This episode has been long in coming, and I am so glad to welcome my longtime friend Mr. Mocha to the China Shop. While we talk almost daily, there are some things even I didn’t know about him!

Join me as we dig in to what brought him into the lifestyle, why he has a “Pavlovian” response to a certain song and find out what makes him such an extraordinary Bull, Stag, husband and man. Even Mr. Mocha learned something new about himself, listen and find out what it was, it surprised me as much as it did him.

This is an episode that I’ve been waiting patiently for the past 4 years to bring you, ever since I attended my first Splash Mocha event back in February 2020. Well the wait is over and I am happy and proud to bring you my conversation with 2 of the people behind Splash Mocha, Wayne and Tina. For anyone who has been, you surely know these 2 wonderful people. For those who haven’t yet, this will serve as your official introduction. Splash Mocha is a lifestyle event like no other as it caters specifically to Couples who enjoy the company of distinguished Black gentlemen. You have heard me talking about and referencing this event for several years and now you get to hear the story straight from the mouths of those who put it all together. You will hear how it went from its humble beginnings to become the massive success and lifestyle staple that it now is. If you’ve ever been curious and have been thinking about attending, this is the episode you need to listen to. So sit back and enjoy and learn more about the event that many of us hold so dear.

This episode has nothing to do with the lifestyle. My mother was recently diagnosed with lung cancer and I’m struggling big time. I just wanted to put something out there letting everyone know just how wonderful and special a woman she is. This was a cathartic exercise for me in that I didn’t want to keep my emotions bottled up. I hope that you all will smile when listening to this and maybe it will give you a little more insight into understanding why I am the way I am. Thank you so much.

When I first launched my podcast one of my earliest episodes was me talking about the differences between the different dynamics. That was 6 years ago and in that time things have evolved. So here is my attempt to update these descriptions. Please keep in mind that in the grand scheme of things, labels do not matter AT ALL. What matters is that each couple finds what works best for them. Some couples are firmly in one lane or the other while others flow freely between them. That is the beauty of this lifestyle is that there are so many ways to experience it. My goal is just to give people a better understanding of how these dynamics differ from each other in the context of the lifestyle.

I have known Ms. Coco for several years now and I count her as a dear friend. She navigates this lifestyle as a single woman and she is the type of person who drips authenticity. What you see is what you get. She has an inspiring story that I am thankful I get to share with my listeners because I know there will be many women out there who will identify with her journey. Hers is a story of self discovery, self empowerment and self fulfillment. This is a woman who knows what she likes, what she wants and what she does not want. She is proof that it is never too late to discover your sexual power and seek your own fulfillment.

I don’t know how many women and couples are familiar with this but among guys there is this concept of bringing your A game when you play with a woman for the first time. In other words, you want to “hit a home run” to ensure that you get a 2nd shot. I have been hearing about this when I was vanilla long before I entered the lifestyle. In this episode I was joined by Mr. Mocha and his younger brother who was visiting him at the time and who is also in the lifestyle. The question we are discussing in this episode is should every woman get your absolute best effort or should that be reserved for select playmates. This was a very interesting discussion with each of us taking a different stance. As always, I enjoy bringing you these types of conversations that give you insight into the way that Bulls in this lifestyle think. Enjoy.

A few weeks ago I attended a lifestyle party and while there I encountered this woman and she and I struck up a conversation. I found her to be a delightful and engaging woman who had such a captivating journey. I am always fascinated when I meet single women in this lifestyle, especially those who entered the lifestyle as a single. Being that this lifestyle primarily focuses on couples and Bulls, you rarely hear from single women but they do play a prominent role so I like to share their perspectives whenever I am able to because their stories are so inspiring to other women. So sit back and enjoy the story of how Liberty found her tribe, her voice and her sexual power.

*Please note - this episode was recorded by Mr. Mocha and the very last minute of the call got cut off. The only thing you are missing is both of us signing off so you didn’t miss much

By now many of you know that I have 3 very close friends in this lifestyle who I refer to as my brothers. One of those brothers is Mr. Mocha. He and I talk often and many times the conversation will turn to the lifestyle and we will go into detail and will sometimes have differing viewpoints. What usually happens is that in the middle of these conversations one of us will say something to the effect of “this would make a great podcast episode”. Sometimes we will revisit the topic at a later date and attempt to record it but it lacks some of the energy that is there when we are discussing the topic the first time. Well this time we were able to catch ourselves and record during the phone. So here is a behind the curtain view of what one of our phone conversations is actually like. On this call we were discussing the idea of being able to read the room as it pertains to the lifestyle. Reading the room is a very helpful skill no matter your role in the lifestyle and when done well, it can help you avoid many embarrassing or awkward moments. So sit back, listen, learn and laugh as my brother and I shoot the shit like we always do. Enjoy

The China Shop episodes are my attempt to shine a light on gentlemen who I feel truly understand what being a Bull in the wife centric lifestyle is all about. Drew Marston is no exception. I have known him for a while and he always represents himself in the best way possible. I enjoyed talking to him and hearing all about his journey and his particular outlook. As you listen you will learn that Drew is a man who is living his authentic life and remaining true to who he is and what he is about. What I appreciate most about these episodes is giving people an idea of qualities to look for in those special Bulls who are out there. Enjoy.

Any Splash Mocha event is always a whirlwind of activity. There is always something going on and the event always feels like it just flies by. With that in mind, one of the things I enjoy doing is these recap episodes with one of my brothers. In this episode I am joined by Mr. Mocha and we touched on various topics that came up while we were at the event. As usual, we go off on tangents however, we still keep lifestyle topics first and foremost.