The Relationship Guy

Meet Joseph McGuire, the owner of Clearsight Communications, a Behavioural Negotiation Consultancy. Clearsight provides you with a means to accurately and precisely read non-verbal cues in real-time to ensure clear communication and enable you to build exceptional relationships. Their services provide a range of options to help you gain impact, trust and respect in all your relationships, professional and personal.
Joseph and John discuss how these techniques work, and how they can be utilised in the area of personal relationships. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Joseph has been learning the ancient art of face-reading since 1985 and has combined this with FBI techniques for reading body language during negotiation. 
• We can tell a lot about a person’s communication style, stress triggers and responses, personality traits and history using these techniques by studying someone’s face.
• During negotiation it is important to read the room in real time but also stay on plan and stay calm at all times also.
• We all have habitual, perhaps stress based responses to situations which may not be the best option for the negotiation or situation we are in. If we can learn to pause and examine our responses before we react, we can make calmer more informed decisions.
• Public speaking is the most common fear amongst people. 

BEST MOMENTS
‘I learnt that in China they’ve been using it in business and politics for at least 3000 years.’-Joseph
‘For example, my right side reveals the influence of my mother, genetically and otherwise, and the left is the fathers side. Then there is the merge between the two and that makes us the individual we are.’-Joseph
‘It’s amazing how you can do that by helping people just to read others. It would great if we could all read other people and take the time out and didn’t feel that we need to be in our own space, maybe a defensive space.’-John
‘The reality is none of us would be here if our ancestors had found a way to get on together, to collaborate, to come together.’-Joseph
‘Many of the people I’ve met over the last 2-3 years are certainly having very open conversations and that’s almost been from the get-go.’-Joseph 

GUEST RESOURCES
Links: https://clearsightcommunications.com/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/clearsightcommunications/ https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCU3OmzwBLYFjwgAloLv8jpA

VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy 

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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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John chats with Dr Veronica Anderson, an Intuitive Guide and Relationship Coach. Dr Veronica Anderson leverages Human Design and Energy Readings to reveal your authentic self, deliver transformational clarity, and empower high-achieving women to thrive both personally and professionally.

She leverages her background as a licensed physician, practising psychic, and Kolbe Certified™ Consultant to deliver meaningful insight surrounding your health, relationships, career, and beyond. In turn, she offers a way forward through seemingly impassable obstacles, leaning on intuition to help you achieve your lifelong aspirations.

In this episode John and Veronica discuss how to improve all types of relationships, both personal and business, utilising all areas of human experience including intuition and spirituality. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS 

• Through her experience with burnout, Veronica left behind her medical career to concentrate on her Relationship Coaching utilising her intuitive abilities.
• The relationship guidance that Veronica offers also can be applied to help form high-performing teams for business settings.
• Reflecting on the fact that you are responsible for the position you are in is the first step.
• When you are in a relationship with someone it is important to understand your own spiritual perspective as well as theirs.

BEST MOMENTS

‘I loved dealing with and helping my patients, I hated the business of medicine. But also just running around all day every day was not my particular energy.’-Veronica

‘That’s one of the hardest things to do, I think, is to look at yourself.’-John

‘I like to jump off the ledge. I like to do, then ask questions.’-Veronica

‘Everybody that you come across is in your soul journey and meant to teach you something and your romantic relationship is the closest in and so it’s going to be a crucible, the nature of it.’-Veronica

‘I had moulded myself into what I thought he would find pleasing. Because isn’t that what we’re taught to do?’-Veronica

GUEST RESOURCES

 https://drveronica.com/

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno

Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)

To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

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ABOUT THE HOST

 

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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Hugs and kisses can sometimes be socially awkward for some less comfortable with human contact, but John points out the connective nature of touch and how for most of us it can not only help form and maintain a secure relationship but also keep us healthy and connected to the wider community. 

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• It is through touch that we can experience the deepest forms of human connection, intimacy and trust. 
• Physical contact plays a crucial role in our development, social connection, communication, health and well-being.
• Human touch allows for the communication of a wide range of emotions including support, compassion and empathy without the need for words.
• Consent is key to receiving any benefit from touch-based communication.

 

BEST MOMENTS

‘One of the reasons for allowing people to be closer to you is the significance of human touch itself. We saw the fallout of this for some people during the pandemic when we weren’t supposed to get close to anyone.’ 

‘The results showed that by having their hand held even by a stranger lowered the stress response significantly in the brain when compared to no one holding their hand at all.’

‘Incorporate as much as possible into your daily life being aware of respecting cultural and personal norms when it comes to touch and make it a positive and consensual experience.’ 

 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno

Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)

To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy 

 

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ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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John interviews New York-based Actor, Recording Artist, Film Producer, Director, Writer and New York Press Columnist Stephanie Sellars. She is the Artistic Director and Founder of Immortality Productions LLC and with her latest film release ‘Lust Life Love’, Stephanie tells a love story examining the nature of polyamory and the difficulties in finding a relationship within the frantic and busy setting of New York City.
John and Stephanie discuss non-monogamous relationships, what polyamory means, the benefits of polyamory, and the communication skills needed to make the relationship successful.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Stephanie is experienced in writing about taboo subjects and having honest discussions about her relationships. 
• Polyamory is engagement in multiple romantic and sexual relationships with everyone’s consent.
• Polyamory acknowledges that we are attracted to more than one person at a time throughout our lives and allows us to be open and honest about it.
• Non-monogamous relationships can come in a myriad of forms so honest communication between all parties is paramount throughout. 

BEST MOMENTS
‘I wrote about my experiences with non-monogamy as a very personal column. Some people have compared it to Sex in The City, an edgier Sex in The City.’-Stephanie
‘A lot of relationships are complex at the best of times with only two people involved. What do you see as the benefits of a polyamorous relationship?’-John
‘(Polyamory) magnifies the need for trust and communication, all the skills that you need in monogamy as well. It forces you to be more accountable, to know yourself and your own boundaries.’-Stephanie
‘If it becomes challenging in the couple you can seek out a therapist or relationship coach such as yourself. There are people that actually specialise in polyamory coaching.’-Stephanie 

GUEST RESOURCES
www.LustLifeLove.com
https://www.facebook.com/LustLifeLoveMovie
Instagram: @the_stephaniesellars - @lust_life_love_movie 

VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy 
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ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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Patti Oskvarek has over 25 years of experience as a supervisor and business leader. She inspires others to pursue their passions in life through their relationships, careers, business, and leadership development. As a multiple author and podcast host, Patti became a Professional Coach and Reiki practitioner to help people follow their hearts, use their talents, and live purposeful, balanced and fulfilling lives, making her coaching and Reiki Therapy unique and inspiring.
John and Patti discuss how a chance meeting facilitated her move into coaching, the importance of listening at work, self-care, work life balance, and life after work.  

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• A coach provides a healthy advisor to prevent the toxicities and over reactions often so prevalent in the workplace.  
• It is very important to commit time for self care that works for you. 
• Listening to others' points of view and understanding them and clearly explaining your position is important as a leader.
• Security and stability is important to most people but can confine people in careers in which they feel unfulfilled. Taking a close look at other options and making the leap can be very worthwhile.

BEST MOMENTS
‘I felt if I had a coach during my career as a manager and supervisor, what a difference that would have made, how my career and how my relationships with others would have probably excelled.’-Patti
‘I find people bring all this baggage with them, they’ve got issues going on here, there and everywhere and a lot of the time the issues that we have at work aren’t anything to do with work at all.’-John
‘The things that are important to you, you need to schedule those in because if you don’t everything else is going to be there but there will be no time for what is truly important.’-Patti
‘If you can journal about what happened, come up with solutions for it. Say, yes I made a mistake. I'm not going to do this again, how can I correct it? If you need to apologise to someone, apologise.’-Patti 

GUEST RESOURCES
Email: [email protected]
Website: www.CoachingforInspirationwithPatti.com
Youtube channel: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCLXTGfZ1hZqGaKJ24hfnyWA
Building Better Relationships at Home & Work with Angela and Patti Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4rVQIdCNrMoU3gRhZsvLt9
Online course - https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com/on-line-courses-by-coaching-for-inspiration-with-patti/
21-Days Optimal Work-Life Balance Program - https://coachingforinspirationwithpatti.com

VALUABLE RESOURCES
Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy 

ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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John explains the stages and reactions to dealing with the loss of a relationship. Many have residual beliefs, emotions and resentments that can make finding and forming a new relationship difficult, but understanding these reactions to past experiences can help you move through or circumvent them. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• The reaction to the loss of a relationship can easily be as serious as a bereavement. The seven stages of grief can still fully apply.
• If you are willing to examine what happened with the loss of the relationship and look at how you can move forwards you can survive and even thrive. 
• Once past the stages of grief, you reach acceptance. You can see the relationship more objectively and with an open mind and examine the circumstances that caused its failure and learn valuable lessons.
• Do not self-blame but knowing where you were responsible can help you be more forgiving and help you understand the role you play in your next relationship. 

BEST MOMENTS

‘Some may have coping mechanisms in place that mean they just shut down and move on either with someone else or just by shutting everything away.’

‘There is evidence that forgiveness may not only allow you to let go of a lot of the pain that you may be experiencing but is helpful for your own peace of mind.’

‘You allow all that has passed to be in the past and set your sights on a new future.’

‘With my coach, that was the first question they asked me when I separated from my ex-wife; ‘What was your role in why this relationship didn’t work?’’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy 

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

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LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

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John speaks to Kira Markoff (LCSW-C,CCTP,YTT200) owner and operator of Connections Mind-Body Wellness, author, yoga, social work, mental health therapy and well-being expert. Kira is passionate about learning and then transforming what she has learned into something that she can share with others through Connections and her book ‘Mindfulness and Me: A Practical Guide for Living’. She hopes to bring peace, hope and positive change to as many as possible with practical applications of meditation, yoga practices and mindfulness as a method of empowerment. 

John and Kira discuss the main skill set required for successful relationships, the true power of mindfulness, the considerable components of mindfulness within relationships, the important factors to be actioned first and providing children with good guidance on relationships early. 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Two of the skill sets that are most predictive of success in a romantic relationship are partner responsiveness and emotion regulation. 
• Knowing your partner’s responses, sensitivities and when is a good time to communicate can improve smooth communication. 
• The five components of mindfulness are observation, description, awareness, being non-reactive and non-judgmental.
• Feeling safe is the most important and actionable need to be considered.

BEST MOMENTS

‘They talk a lot about the word attunement which is just being able to hold space, listen to your partner and hear the needs and the emotions underneath of what they’re saying.’-Kira 

‘We have reactions, everybody has reactions, we can’t stop it. Honestly, the more you try the bigger they get because you’ve been holding them back.’-Kira

‘That’s what we are hoping for, that wanting to engage in a space where you are able to offer something of yourself to make your partner feel better rather than worrying about how you’re feeling.’-John

‘It’s almost never just about the shoes on the floor. Most people are able to say objectively that that is not a big deal.’-Kira

‘From an early age I didn’t have the words to describe it the way I’m describing it to you now but I knew the kind of people that I wanted to be around.’-Kira 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com
The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy 

ABOUT THE HOST
I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

Facebook – https://www.facebook.com/johnkennycoaching

LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

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Welcome to the 100th episode of The Relationship Guy! John revisits a recurring thread that has been referred to throughout the past 99 episodes and is an intrinsic part of John’s six-part course, The Six Things You Need to Know in Order to Attract a Healthy, Loving Relationship, Attachment Styles and how they can make a major positive impact on your life.

Refresh yourself on Attachment Styles and become aware of one of the most effective ways to understand how you relate to your partner and how they relate to you.  

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• We fall into two attachment types in general, secure and insecure. 
• Your attachment style develops in your early childhood and then is reinforced throughout your life depending on your relationship experiences. 
• The 4 definable attachment styles are Anxious, Avoidant, Disorganised and Secure.
• By matching and understanding compatible attachment styles we can attract the type of relationship that will prove to be most successful for ourselves. 

BEST MOMENTS

‘It impacts on your life in so many other ways if it’s not understood and addressed. It can stop you finding the right kind of relationship, it will keep you stuck in the wrong types of relationship, it can make you self-sabotage in other areas of your life because you don’t understand how it is stopping you from living the life that you want.’

‘Secure people are rarely going to look for a relationship with somebody that’s insecure. It’s not to say that they don’t but they also won’t stay in that relationship for very long if it’s too difficult because they are used to the healthy type relationship.’

‘When two anxious people get together you will probably notice them as the couple that are arguing all the time, they like to scream and shout at each other a lot then they make up and it’s all ok, but they like a bit of chaos between them.’  

‘It’s a fascinating topic. It explains a lot about how and why we do relationships the way that we do.’

VALUABLE RESOURCES

Find out your own attachment style here:

https://john-2e6mdruf.scoreapp.com

Find out more about my six week online and online plus course here:

www.johnkennycoaching.com/get-relationship-ready

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy 

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

CONTACT METHOD

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LinkedIn – https://www.linkedin.com/in/john-kenny-coaching

Insta – https://www.instagram.com/johnkennycoaching/

Twitter – https://www.twitter.com/johnkennycoach}

YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCHTj9x6Tlo7lcIJITyx-tgQ

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Due to the complexity of relationships and the danger of over-attachment, many are often unaware that their relationship is unsatisfactory. The signs that you are not happy are often ignored or unnoticed because of your pace of life or your desire to stay within a relationship to avoid upsetting others that are reliant upon it. John describes a few of these signs to watch out for so you can make an informed decision moving forward.   

KEY TAKEAWAYS

• Watch out for breakdowns in communication. Good communication is essential in a healthy relationship. 
• Make sure you are not using denial as an avoidance strategy. You may just be providing an image for others to see or possibly for yourself to see.
• You or your partner may constantly criticise. This is a sign of a resentful relationship. 
• Projection onto others of your unhappiness may well be a way of you coping as you may feel more comfortable shifting focus from your issues.
• Difficult intimacy may pinpoint problems between you. You may be avoiding being alone together or creating blocks to spending time.
• Unconscious or conscious compartmentalisation of your life to protect yourself or other sections from an unsatisfactory relationship can be a coping strategy to avoid confronting your unhappiness.  

BEST MOMENTS

‘Communication is one of the biggest issues in relationships when they aren’t working out and as I have likely said on many podcasts and has been said many times by my guests, this is an essential in relationships.’

‘On the whole, denial will make things a whole lot more difficult and things will just escalate and bite you on the bum when you least expect it.’

‘This means that you are able to keep your own unhappiness at arms length and it’s no longer you that has the problem as the problem is theirs.’

‘Feeling appreciated and valued by your partner is another essential of the relationship.

‘Maybe you are changing and they aren’t on the same journey as you any longer or no matter how much you communicate and try to work on this journey together it seems that you are drifting further apart.’ 

VALUABLE RESOURCESLinks: www.johnkennycoaching.com

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno
Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)
To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer
Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min
The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy 

ABOUT THE HOST

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.
Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

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Cinthia Hiett has been practising for the past thirty years, specialising in life coaching, family relations, personality inventories, image consulting, public speaking and conflict resolution. Also, an experienced Radio Host, Podcaster and Author, Cinthia helps you become not the person others expect you to be, not the person you thought you should be, but the unique, joyful person you were made to be and she achieves all of this from a Christian perspective. Accessible to all, Cinthia's faith-based approach is not only helpful to those who share similar beliefs to her own but also to those who are grounded in their own views.

Cinthia and John discuss her education and upbringing, her introduction to counselling, her work with organisations, family life and influence, adoption, and her new book ‘War to Peace: Keeping Relationships from Going Nuclear’. 

 

KEY TAKEAWAYS

 

• Cinthia was introduced to counselling through treatment of a severe eating disorder when she realised she has an affinity for insight and understanding. 
• While working with organisations Cinthia teaches them how to reorganise their staff to ensure they are all in the most suitable positions.
• Cinthia was adopted and believes you can decide what you want to be by using the strengths of your DNA to your best advantage. 
• You have one life and it belongs to you. Your beginning in life does not dictate its journey or its end. 
• Cinthia’s new book ‘War to Peace: Keeping Relationships from Going Nuclear’ addresses our modern losses in the new technological age and our lack of grounding and informs people of what works in relationships.  

 

BEST MOMENTS

 

‘I originally was not interested in psychology or education. My poor parents, you know, they’re highly educated people and they kept saying ‘what about your education?’ and I kept saying ‘I don’t need an education I’m gonna be a rock star!’’-Cinthia

‘I was the Pastor in the sorority so everybody would come and talk to me about their problems.’-Cinthia

‘Adopted families, they’re tough because there’s a lot of information that you would assume you have and you don’t have it. You’re going to have to find your own way in some ways.’-Cinthia

‘That take that you’ve got on adoption. A lot of the clients that I have worked with in the past have been adopted and it’s been a very different space where they’ve felt a little bit more lost or hard done by because they’ve never known their biological parents.’-John

‘I really had this book focus on the nuts and bolts of things that we’ve lost along the years. Things that were just natural, like being polite.’-Cinthia 

 

VALUABLE RESOURCES

 

Links: www.johnkennycoaching.com

The Bicycle Affect: https://youtu.be/oO7XZGvdWno

Relationship Video course and 1-2-1 coaching: Relationship Ready Online Programme - John Kenny (johnkennycoaching.com)

To get in touch - email – [email protected] or book a complimentary call –https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

If people want to order a copy of the book then they can just pay postage of £4.95 (RRP £8.99) - www.johnkennycoaching.com/podcast-book-offer

Want to be able to address the relationship issues in your life? - Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you can get the new started with some new types of relationships - https://calendly.com/johnkennycoaching/30min

The Relationship Guy Podcast - https://omny.fm/shows/the-relationship-guy 

 

ABOUT THE HOST

 

I am John Kenny, Award Winning Relationship Coach.

Coaching people to experience healthy loving relationships. Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.

 

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Clubhouse - @relationshipguy

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