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Why is it so hard to leave a #toxicrelationship? Begin your #healingjourney with #emotionalhealing, and start understanding #emotional abuse. Recognize the impact of #cptsd in your #relationships and prioritize #traumahealing

Watch the Reclaiming You Series on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLd1I9HPzgE9cNx7qqKXmpZ6kuZBwhK-5T

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Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.

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You’ve read the books. You’ve listened to the podcasts. You understand narcissistic abuse, trauma, CPTSD, boundaries, and self-worth. But somehow, you still feel stuck — aware but disconnected.

This episode reveals why: Because awareness isn’t the same as embodiment.

Welcome to Phase 4: The Reclamation — the most overlooked, most transformative step in the healing journey after narcissistic abuse. This is where all the insight and awareness you’ve gathered finally move from your head into your body. This is where you stop knowing who you are and start living as her.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

- Why smart, high-functioning women and even therapists get stuck here

- How dissociation hides the missing step between awakening and embodiment

- What it means to rebuild self-trust at the nervous-system level

- How to tell the difference between vacancy (emotional numbness) and peace (regulated safety)

- How to set boundaries that expand you instead of just protect you

- Why awareness without action keeps you repeating old patterns in prettier packaging

- Practical ways to reconnect with your intuition and practice embodied truth daily

This episode is for you if:

- You understand everything about narcissistic abuse, but still feel disconnected from your body or voice

- You’ve been “doing the work” but can’t figure out why you’re still anxious, lonely, or unfulfilled

- You’re a therapist, healer, or high-capacity woman who supports everyone else but feels empty yourself

- You’re ready to stop talking about healing and start living it

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Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.

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You’re not “going back to who you were.” You’re meeting yourself for the first time. After years of chaos (Phase 1: The Shattering) and the numb quiet of (Phase 2: The Void), Phase 3 is where small sparks return—preferences, opinions, sensations—and your voice begins to form. It’s tender, thrilling, and scary… and totally normal.

In this episode, I’ll help you understand why guilt shows up when you speak, how to tell vacancy from true peace, and what it looks like to set boundaries without collapsing into people-pleasing or overcorrecting into armor.

What you’ll learn

Why extreme guilt appears when you first use your voice (it’s a nervous-system pattern, not a personality flaw)

The shift from fawning → authenticity, and how to ride the waves without backsliding

Vacancy vs. Peace: how to tell “disconnected calm” from grounded presence in your body

Real stories of awakening: the first “no,” reciprocal friendships, and healthy partners who can hold your truth

The hidden trap of overcompensation (harsh, guarded, controlling) and how to find the courageous middle

Simple practices to build self-trust:

micro-boundaries, body tracking, and post-conversation regulation

Try these practices from the episode

1. Pause before you answer — check your body for a real yes/no

2. Track sensations — truth often feels tense and relieving at once

3. Practice micro-boundaries — “I’ll think about it,” “Not this time”

4. Move your body after hard moments — walk, stretch, shake to discharge energy ______________________________________________________

Start the series here Phase 1: The Shattering: https://youtu.be/wB9kYOlwUEI?si=Oisz4aljbujgHr94

Phase 2: The Void: https://youtu.be/JZhDVkZzrE4?si=C6L-JzHkN-2hFDeu

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Chapters 00:00 Cold open – “I’m still here”

01:05 What Awakening is (and isn’t)

05:18 Why guilt shows up when you speak 10:42 Fawning → Authenticity (nervous-system lens)

14:55 Vacancy vs Peace (how to tell the difference)

19:10 Overcompensation story (armor ≠ empowerment)

24:30 4 practices to build self-trust

28:30 Closing + what’s next _____________________________________________________________ Ready to go Deeper?

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Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.

Grab my FREE Guide “Finally at Peace” and start breaking free from survival mode: https://janice-holland.kit.com/finallyatpeace

Exploring the complexities of being in a relationship with **narcissistic personality disorder, this video provides essential relationship advice for those navigating its challenges once it has finally ended. Learn about emotional abuse and how to begin emotional abuse recovery within toxic relationship. Understanding narcissism is the first step toward healthier relationships.🌟✨

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Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.

Grab my FREE Guide “Finally at Peace” and start breaking free from survival mode: https://janice-holland.kit.com/finallyatpeace

Episode two of the series focuses on the shattering, the first phase of healing from narcissistic abuse. This video offers valuable relationship advice as you navigate the challenges of emotional abuse recovery. It's time to start healing from divorce and understanding the complexities of narcissism and toxic relationships.🌟✨

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Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.

Grab my FREE Guide “Finally at Peace” and start breaking free from survival mode: https://janice-holland.kit.com/finallyatpeace

In this eye-opening video, we begin the journey of self healing after experiencing narcissism and toxic relationships. Discover valuable relationship advice that will guide you through emotional abuse recovery and personal growth. It's time to reclaim your identity and embrace life after abuse! 🌟✨

I created this series because I’ve lived it.

After 20 years in a marriage that gas-lit me, took advantage of me, and used me for everything good I had to offer, I had to completely rebuild my identity, my safety, and my life.

Now I’m here to show you how to do the same — to step out of performative living, where people-pleasing and self-abandonment thrive, and into *Courageous Living*, where your voice leads, your choices align with your values, and your life finally belongs to you. 👉 **Hit SUBSCRIBE** so you’ll be notified as soon as the next episode drops in this powerful series.

🎯 **Comment below:** What phase do you think you’re in right now? What questions do you want me to cover in the upcoming episodes?

You’re not crazy.

You’re not broken.

You were conditioned — and now, you’re coming home to yourself. ______________________________________________________________ Ready to go Deeper?

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Janice Holland, LPC-S, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and founder of The Courageous Living Framework, teaches women and healers worldwide how to break survival patterns, heal trauma, and rebuild lives rooted in truth, peace, and power. Known online as The Trauma Teacher, Janice helps women stop people-pleasing, heal the patterns that kept them small, and build unshakable confidence after trauma. It’s time to live a life that finally feels like yours.

Grab my FREE Guide “Finally at Peace” and start breaking free from survival mode: https://janice-holland.kit.com/finallyatpeace

Discover a powerful concept to shift your mindset and unlock inner peace. This video offers inspiration and actionable steps for personal growth, drawing from psychology to enhance self improvement and ignite your motivation.

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You’ve been taught that saying *yes* keeps people close. That giving more means loving more. But here’s the truth: over-giving isn’t love—it’s self-abandonment. And instead of creating closeness, it destroys intimacy.

In this episode, Janice Holland calls out the myth that constant giving is virtue. You’ll discover why saying yes all the time is actually manipulation, how “performance service” masquerades as selflessness, and why true intimacy only comes from boundaries.

⚡ Inside this episode:

- The hidden manipulation behind saying yes.

- The real cost of over-giving: resentment, loneliness, and illness.

- How faith and values get misused to justify self-abandonment.

- The difference between authentic service and performance service.

- Why boundaries aren’t walls—they’re the gateway to connection.

- One simple boundary you can start practicing today.

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Are you truly at peace, or just stuck in survival mode? In this video, I break down the difference between the freeze response and true calm—a game-changing distinction for anyone on a trauma recovery journey.

If you’ve spent years people-pleasing, feeling numb, or confusing “shutting down” with actual serenity, this is for you.

You’ll learn:

- How freeze response can masquerade as calm

- Subtle signs you’re in survival mode (and not really at peace)

- What authentic calm actually feels like in your body

- Practical steps to move from freeze to genuine peace

Ready to stop abandoning yourself and start living courageously?

Let’s dig in!

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0:00 Introduction: The Calm That Isn't Calm

1:15 What is Freeze Response?

2:45 Signs You're Frozen (Not Peaceful)

4:20 What True Calm Actually Feels Like

6:10 Moving From Freeze to Authentic Peace

7:30 Your Next Steps

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Have you ever swallowed your truth to keep the peace? You probably told yourself it was no big deal. But here's the reality—every time you silence yourself, you don't just hurt you. You feed dysfunction, enable abuse, and teach everyone around you that your needs don’t matter.

In this video, I’m breaking down:

- Everyday moments where self-silencing sneaks in (and why they’re not as harmless as you think)

- How silence creates chaos in your body—anxiety, depression, even physical illness

- Why “peacekeeping” actually keeps everyone stuck in dysfunction

- The research that proves silence is toxic to your nervous system

I’m Janice Holland, licensed therapist and your Bullsh*t Recovery Coach. My mission: help you step out of performative living where people-pleasing and self-abandonment thrive—and into courageous living where your voice leads, your choices align with your values, and your life finally belongs to you.

Ready to go Deeper?

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