Ever found yourself pulling back when things get real?

At work, with clients, in relationships — you stay just close enough to keep things going, but never all in. You call it “playing it safe.” But underneath?

It’s the Withholder running an old mission.

In this episode, I’ll show you:

👉 Where the Withholder comes from (and why it’s not your fault).

👉 How he shows up as hesitation, breadcrumbing, and missed trust.

👉 Why fighting him only makes things worse.

👉 The tactical framework to step in as Commander and finally re-issue new orders.

This isn’t about “commitment issues” or being “cold.” It’s about outdated survival strategies bleeding into your life — costing you money, trust, and intimacy.

By the end, you’ll know how to spot the Withholder in real time — and how to replace silence with presence.

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Why do you freeze when you want something more? Why do you hold back at work, in love, or with family — even when you know what you want?

It’s not laziness. It’s not lack of confidence. It’s your nervous system running an old mission.

In this episode, I introduce you to Recon: The Scared-to-Want Soldier. He’s one of 16 “soldiers” inside my Internal Command System™ — each designed to protect you, but running outdated orders that keep you small.

Here’s what you’ll learn today:

✅ The real root cause behind hesitation and self-sabotage

✅ How Recon was created (and why it made sense at the time)

✅ The everyday ways Recon shows up in your work, love, and family life

✅ A simple Stoplight Framework to interrupt him and issue new orders

This is Part 1 of a 3-part series on the biggest soldiers running your life.

👉 Next week: The Withholder (relationships).

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Most people misunderstand boundaries. Either you avoid them completely and end up feeling taken for granted—or you go to the other extreme and cut people out the moment things get hard. Neither approach really works.

In this episode, I break down:

• Why boundaries can make you feel like the “bad guy” (and why that’s not true).

• The difference between healthy boundaries and ultimatums.

• Why your body reacts with stress the first time you enforce them.

• The most common mistakes people make when trying to “draw the line.”

• How to protect your peace without ruining connection.

If you’re tired of over-explaining, carrying more than your share, or feeling like the only way to get respect is to go it alone—this episode will help you set boundaries that feel clear, calm, and actually stick.

You think you “just snap” or “pick the wrong women”? That’s not random.
In this episode, I break down how your nervous system secretly decides who you’re attracted to, how you react under pressure, and why you keep repeating the same patterns in arguments and relationships.

You’ll learn:
• The body signal that tells you you’re about to blow up
• The difference between chaotic attraction and safe desire (and why most men confuse the two)
• How to rewire your reactions so you stay in control no matter the situation

Master your nervous system = master your relationships, career, and life.

Are you exhausted from saying “yes” when you really mean “no”?
In this episode of The Mind Madam Podcast, Elizabeth breaks down the truth about people-pleasing — why it’s NOT your personality (it’s a survival pattern), how it quietly shapes your relationships, and the real reason setting boundaries feels so uncomfortable at first.

You’ll learn:

• The hidden nervous system link behind people-pleasing

• Why overexplaining, guilt, and resentment are symptoms — not flaws

• How to stop abandoning yourself without swinging to “walls up” energy

• The micro-step to start saying “no” with peace, not panic

If you’ve ever thought “I’m so low maintenance” (but secretly resent it), this episode will help you reclaim your voice — without burning down your relationships.

Next episode: We dive deeper into your body’s role in breaking this pattern — and why your body isn’t sabotaging you… it’s protecting you.

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Most people think they need more willpower or motivation to get what they want. But the truth? Your identity runs the show. In this episode, we’ll break down why you keep sabotaging yourself, how your old story is holding you back, and what shifts to make so your actions finally match the life you want.

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I call it Trauma Bingo: ADHD, grief, burnout, separation, the universe handed me a full card.

But this isn’t just about my story.

It’s about what trauma teaches, how it shapes your patterns, and how to stop living on autopilot.

If your nervous system has ever made you feel like a failure… welcome to the club. Let’s talk about it.

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Ever had one thing go wrong in the morning, and suddenly your whole day feels cursed?

That’s not fate it’s confirmation bias doing its thing. In this episode, we’ll talk about how your brain filters reality through your mood, why that first five minutes matters more than you think, and simple ways to interrupt the spiral before it ruins your whole day.

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Think it’s just your personality? It’s not.
In this episode, we unpack the hidden patterns driving your choices, from your love life to your career, and why your nervous system keeps choosing what’s familiar (even when it sucks).
You’ll learn how to spot the autopilot code you didn’t even know was running… and what to do about it.

If you’ve ever said “Why does this keep happening?” this one’s for you.

Takeaways

• Most of what you think is your personality is not.
• Patterns are wired in by experience to make you feel safe.
• Your body runs protective patterns on autopilot.
• Changing external factors won't change your internal patterns.
• The fixer pattern can lead to unhealthy behaviors.
• Awareness of patterns gives you the choice to change.
• Your behaviors are survival strategies, not quirks.
• Your brain prioritizes survival over happiness.
• Recognizing your patterns is the first step to change.
• You're not broken; you're just a human.

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