In this episode, Lisa and Kristina discuss:

• Strategies for striking the balance between parental involvement and teen independence.
• How to listen to and validate your teen's aspirations before giving advice. 
• Why parents need to have honest discussions about their college budget and their financial realities. 
• The importance of highlighting your student’s voice and ownership during the application process.

Key Takeaways: 

• You do not want to project your experiences, achievements, or failures on your student. They need to live their independent life, not your life vicariously. 
• If you believe your teen is wrong, you can still validate and empathize with them before redirecting them to more constructive thoughts and behavior.
• It’s possible to help your students see the throughlines of their desires by asking why, without telling them your thoughts.
• There are ways for you to talk to your student about college budget and finances without them knowing every detail of how much you make.
• While the journey is the student’s it’s still possible for the parent to play an important, supportive role. 

 
“Support has to be authentic and genuine from the parent, meaning if you're going to support your child in terms of their life, their outcomes, all those things, they have to feel that it's true.” – Kristina Dooley

About Kristina Dooley: Kristina L. Dooley is a Certified Educational Planner (CEP) and founder of Estrela Consulting, an Ohio-based independent educational consulting firm. Kristina has more than 20 years of experience working with students from around the world, navigating the complex college and school search processes. A first-generation college student, she graduated from Hiram College (B.A.) and Kent State University (M.A.). 

In addition to her work with students, Kristina is an instructor for the University of California Irvine teaching College Consulting Resources, and also serves as a faculty member of the IECA Summer Training Institute for aspiring educational consultants. 

Kristina is the Past President of the Independent Educational Consultants Association (IECA), and holds membership in AICEP, NACAC, and the Ohio and International Associations for College Admission Counseling (OACAC & IACAC).  In her free time, Kristina volunteers for Beyond Type 1 and JDRF, and serves as a mentor for College Now Greater Cleveland. She resides in Northeast Ohio with her husband and their 13-year-old triplets. 

Episode References:
Free Video: How to guide your teen to choose the right major, college, & career flourishcoachingco.com/course 
#048 Building Motivation & Stress Tolerance for Happy Teens with Ned Johnson  
#062 Gap Year: Is it a better freshmen start?  
#013 The Many Advantages of a Gap Year with Holly Bull 

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