Show Notes: In a world that often celebrates perfection, many of us grapple with feelings of inadequacy, rejection, and the longing for belonging. On the way to BIG dreams there are often tables we are never invited to, doors that close right in our faces, and we already know we will have to endure "no" after "no" before we finally get the YES that will change our lives. In this episode of the Mary Marantz Show, I had the honor of sitting down with Tabitha Panariso, author of "Loyal in His Love: An Invitation to be Held by Jesus When Others Let You Go." Together, we delve into the complexities of chasing approval, confronting perfectionism as an armor of protection, and embracing the beauty of our imperfect journeys that are always right on time. In this episode you'll discover: *How our unseen rejection wounds shape everything we believe *That we are operating under a currency of confirmation bias: What we look for, we find *What it looks like to grieve the story you WISH you had *Why "resistance" is a truth teller *All the ways we abandon ourselves *Why belonging is wired right into us as humans for survival *Why the solution to rejection might in fact be MORE rejection *What we get so very WRONG about "Rejection is Redirection" *The importance of secure attachment and reparenting *and SO much more!

This week on The SHOW UP Season of The Mary Marantz Show, Mary sits down with Shannan Martin, author of Counterweights: An Essential Practice for Holding Hope in a Heavy World, to dive into showing up in the BOTH/AND of life… holding on to both the beauty and the horror of the world with both hands. The two talk about the power of community and practical ways to carry hope amid chaos. If you're feeling overwhelmed by the heaviness of the world, this episode if for YOU! In this Episode, you'll hear:

• Why poet Rainer Maria Rilke once said, ""Life is very singularly made to surprise us...where it does not utterly appall us."
• What it means to "carry the cosmos" without slipping into carrying the weight of the world
• The counterintuitive Theory of Balance that tells us to carry something hard… carry something equally heavy in the other hand.
• Why Shannan doesn't believe in chasing traditional "life balance" but instead embraces a push/pull approach inspired by Chef David Chang's interplay of complex flavors
• How strange it can be to buy flowers in a world on FIRE
• The MANDATE for Joy Shannan prescribes us as necessary to continue fighting for the cause of humanity
• Why the parable of the scattered seeds in the Gospel of Mark went from a "me" story to an "US" story for Shannan
• The reminder from Shannan's son that Jesus is the "God on the Ground" and what we have to learn from that.
• ...and seriously SO much more!

In this solo episode of The Mary Marantz Show, Mary explains an A-ha moment that changed everything for her… this realization that nonchalance is really just a SNEAKY sub-genre of procrastination. Drawing from her time in law school, Mary talks about those times when she wanted to turn around and go back rather than face down the Socratic method. We do that, don't we?

We get so afraid of failing, that we would rather not show up to our own lives at all present and accounted for... than risk showing up and getting it wrong. Than risk putting ourselves out there not knowing all the answers. So we swing to the OPPOSITE extreme. We still show up, but we pretend like we don't really care that much. Yea, yea… we're chasing that dream but if it doesn't work out, it doesn't work out. We begin to believe that if we reject the dream before it has a chance to reject us… then we'll never get our hearts broken. But all that ultimately leaves us with is… regret. Instead, we have to show up and have ZERO chill about the dreams we are building. That we GET to live a life like that. Even if that means we occasionally risk getting it wrong.

In this powerful episode of The Show Up Season of The Mary Marantz Show, Mary sits down with her dear friend, bestselling author and international speaker Antonio Neves, to talk about his latest book "The 1-Day Method: The Surprising Power of Winning One Day At a Time" and how it was born out of Antonio and his family losing their home and everything in it in the 2025 California wildfires. The two talk about how to stop living on autopilot, how to stop waiting on perfect to get started, and how to move forward one day at a time when life has put you in what feels like an impossible place. In this episode, you'll hear all about: * The Mathematics of Now: How most people get stuck in yesterday or tomorrow * What the Law of the Harvest has to do with how Chess Masters approach each tournament * Why your character KNOWS when you cut corners * How to WIN each day (which becomes your week, month and year) * The Power of doing LESS than we're capable of * Defining what will make this day MATTER * How we have to be counter-cultural to the complexity of these so-called "modern conveniences" *The PHYSICS of focus: your mind carries infinite possibilty but finite energy * The transformative power of closing loops * Why analog is the NEW luxury * … and SO much more!

In this solo episode of The Mary Marantz Show, Mary tells us to SHOW UP and DO the WORK.

Drawing on a recent Peloton ride where instructor Robin Arzon said "Your character knows when you cut corners," Mary does a deep dive into the cost of orginality, dealing with copycats & plagiarism, and what we get so very WRONG about "there is nothing new under the sun."

From there she builds into the TWO RULES she learned in academia (law school in particular) to create original work: 1) You have to survey the landscape to see what has already been said and then 2) You have to move the conversation forward in meaninful way.

Mary points to Harrison Ford's recent acceptance speech at his Lifetime Achievement Award at The SAG Actors and how he tells us how lucky he feels to STILL be doing the work over fifty years later. MOST people cut corners because they think it will get them to the goal faster. But it turns out the work IS the goal. The work is how we become someone WORTHY of celebrating.

To Join Launch Camp: https://tonicsiteshop.com/camp/?ref=marymarantz In this episode of the Mary Marantz Show, Mary sits down with Tonic's Jeffrey Shipley to discuss the theme of 'showing up' during challenging times. The two explore the complexities of navigating burnout, the pressure of perfectionism, and the journey of self-discovery that comes with acknowledging our own limitations. Jeff shares his personal experiences with anxiety and the importance of receiving help from others, emphasizing the need for collaboration and support in both personal and professional realms. The conversation highlights the ongoing struggle of balancing high expectations with the necessity of self-care and vulnerability. In this conversation, Mary and Jeff explore the importance of embracing help, setting boundaries, and navigating business challenges with transparency. They discuss the significance of learning from failures and the iterative process of entrepreneurship. The conversation culminates in the introduction of Launch Camp, a community-driven initiative aimed at helping creative entrepreneurs launch their personal brand projects effectively. Also, be sure to check out Jen's episode here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-do-less-better-a-marketing-masterclass-with/id1478272407?i=1000610532111 In this episode:

• Burnout often leads to a cycle of overcommitment and anxiety.
• Identity crises can arise when we feel we must always perform.
• Learning to receive help is a crucial part of personal growth.
• We must repeat lessons until they are fully learned.
• Setting boundaries often means disappointing people.
• Transparency in business fosters community and connection.
• Learning from failures is a vital part of growth.
• Data should be seen as neutral, not personal.
• Iteration is key in the creative process.
• Launching new ideas requires listening to customer feedback & co-creating

In this solo episode of The Mary Marantz Show, Mary talks about what it looks like to SHOW UP and co-create with your audience.

Most of us are so busy worrying about "What might go wrong?" that we forget to say, "Yea, but who might it help?"

So to help us do that, Mary pulls back the curtain on one of her very first videos in her signature Writing Course and allows us to listen in as she uses Stan Lee's Spiderman, Glossier, and Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson to illustrate the delicate balance between being TRUE to yourself… and SERVING your people (yes, even if you don't quite know who those people are yet!)

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In this episode of The Mary Marantz Show, host Mary Marantz sits down with Nathan Clarkson- an accomplished actor, author, and filmmaker- to discuss his new book "I'm the Worst." Nathan shares his experiences growing up in a prominent Christian family, the pressures of public perception, and the journey of embracing his true self amidst personal struggles. The conversation delves into themes of vulnerability, the dichotomy between public and private personas, the difference between living a "speck" life vs. a "plank" life, and the importance of facing one's darkness to find healing and true connection.In this episode, you'll discover:

• Why Freedom can be found by first admitting our Faults
• A story about G.K. Chesterton that will CHANGE what you think is wrong with the world
• The productivity that can be unleashed by leaning in to your "plank in my own eye" Era!
• The Superiority Bias that tells us "it's not me, it's YOU"
• What Dale Carnegie gets RIGHT about human nature, but WRONG about iron sharpening iron
• What the command to "go and sin no more" might really mean in a fallen world
• Impostor Syndrome already tells us we're the WORST… here's how to show up ANYWAY
• and SO much more!

Also be sure to check out Mary's episode on Nathan's podcast The Overthinkers: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/episode-136-underestimated-overthinking-and-showing/id1687839937?i=1000750303414

In this solo episode of The Mary Marantz Show, Mary talks about why one of Fear's favorite scripts is "What if ALL of this is just a WASTE of time?"

She explains that one of the most BRUTAL things about being an adult is that we start to develop this muscle memory for disappointment. We've been here before. We've tried that before. And it didn't work out. And how that instant sting of "let down" can turn into a chronic case of "give up" if we're not careful.

Connecting the dots between a viral post of hers that said "None of this will be wasted" and the new Rachel McAdams movie "Send Help," Mary sets out to show us how some of our greatest disappointments can immediately precede some of our biggest breakthroughs. And that us continuing to SHOW UP, even here in the wilderness, may very well become someone else's survival guide.

In this episode of The Mary Marantz Show, Mary sits down with Tanner Olson (of WrittentoSpeak fame!) to discuss his brand new book, Getting Through What You're Going Through!

The two explore themes of hope, grief, and the creative process. The conversation delves into the importance of radical acceptance, the challenges of writing, and the balance between excellence and consistency in creative endeavors. Tanner shares personal experiences of navigating life's difficulties and emphasizes the beauty found in the messiness of life and art. The episode concludes with insights on trusting the process and savoring every moment of our journey.

Register for Mary's Get Published Bootcamp Feb. 24th 12pm EST https://bit.ly/4azKSCD

Tanner's new book - Getting Through What You're Going Through: https://amzn.to/4rpGcGX

In this Episode, you'll discover:

• Why "radical acceptance" is the first step to change.
• Why Tanner says his stress (and ulcer!) was a symptom of PRIDE
• The Dunning Kruger Effect and why it's always the ones with the most talent who doubt themselves the most
• The difference between GOING through tough times vs. just GETTING through them
• The beauty found at the intersection of grief and joy
• REAL TALK about how the creative process often involves struggle and self-doubt.
• Consistency in sharing our work (not just creating it) is crucial for growth.
• Art reflects the messiness of life.
• Trusting the process is essential in creative endeavors.
• Why God is slow… until He ISN'T
• and SO much more!