Dating isn’t just about having chemistry or “vibes”—it’s actually data. 

In this eye-opening episode of Awf The Record, dating and relationship expert Anwar White joins Jeannette and Mona to break down the real numbers behind modern dating—and why Black and Brown women need a different playbook.

From match rates to money, Anwar exposes the hard truths about dating in today’s age: how systemic issues impact your love life, why marriage isn’t always a financial win for Black women, and what the data actually says about dating success. But this isn’t about discouragement—it’s about empowerment.

He dives into why dating outside your race isn’t betrayal, it’s strategy. Why setting boundaries is non-negotiable. And why the real glow-up starts with emotional healing and self-worth.

If you’re ready to stop guessing and start dating with clarity and confidence, this one’s for you.

KEY POINTS

- Dating: qualitative and quantitative analysis 

- Navigating dating journeys for black and brown women 

- Transitioning to dating coaching as a career 

- Challenges and misconceptions in dating (as women) 

- The societal pressure, setting realistic standards

- Difference between feminine and masculine energy 

- Strategies for successful dating 

- On navigating cultural and racial preferences 

- Is using dating apps still effective? 

- Dating 101: Set boundaries and timeline 

- Anwar’s client approach as a dating coach 

QUOTES 

“Your type is your trauma. And when you're able to actually heal the trauma, you will have the opportunity to actually widen your net and find your person.” – Anwar White

“If a man is truly in his masculine, his pleasure is derived from your pleasure.”  – Anwar White

“I don't believe in potential. I think potential is not real, it's imaginary, [and] it's a projection of what you want, but not what is.”  – Anwar White

“You become irresistible when you become irresistible to yourself, which is like, you just can't get enough of you, and that will radiate and attract everyone.”  – Anwar White

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Anwar White

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