Welcome back to the podcast, men! Today, we’re in our sixth episode of this, “Work as Unto the Lord” series. We’ve been looking to God’s Word to learn what that looks like practically.

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As followers of Jesus, the Gospel doesn’t just change our eternity. It changes everything for us, including our work.

Colossians 3:23 Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people.

Those who take this Biblical directive seriously will seek the respect of their colleagues for the quality and integrity of their work. This means having a track record of saying what we mean and doing what we say, following through on commitments every time, whether formal or informal, and being transparent and fair minded.

1. Many business ethics courses and books subtly argue that paying attention to the bottom line will force ethical and honest decisions in the long run. If you’re dishonest, it will hurt your reputation, which will lead to lower profits. Won’t there at least be some situations where the short term gains of an ethically questionable act will outweigh the risk?

Proverbs 11:1 The Lord detests the use of dishonest scales, but he delights in accurate weights.

Proverbs 11:11 Upright citizens are good for a city and make it prosper, but the talk of the wicked tears it apart.

1. We are to be honest, compassionate, and generous, not because these things are rewarding,(which they usually are), but because they are right in and of themselves - to do so honors the will of God and his design for human life. Sometimes that will put us at a disadvantage, as Bible scholar Bruce Waltke points out, the Bible says the definition of righteous people is that they disadvantage themselves to advantage others, while the wicked are willing to disadvantage the community to advantage themselves.

Work hard for the sake of working hard, not chasing. Not chasing wealth, power, validation, or significance

Knowing that all men are created in the image of God changes the way we view those in authority over us and those who work for us.

Ephesians 6:5-9 Slaves, obey your earthly masters with deep respect and fear. Serve them sincerely as you would serve Christ. 6 Try to please them all the time, not just when they are watching you. As slaves of Christ, do the will of God with all your heart. 7 Work with enthusiasm, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. 8 Remember that the Lord will reward each one of us for the good we do, whether we are slaves or free. 9 Masters, treat your slaves in the same way. Don’t threaten them; remember, you both have the same Master in heaven, and he has no favorites.

If slave owners are told they must not manage their workers in pride and through fear, how much more should this be true of employers. If slaves are told it’s possible to find satisfaction and meaning in their work, how much more should this be true of workers today?

1. Employees - serve with deep respect and fear, serve them sincerely as you would Christ

A different view of humanity

Are relationships a means to the end of accruing power, wealth, and comfort? Or is wealth creation a means to serve the end goal of loving others? One goes against the grain of the universe made by a triune God, and therefore it can not honor him or lead to human flourishing. The other is the paradigm of Christian work.

People vs. contacts - what can these contacts do for me? It’s even easy to measure congregants in terms of what they can do for the church in terms of service or finances.

Treating people with dignity in the midst of a layoff. Sometimes parts do need to be sacrificed for the good of the whole.

The Gospel gives us a new audience and new guidance. The Holy Spirit directs our choices and empowers us to work in a way that honors God.

A different source of guidance - wisdom is more than just obeying God’s ethical norms, it is knowing the right thing to do in the 80 percent of life’s decisions in which the moral rules don’t provide the clear answer.

When God’s gracious love becomes not an abstract doctrine but a living reality, it means our heart is less controlled by anxiety and pride, two powerful forces that constantly lead us to unwisely over or under react to situations. Second, we must know ourselves. Many bad decisions stem from an inability to know what we are and are not capable of accomplishing. The Gospel keeps us from over or underestimating our own abilities because it shows us both our sin and God’s love for us in Christ.

Matthew 6:25-27 That is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life—whether you have enough food and drink, or enough clothes to wear. Isn’t life more than food, and your body more than clothing? 26 Look at the birds. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, for your heavenly Father feeds them. And aren’t you far more valuable to him than they are? 27 Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?

31 So don’t worry about these things, saying, ‘What will we eat? What will we drink? What will we wear?’ 32 These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs. 33 Seek the Kingdom of God[e] above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need.

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Work takes up a massive portion of our lives. For most of us, it shapes our schedules, our identities, and often our sense of worth. That’s why Scripture has so much to say about it. The Bible doesn’t treat work as a necessary evil or a purely secular task. Instead, it invites us to see work through the lens of worship, purpose, and redemption. When our worldview is shaped by the gospel, it transforms not only why we work, but how we work.

One of the first ways work exposes our hearts is by revealing our idols. An idol isn’t just a statue or a false god—it’s anything we elevate above God or rely on to meet needs only He can fulfill. Work becomes an idol when it takes priority over obedience to God or becomes our source of identity, security, or meaning.

Exodus 20:4–5 (NLT) says, “You must not make for yourself an idol of any kind… You must not bow down to them or worship them, for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God.” While work is a good gift, good things often become the sneakiest idols. We justify them because they seem productive, responsible, or even virtuous. But when work dominates our thoughts, defines our value, or replaces trust in God’s provision, it has crossed a line.

Jesus speaks directly to this tension in Matthew 6:31–34 (NLT). “So don’t worry about these things… These things dominate the thoughts of unbelievers, but your heavenly Father already knows all your needs.” The issue isn’t thinking about work or provision—it’s what dominates our hearts. Scripture never calls us to escape the physical world. Ecclesiastes reminds us that enjoyment and satisfaction in work are gifts from God. But those gifts are meant to point us back to Him, not replace Him.

The gospel reshapes how we see work by reshaping our worldview. Every worldview answers three core questions: How are things supposed to be? What went wrong? And how can it be fixed? The biblical worldview uniquely answers all three relationally. We were created for relationship with God. Sin broke that relationship. And grace restores it through Jesus.

That framework changes everything about work. As Tim Keller explains, Christianity doesn’t locate the problem of the world in a specific group, system, or occupation—it locates it in sin itself. That means no job is inherently evil, and no field is beyond hope. God created the world good. Sin affected all of it. And God intends to redeem all of it.

Romans 8:19–22 (NLT) describes creation itself groaning for redemption. Our work exists inside that story. We labor in a broken world, but not a hopeless one. Even now, God is at work restoring what sin has damaged, and He invites us to participate.

That’s why believers shouldn’t compartmentalize work as separate from their faith. Work isn’t just something we do Monday through Friday while faith is reserved for Sunday. Ecclesiastes 9:10 (NLT) says, “Whatever you do, do well.” Excellence honors God—not because it earns His favor, but because it reflects His character.

God often provides for people through the work of others. Farmers grow food. Builders create shelter. Teachers shape minds. This is true whether the worker is a believer or not. That reality should deepen our respect for all work, not just “ministry” roles.

1 Peter 4:10–11 (NLT) reminds us that every gift is meant to serve others and bring glory to God. Whether we speak, build, design, manage, or serve, our work becomes worship when it’s done in dependence on God’s strength and for His glory.

A biblical worldview doesn’t minimize work or idolize it. Instead, it integrates work into God’s bigger story—creation, fall, redemption, and restoration. When we work as unto the Lord, we find freedom from idols, dignity in our labor, and hope that even ordinary work matters in God’s eternal plan.

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Working as Unto the Lord – Part 4: Thorns, Thistles, and a Better Name

Work is a universal human experience. Whether you love your job, tolerate it, or feel stuck in it, work shapes our schedules, identities, and sense of purpose. In this series, Working as Unto the Lord, we’ve been exploring what the Bible teaches about work—not just as a paycheck or obligation, but as something deeply connected to God’s design for humanity. In this fourth lesson, we face an honest truth: work is good, but it is also deeply frustrating. And that tension is not accidental.

From the beginning, work was part of God’s good creation. Adam was given responsibility in the garden before sin ever entered the world. Work itself is not the curse. But because of the fall, work no longer functions the way it was originally intended. What was meant to be joyful and productive is now marked by struggle, disappointment, and exhaustion.

Genesis 3:17–19 (NLT) describes this reality clearly. God tells Adam that the ground itself is cursed because of sin. Humanity will now scrape a living from the earth “by the sweat of your brow,” battling thorns and thistles along the way. Gardening becomes a picture of all human labor. No matter the field—business, education, medicine, manufacturing, or ministry—our work will include resistance, setbacks, and frustration. Even when it produces fruit, it rarely delivers the deep fulfillment we hope for.

This explains why work often feels discouraging. If every project succeeded, every relationship at work was healthy, and every effort paid off, we would love going to work every day. But that is not our reality. Because sin has distorted creation, work exists in a world sustained by God yet disordered by sin. This does not mean work is meaningless—but it does mean it is incomplete.

Ecclesiastes helps us live wisely in this tension. Ecclesiastes 2:24 (NLT) says, “There is nothing better than to enjoy food and drink and to find satisfaction in work. Then I realized that these pleasures are from the hand of God.” Work is still a gift, even when it’s frustrating. It teaches dependence on God and stirs our longing for the new heaven and new earth, where work will finally be free from futility.

Ecclesiastes 3:13 reinforces this truth: “People should eat and drink and enjoy the fruits of their labor, for these are gifts from God.” Satisfaction doesn’t come from perfect productivity but from receiving work as a gift rather than a god. God uses our work not only to provide but also to shape us—producing patience, faithfulness, self-control, and humility.

However, work becomes deeply discouraging when we expect it to give us ultimate meaning. Ecclesiastes 2:18–22 exposes the emptiness of working only for temporary and material gain. Everything we build will eventually be handed off to someone else, and we have no control over how it will be stewarded. When work is viewed only “under the sun,” it is fleeting—like vapor. It cannot secure our future hope or lasting joy.

Work also becomes dangerous when it turns inward. Genesis 11:1–4 tells the story of the Tower of Babel, where people worked together not to serve God or others, but to “make a name for ourselves.” In biblical language, making a name means constructing an identity. This temptation is especially strong when we tie our worth to our careers. Instead of serving our neighbor, work becomes a way to prove we matter.

But Scripture offers a better name. 1 John 3:1 (NLT) declares, “See how very much our Father loves us, for he calls us his children, and that is what we are!” Our identity is not earned through productivity or success. It is received by grace. We are sons and daughters of God, even on our worst days.

Esther 4:14 reminds us that God places us where we are for a purpose greater than ourselves. The question is not whether our work will make us famous, but whether we will use it to serve God’s interests rather than our own.

Work will always involve thorns and thistles in this life. But when done unto the Lord, it becomes a place of worship, service, and hope—pointing us toward the day when work will finally be everything it was meant to be.

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1 Thessalonians 5:16–18 (NLT) – “Always be joyful. Never stop praying. Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus.”

Gratitude is more than a feel-good idea—it’s a spiritual discipline that shapes our bodies, minds, and souls. Scripture teaches that cultivating a thankful heart honors God, but modern research now confirms what the Bible has been telling us for thousands of years: gratitude is good for you. It brings peace, lowers stress, and reorients your focus away from what’s broken toward what’s true and unshakeable.

And yet the Bible doesn’t command us to give thanks for all circumstances—but to give thanks in them. That distinction is everything. We don’t thank God for cancer, betrayal, loss, or heartbreak. Those things grieve God too. But we can thank Him in those moments because there are eternal truths that cannot be taken from us, no matter what life looks like.

This study explores why gratitude matters, how it forms us, and what unchanging realities we can cling to when life feels anything but good. Whether you’re on the mountain or in the valley, God invites you into a life anchored by His goodness, His love, and His unshakable promises.

Proverbs 14:30 teaches, “A peaceful heart leads to a healthy body.” Long before scientific journals existed, Scripture connected internal peace with physical well-being. Gratitude activates your parasympathetic nervous system, lowers blood pressure, improves sleep, and calms anxiety. A grateful heart is a peaceful heart—and peace is the opposite of jealousy, envy, and comparison. Gratitude fuels contentment; envy corrodes the soul.

Colossians 3:15 links peace and thankfulness: “Let the peace that comes from Christ rule in your hearts… And always be thankful.” Gratitude is not a soft discipline—it’s a spiritual weapon against the corrosive forces of comparison, entitlement, and discontent.

Paul’s command is famously difficult: “Give thanks in all circumstances.” Not for everything—but in everything. You don’t have to pretend evil is good or suffering is pleasant. You simply anchor your thankfulness in what remains true even when life falls apart.

We avoid the comparison trap not by saying, “At least I’m not as bad off as someone else,” but by remembering that God is sovereign, present, and working all things together for good. Gratitude is rooted in God’s character, not in our circumstances.

To be thankful in all circumstances, you must cling to what can never be taken from you. Scripture gives us several unchanging realities:

• You are made in God’s image.

Genesis 1:26–27 declares your inherent worth. You reflect your Creator. Your life matters.

• You are fearfully and wonderfully made.

Psalm 139:13–14 shows that God crafted you with intention. Your existence is purposeful and precious.

• God’s thoughts about you are countless and precious.

Psalm 139:17–18 says His thoughts toward you outnumber grains of sand. God is mindful of you—not occasionally, but constantly.

• God is good, and His love endures forever.

Psalm 136 repeats this truth 25 times. No matter what changes, His goodness and love do not.

• You have been reconciled to God through Christ.

Colossians 1:21–22 says you once stood alienated from God, but now stand holy, blameless, and free from accusation. Through Jesus, your record is wiped clean.

• Your suffering is temporary, but glory is eternal.

Romans 8:18 promises that present pain doesn’t compare to future glory. Jesus will return to make all things right.

These truths hold even when life feels like it’s falling apart. Gratitude doesn’t deny pain—it declares that pain doesn’t get the final word.

If you’re in a difficult season and struggling to be thankful, focus on what’s eternally true. Your circumstances may change, but God’s character, His love, and His promises never do. Gratitude grows when we anchor our hearts to what cannot be shaken.

Welcome back to the podcast! How do we glorify God through our everyday labor? Whether you’re in ministry, business, trades, or stay-at-home leadership, Scripture teaches that our work is one of the primary places we honor God. In this episode, we explore three essential marks of working as unto the Lord: gratitude, perspective, and integrity.

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Working “unto the Lord” begins with gratitude, not grumbling. Scripture commands us to rejoice, pray, and give thanks in all circumstances—including our 9-to-5.

1 Thessalonians 5:16-18 (NLT) calls us to persistent joy, continual prayer, and an attitude of gratitude. Instead of seeing work only as stress or obligation, faith teaches us to view it as a gift: the ability to earn, provide, and contribute.

Paul echoes this in Philippians 4:6-7 (NLT), urging us to bring every work anxiety to God with thanksgiving. Gratitude reshapes stress into trust.

Solomon affirms the goodness of labor:

Ecclesiastes 3:12-13 (NLT) and 5:18 (NLT) remind us that finding satisfaction in our work is a gift from God.

Healthy bodies, steady income, meaningful productivity—these are blessings worth thanking God for every single day.

Work is good, but work can also take God’s place when our ambition exceeds our devotion.

Jesus warns us to keep our loves properly ordered: Matthew 6:33 (NLT) calls us to seek God’s kingdom first, not as an afterthought once the job is done.

Good seasons can drift into unhealthy patterns. Long hours can slowly redefine identity, priorities, and relationships. Many men don’t notice the shift until someone close to them finally says something. Keeping work in its place begins with honest reflection:

Do I chase work more than I chase God?

Does my family get what’s left of me—or the best of me?

Working unto the Lord requires integrity, not shortcuts or hidden compromises. God takes honesty seriously:

Proverbs 11:1 (NLT) — “The Lord detests dishonest scales…”

Proverbs 20:23 (NLT) — “The Lord detests differing weights…”

God doesn’t just dislike dishonest business practices—He detests them.

Integrity means dealing fairly with customers, employers, team members, and vendors. It means no hidden fees, no loopholes, no cutting corners because “everyone else does it.”

Jesus rebuked religious leaders for manipulating oaths in Matthew 23:16-17 (NLT), exposing the heart behind deceptive commitments. Today, integrity touches things like expense reports, remote-work honesty, hours logged, pricing transparency, and truthful representation of services.

If our work is truly unto the Lord, then our ethics must reflect His character.

Working unto the Lord is a daily posture: gratitude, perspective, and integrity. When we get these right, our work becomes more than a paycheck—it becomes worship.

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Colossians 3:23-24 Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. 24 Remember that the Lord will give you an inheritance as your reward, and that the Master you are serving is Christ.

•  In the immediate context of this verse, Paul is instructing slaves on how they should work for their masters. It is applicable for any working relationship. What does that look like? How do we work as though we were working for the Lord? 
• I’m going to borrow heavily from scripture, but also from Tim Keller’s book, “Every Good Endeavor” 

It’s important that we start with the truth that we were created to work and be productive. Work isn’t a result of the fall.  If work was not beneath the Almighty God of the universe, it shouldn’t be beneath us. 

Genesis 2:1-3,15 So the creation of the heavens and the earth and everything in them was completed. 2 On the seventh day God had finished his work of creation, so he rested[a] from all his work. 3 And God blessed the seventh day and declared it holy, because it was the day when he rested from all his work of creation.  The Lord God placed the man in the Garden of Eden to tend and watch over it. 

• Keller: The Bible begins talking about work as soon as it begins talking about anything that’s how important and basic it is. God also brought the animals to Adam to be named. From the beginning, God invited man into partnership with him to steward his creation. 
• Keller: God worked for the sheer joy of it.Work could not have a more exalted inauguration. God not only works, he delights in it. He saw all that he made and it was good.  I think of all of us can relate to that when we finish a project and look at it. We take delight in it. Something as simple as changing out the tail light and fixing a battery cable. 
• Work is not a result of the fall, frustrating work is a result of the fall. We were created to work. It’s part of us being made in the image of God. 
• Think about this: the Bible doesn’t say we should work one day and rest 6. It doesn’t even split it 50/50. The pattern was six days of work to one day of rest. How does this stack up to our modern dream of retirement?  

The Bible points out the sin of laziness in multiple places. There is something about hard  work that resonates with a man because we were designed to be productive. 

Proverbs 10:4-5 Lazy people are soon poor; hard workers get rich. 5 A wise youth harvests in the summer, but one who sleeps during harvest is a disgrace.

Proverbs 10:26 Lazy people irritate their employers, like vinegar to the teeth or smoke in the eyes.

Proverbs 28:19 A hard worker has plenty of food, but a person who chases fantasies ends up in poverty.

• Part of working unto the Lord is doing the best we can.  It’s not taking shortcuts.  It’s giving the same effort when no one is watching as when the boss is looking over our shoulder. 

1 Timothy 5:8 But if someone does not provide for his own,[a] especially his own family, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.  (NET)

Keller - The  commandments  of God in the Bible are a means of liberation, because through them God calls us to be what he built us to be. 

Although work is good, there is a balance of work and rest.  There is a rhythm of leisure and toil. When balanced  properly, each one enhances the enjoyment of the other. 

Genesis 2:3 And God blessed the seventh day and declared it holy, because it was the day when he rested from all his work of creation.

• Did God rest because he was tired? Did he need to recover from fatigue? No. Now, because of sin, we do need restoration and times of recovery. Not just physically, but mentally and emotionally because work in a fallen world isn’t always fulfilling. It isn’t always productive.
• Being created in God’s image we can assume that rest is good and life giving for us in and of itself.

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Hey, men.  Today we’re going to talk about receiving criticism from our wives.  If you’re like me, your wife is often the last person that you want to give you criticism. I have pretty thick skin, but I can get all bent out of shape at the slightest criticism from my wife.  I think that’s because there is no one in the world that I want to respect me more than my wife. In Emerson Eggerichs’ book “Love and Respect - the Love She Desires; the Respect He Desperately Needs.”, he points out that what a man desires most from his wife is to feel respected.  It’s hard to feel respected when you’re being criticized.  It’s a knee jerk reaction to feel disrespected when someone points out a shortcoming or a flaw. I know some of you may be in a marriage where your wife’s criticism is anything but constructive.  I pray that God continues to strengthen you to keep fighting for your relationship if that is the case. But for most of us, our wife isn’t criticizing us because she wants to belittle us or tear us down. She genuinely wants the best for us.  

Responding well to healthy criticism from our wives can help us grow as a husband and father.  It demonstrates we’re teachable. This is not the same thing as being emasculated by constant criticism. We should seek to give our wives the benefit of the doubt, but it may also be helpful to call in a trusted spiritual leader for discernment. 

Proverbs 25:24  It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic  than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.

• Give your wife the benefit of the doubt.  Treat her criticism as something she is offering because she wants the best for you.  She hopes to motivate you. She wants to see you be the kind of husband and father God has called you to be.. 
• Ask her to be specific. Specific in ways that she sees need for improvement or change - 
• Vague - I don’t feel like a priority any more. 
• Specific - You’re coming home later and when you’re home, we rarely talk.  When you have time off, it is spent on your hobbies. Using “I feel because statements” can be very helpful here. 
• If you do feel like your wife constantly criticizes, call in some help.  Get a spiritual leader or trusted brother and sister in Christ to listen in and give you insight. Don’t turn it into a gripe session. Give your spouse advance notice that you’re going to do this.
• Honey, it seems like in the majority of our conversations, you’re criticizing me.  I know I’m not perfect, but it’s out of hand. I’m asking for some help because I’m committed to our marriage. I’m committed to you, but it’s wearing me out and I need some help. 
• Keep serving her.  Keep loving her like Christ loves the church. 
• Ultimately, you practice love or respect because beyond your spouse you see Jesus Christ and you envision a moment when you will be standing before Him at the final judgment, realizing that your marriage was really a tool and a test to deepen and demonstrate your love and your reverence for your Lord.”

― Emerson Eggerichs, Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs

Give your wife direction on how she can relay constructive criticism in a way that you’re more likely to receive it. 

• The right truth at the right time. Not in front of the kids, not out in public, not when emotions are high. 

Proverbs 25:11 Timely advice is lovely, like golden apples in a silver basket.

• Do you need affirmation along with the criticism? The three to one rule.  
• Is your primary love language words of affirmation?  If it is, a critical word might be ten times heavier for you than for someone who has a different primary love language.  
• Get clarity on action steps moving forward. 
• Those action steps should be measurable, specific, and realistic 
• Get an accountability partner, aside from your wife, to help you stick to the action steps. You don’t want your wife having to be the one to call you on the carpet if you’re not following through. 

God blessed us with our wives as our helpmate. He uses marriage to make us more holy and receiving feedback from our wife is part of that process. 

Proverbs 10:8  The wise are glad to be instructed, but babbling fools fall flat on their faces.

Proverbs 11:2  Pride leads to disgrace, but with humility comes wisdom.

Proverbs 12:1 To learn, you must love discipline;  it is stupid to hate correction.

Proverbs 13:13 People who despise advice are asking for trouble;  those who respect a command will succeed.

Proverbs 13:18 If you ignore criticism, you will end in poverty and disgrace;  if you accept correction, you will be honored.

• Thank God for a wife that wants you to lead. Thank God for a wife that desires to see you be more like Jesus. That is a blessing, not a burden. This shift in how you view your wife’s feedback will make a huge difference in how you receive it. 
• She sees the real you. She sees the you when you’re tired, when you’re stressed, when you’re hungry (or hangry). She sees the you that deals with disappointment. If you wonder why others don’t have the same feedback, they don’t see what she sees. 
• Driving in traffic example, critical nature when my kids played spots - most people never saw that, but my wife sure did.

Welcome back to the podcast! Have you ever prayed and felt like your words were just bouncing off the ceiling? Maybe you’ve been praying for healing, provision, or direction — something that seems completely in line with God’s will — and yet nothing happens. You start to wonder: Is God even listening?

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Why Is God Not Answering My Prayer?

The Bible reminds us that unanswered prayers don’t always mean unheard prayers. There are several reasons why we might feel like heaven is silent — and understanding them can deepen our faith and bring clarity to our prayer life.

Unconfessed sin and unhealthy attitudes can create distance between us and God. Psalm 66:18 says, “If I had not confessed the sin in my heart, the Lord would not have listened.” When we knowingly hold onto sin — pride, bitterness, lust, dishonesty — it affects our intimacy with God. Peter even tells husbands that mistreating their wives can hinder their prayers. 1 Peter 3:7.

If your prayers seem unanswered, start by asking God to reveal any habits or attitudes that might be blocking the connection. Then confess and invite accountability so you can walk in freedom again.

Faith is central to prayer. Jesus told His disciples that faith could move mountains. Mark 11:22-25. James warns that those who doubt are like waves tossed by the wind and “should not expect to receive anything from the Lord.” James 1:5-7.

That doesn’t mean you can never wrestle with questions — it means bringing those doubts to God, not away from Him. Like the father in Mark 9:24, we can pray, “I do believe, but help me overcome my unbelief!”

Sometimes the issue isn’t sin or lack of faith — it’s timing. God’s plans are wiser, broader, and better than ours. Isaiah reminds us that God’s thoughts and ways are higher than our own. Isaiah 55:8-9. What seems like a delay or a denial might actually be divine protection or preparation.

Think about Joseph, who was sold into slavery, falsely accused, and imprisoned before rising to power in Egypt. From his perspective, it must have felt like God was silent — but in hindsight, we see how every “no” or “not yet” led to a bigger purpose.

Even when it feels like nothing is happening, God is listening. James 5:16-18 reminds us that “the earnest prayer of a righteous person has great power and produces wonderful results.” Elijah’s prayers brought drought and rain, but it didn’t happen instantly. Prayer isn’t about manipulating outcomes — it’s about trusting God’s character.

So when your prayers feel like they’re “hitting the ceiling,” remember: God’s silence is not His absence. He may be testing your heart, building your faith, or aligning your desires with His. Keep trusting, keep praying, and keep believing that His plan is good — even when the answer is different than you expected.

“But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.”

Ephesians 5:3

We should be pure because God calls us to be. 

This is the mindset we need to pursue. It isn’t out of fear of consequences, hope for a better future, or anything else. It needs to be out of love and respect for God and his standards. But we will get into that more tomorrow.

The question for today is, what is purity? 

It is ensuring there is not even a hint of sexual immorality in our lives.

That is a pretty high standard, and it can feel daunting to achieve that especially if you have been living in this sin for a while. I know I felt like that was an impossible task when I started this journey. But then I learned something that changed everything:

This battle is not about what you do, it’s about who you are becoming.

Sexual purity isn’t just about avoiding porn or staying away from the wrong websites. That’s surface-level thinking. This journey isn’t about what you do—it’s about finally being the man God calls you to be. And God is calling you to become a man of honor, discipline, and integrity. Sexual purity is the byproduct of a life that belongs fully to Jesus.

The truth is, we live in a world that constantly puts sex in our faces—on our phones, in music, in ads, in movies. So living this new life will not be easy.

You are going to have to make some sacrifices that will hurt.

I know when I began this journey, two things were true:

1. I was ready to do whatever it took
2. I was sick of being lied to, by the enemy, by the world, and by myself

So I’m not going to do that to you. Here is the honest truth: somedays, this is gonna suck. It’s going to hurt like hell and there will be moments where you will think life was better before.

But remember how you feel right now, ready to be free. Purity is not a one time decision, it isn’t a one size fits all step by step guide, and it definitely isn’t a pay your way service. So what is it then?

Purity is a daily pursuit of God.

It is waking up everyday and deciding, just for today, to live for God and with God in every area of your life.

Half measures and white knuckling it will not work, but you already know that.

You can’t live in freedom if you're pretending you don’t need it.

Begin the Process of Becoming a New Man

Following Jesus means more than a one-time decision. It’s a daily process of surrender. Think of your heart like a house. Have you locked Jesus out of any rooms? Maybe there's a room marked “Lust” or “Shame” or “Private Struggles.” Jesus doesn't want visitation rights—He wants ownership.

“Look! I stand at the door and knock. If you hear my voice and open the door, I will come in...”

— Revelation 3:20 (NLT)

When Jesus knocks, He’s not just being polite. He’s coming to set you free. But freedom will require sacrifice, intensity, and honor. You won’t drift into purity—you’ll have to fight for it.

The 3 Rules to Start With:

No secrets.

1. You can't heal what you hide.
2. Be 100% honest all the time, no matter what

No compromise. What you allow in small amounts will master you over time.

1. In your allowed media, eye discipline, etc.
2. In your consistency

No excuses.

1. This is a battle of consistency, you won’t win it in a day, but you have to win today.
2. It’s time to be mature
3. You are in control, any other idea is a lie

The Key Disciplines to Embrace:

• Daily time in God’s Word – Truth renews your mind.
• Authentic brotherhood – You weren’t meant to fight alone.
• Radical honesty – Say it out loud. Darkness dies in the light.
• Prayer and worship – Not just in crisis, but as a lifestyle.
• Fasting and boundaries – Train your body to follow your

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