake up every morning, by the night, I count stacks".

The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.

When a young man approached Koz at a speaking installment, he told Koz about a friend of his living on the other side of the country whom he only communicates with via social media. So how do you tell if it's a cry for help, a cry for attention, or them just venting? The Just Koz Show's David "Koz" Kozlowski discusses how you can interact with people struggling on social media, and whether or not they really are struggling or just wanting attention.

Social media can be tough to have these difficult conversations, but sometimes it's a necessity.

The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.

It's easy to fall into old habits when having conflicts with others. being aggressive in response to aggression can often lead to more feelings of anger and frustration. The Just Koz Show's David "Koz" Kozlowski talks about how to break these cycles and offer someone a pass instead of reacting negatively to a harsh situation. Offing someone a pass means you walk away as the bigger person, plus, you leave the situation in the past.

The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.

Just because first responders stand strong to all of the kinds of terrible things they are witness to, over time those kinds of feelings and memories can pile up, leading to mental instability. Public Relations Representative of Unified Fire Joins Koz to discuss first responders mental health, and why you should be supporting the mental health of our firefighters, police, and paramedics in our community. The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski, a former football player at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow.

These days, it's really hard to feel needed in this modern technological world. It's incredibly hard since face to face interaction has been replaced by interaction on social media sites that may not even be noticed leaving today's youth feeling undervalued, underappreciated, and under loved as a tragic byproduct of an attempt to tell someone that gets lost in a feed. The Just Koz Show's host Koz explores how young people in today's society don't have a real purposeful struggle that they are dealing with. 

The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski who used to play football at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow

When you have someone in you your life who is struggling with addiction, you have a front row seat to something that is really painful to watch. The Just Koz Show's host, Koz, talks about how all too often when we watch our loved ones in pain, it can directly coincide with pain signals that you have. Empathy and compassion are absolutely necessary for the person struggling, and for the entire support group. When we go through painful times, we store those memories in our mind, and we store the feeling and emotion behind it, which can elicit an emotionally negative response if put into a similar situation. Koz talks about how to improve some of these situations.

The Just Koz Show is hosted by David "Koz" Kozlowski who used to play football at the University of Utah. Now he talks to athletes, artists, and other community members about important mental health and social issues. You find Koz on facebook at facebook.com/TheJustKozShow

You need to understand a few things about pornography.  Koz deals with it a lot in his work.  And there are a lot of misunderstandings.

Pornography is an intimacy issue.  People that do not have intimate connections (sexual, spiritual, emotional) can suffer a lot with pornography.  Pornography has a unique effect on people who are lonely because it temporarily makes them feel good.  

It is very possible to develop a serious addiction to pornography.  How do you know if it's an addiction, or a habit or just an activity?  Koz looks at how it's affecting your life.  Is it harming your relationships?  Is it making work difficult or jeopardizing your career?  That's one way you can see if someone is addicted.

It's true, this is a case by case thing.  Different people have different reactions to social media, alcohol, or any other thing that we know can be addictive.

 

 

Koz does a lot of work with people struggling in relationships.  In this episode he talks about good communication in a relationship, especially when it's time to end it.

He tells the story of a young man struggling with a girlfriend who keeps going out socially with her "guy friends".

He's uncomfortable with it, and she's defensive about it.  It's wrecking their relationship.

Sometimes people who want out of a relationship will try to blow up the relationship instead of just leaving.  So they will create situations that force the issue.  Cheating is an example of behavior that may be designed to blow up the relationship.

It's better to be honest with your partner about where you are in the relationship.  It's hard.  You can be in love with someone but still know the relationship has expired.