Do you want more PASSION in your relationship? How about in the bedroom? Who doesn't? Jess has some very specific tips for you. First, she breaks down the science (it’s simple & essential to understand the chemistry of love first) and then she shares some of her favourite tips for (re)igniting the spark.

For more info, check out these handouts!

Rough Transcript:

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The Science of Passionate Relationships

Participant #1:

Well, Hello there. This is your friendly neighborhood sexologist. Jessica O'Reilly of Sex with Dr. Jess, and I have been absent for some time, and I have to apologize. I have been traveling from country to country. I was in four Asian countries over the course of eight days. I was in the States, I was in the Caribbean working my butt off, and I've fallen behind. And what I've learned so far from my very brief entry into the podcasting world is that it is very easy to start a podcast, and it is quite the challenge to keep it going. But I really do enjoy recording these podcasts and getting your feedback and hearing from you. So I want to keep it going, even though I've definitely let you down over the last few weeks. I am sure your life has been just amazing, but with this deep, dark black hole without my podcast, no, I am sure you have survived anyhow I am back. Happy to be back. I'm in Toronto today just for a couple days before I head back on the road heading to Portugal. And today I want to talk about one of my favorite topics, probably one of the most important theories you can understand about passion in relationships, how to have more passionate relationships from the boardroom to the bedroom. And this is the core of a lot of the work that I am doing on the road. So yeah, I'm a sexologist. I talk about the sex once in a while. I have the sex. But really, we spend most of our time talking about relationships and passion because sex is easy. As I always say, a monkey can do the techniques. But how do you stay with someone and like them enough to still want to do it after years and years of being together, of marriage or relationships. So in terms of passion, in terms of injecting passion into your relationship, I have some very specific strategies for you, and I also have a handout that you can download as well from my website, Sex withdoctorjet. Com and the podcast page. And these strategies, I'm going to share them with you today. But of course, there are dozens and dozens more.

These strategies are rooted in science and really totally doable. Some only take a minute and they make a difference. But before we get into the specifics of how to reignite passion in your relationships first, we need to understand the science of passion and passionate love, because love is a science from a chemical perspective, it's not an art. It really is a scientific neurological process. You know, when you first meet someone and you're into them, you want a piece of them, you want to see them, you want to touch them, you just want to get your claws into them. You want them naked and waiting and ready for you. And it is a powerful feeling, and you are just wild about them. And you like everything about them. You know that feeling, but then you get to know them. Ha ha ha. Yes. And inevitably, after you get to know them, that desire shifts, the love changes. And that's because there are two distinct phases involved in love. The first passionate love, that phase I just described is full of intensity. And then the second phase, companion or attachment love follows.