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Somebody dies, or something awful happens, and sooner or later somebody will ask if you've got closure yet. Like it's a certificate. So this week I look at where that word actually came from, which is not psychology, and why it contradicts itself, and why the fact that you're still carrying something years later isn't a fault. It's just what humans do.

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This week I'm looking at Radical Acceptance, where it comes from, what the word radical actually means, and why letting go of the fight with reality isn't the same as giving up. 

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Today I'm talking about a phrase that gets said to people all the time, usually by someone who loves them, and it's meant as a criticism even though it's usually evidence that something's gone RIGHT.

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This week I'm talking about compulsive lying, and why the picture most of us have of it, someone cold and calculating who's worked out exactly what story gets them what they want, is usually wrong. Most compulsive lying isn't strategic at all. It's automatic, it's fast, and often the person doing it couldn't tell you why they said it either.

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Does venting your frustrations make you feel better?
Turns out, not so much. No.
So what we can we do instead?

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Is laughter the best medicine?

Maybe not, but it's better than nothing!

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Empty nest syndrome is one of those things people feel a bit embarrassed to admit to. Your child leaving home is meant to be a success story, so why does the house suddenly feel so wrong? In this episode I look at what's really going on when the nest empties, why it's grief rather than a disorder, what your attachment system is up to when you're still listening for the front door at 11pm, and why the research on what happens next is far more optimistic than you might expect.

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Infidelity is one of those topics that gets talked about constantly but almost never honestly. The public conversation tends to collapse into judgment or defence, and neither actually helps anyone understand what's going on.

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Following on from last week I'm going into why some neurodiversity isn't genetic. How childhood trauma can shape a brain in ways that look a lot like neurodivergence and why so many people get handed the wrong diagnosis.

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Why is it so much easier to sort out a friend's messy cupboard than my own?

This month I'm getting into overwhelm and executive dysfunction, specifically the pile that's been sat on the chair for 3 weeks, the drawer that only opens halfway, and the shame that builds up around it.

I break down what executive function actually is, why clutter turns into hundreds of tiny decisions your brain just can't process when it's already running on empty, and the 4 reasons it's so much easier to be decisive with someone else's stuff than your own.

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