It's promo season, and I've gotten roughly 1000 questions through nikhyl.ai—the pattern is unmistakable: people aren't just asking how to get promoted, they're asking whether the system is broken and whether they should quit over it. In this episode, we dissect five real questions from PMs who've been passed over. What becomes clear is the mistakes aren't in execution—they're in how people think about promotions in the first place. The tough reality is promotions are harder to get in this market. The question isn't whether you'll get promoted. It's how you respond when you don't.

Key topics

• Why promotions are harder now—and why that's not dysfunction

• The five-point framework for what to do when you don't get promoted

• The self-fulfilling prophecy that derails your career

• The one question that changes everything when you're passed over

• Why treating promotion as a game to win backfires

• The Peter Principle: why companies make you prove it before they promote you

• When "my career has flatlined" actually means you've hit the expected difficulty curve

• Why the skills that got you here won't get you there

• Why leadership might not be your destination—and that's okay

• The feedback gap: why your manager says you're great but leadership won't promote you

• Why leaving gas in the tank puts your career at risk

• Why you work for the company, not your manager

• What to do when your skip starts building a case against you

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Timestamps

(00:00) Why you're not being promoted

(03:42) Why promo season brings more angst than any other time of year

(04:57) Question 1: L5 at Google denied promotion twice—is this organizational dysfunction?

(06:22) Why assuming your company is broken becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy

(09:50) What to do when there's literally no next-level job in your location

(11:45) Question 2: Six years at my company, seven rounds of interviews—still passed over for Executive Director

(14:06) The Peter Principle: why companies make you demonstrate next-level skills first

(17:18) Why promotion as a game to win is dangerous thinking

(21:12) When you've hit the ceiling—and that might be okay

(24:41) What to avoid when being passed over

(26:48) Question 3: I'm on track for promotion but political meetings drain my energy

(27:57) When the next level isn't for you—finding companies where leadership looks different

(32:11) Question 4: Three years since my last promotion to PPM—has my career flatlined?

(32:58) Why the IC-to-leader skill gap takes years to close

(35:50) The soft skills problem: leadership presence can't be taught in a class

(36:56) Question 5: My skip is suddenly giving me feedback my manager never mentioned

(38:42) Why you should never leave gas in the tank

(43:30) You work for the company, not your manager—why that matters

(45:25) The five biggest mistakes to avoid when you don't get promoted

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