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You might not think of yourself as having an addiction… but if your nervous system lights up every time someone approves of you, and crashes every time you imagine disappointing someone— you’re hooked.

In this powerful episode, Janice Holland (Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and host of The Trauma Teacher) breaks down how people-pleasing activates the same reward pathways in your brain as drugs or alcohol—keeping you stuck in a cycle of survival mode, exhaustion, and disconnection from your real self.

You’ll learn the hidden emotional and physical costs of chronic people-pleasing and how to start breaking the cycle gently with small, doable steps—without dropping all the balls or blowing up your life ___________________________________________________________________Ready to go Deeper?

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00:48 – Hook: What If You’re Addicted to Approval?

01:19 – The Dopamine Loop 

02:19 – Signs You’re Stuck in the Cycle Over-apologizing, over-functioning, exhaustion, and resentment.

03:05 – The Body Cost How chronic people-pleasing erodes your nervous system and health.

03:35 – The Identity Cost How performing disconnects you from your real self and leaves you lonely.

04:07 – Why It Feels Impossible to Stop Your nervous system panics when you rest—and how that’s not weakness.

09:44 – How to Start Loosening the Pattern Micro-shifts to gently retrain your nervous system without dropping all the balls.

14:26 – The Ripple Effect on Others How over-functioning enables dysfunction and blocks growth in others.

16:20 – What’s Next Breaking cycles of performative living + how to go deeper with Janice.

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You’ve spent your whole life being “the strong one”—the dependable one, the one who holds everything together. It earned you love, safety, and belonging. But what if that strength isn’t really strength at all—what if it’s a trauma response rooted in fear of abandonment and performance?

In this powerful episode, Janice Holland (Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and host of The Trauma Teacher) reveals how the “strong one” identity keeps high-functioning people stuck in survival mode, disconnected from their needs, and trapped in exhaustion.

You’ll learn how this performance-based identity forms, the hidden emotional and physical toll it takes, and how to begin shifting from performing to being—so you can finally feel peace, joy, and connection in your life again. _________________________________________________________________Ready to go Deeper?

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⏱ Chapter Timestamps

00:00 – The Truth About Being Strong 

00:20 – How This Role Forms 

02:00 – Why Changing Feels So Scary

03:30 – The Hidden Costs

05:00 – The Body Impact How chronic stress and over-functioning break down your nervous system and immune system.

06:30 – The Fear of Disappointing Others

08:30 – What Real Strength Looks Like

09:30 – The Next Step How this “strength” quietly morphs into the addiction of people-pleasing. _________________________________________________________________Connect with me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the.trauma.teacher

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Are you exhausted from constantly trying to make everyone else happy—yet never feeling good enough yourself?

In this powerful episode, Janice Holland—Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and host of The Trauma Teacher—reveals the hidden trauma response underneath people-pleasing.

You’ll discover how the drive to keep everyone else comfortable is actually rooted in survival mode and self-abandonment—and how to step into a new way of living rooted in confidence, creativity, and emotional safety.

This episode will open your eyes to what’s really been keeping you stuck, and help you begin the courageous journey of coming home to yourself.

00:00 – Welcome & Why This Matters

03:18 – What People-Pleasing Really Is

07:42 – The Hidden Cost of Self-Abandonment

12:05 – Why Mindset Shifts Aren’t Enough

15:33 – The Key to Breaking Free: Courageous Living

20:10 – Your First Step Out of Survival Mode

23:45 – Final Words & Invitation to Go Deeper

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Join Janice as she delves into the complex world of rest and productivity, exploring why high-functioning women often feel guilty when they slow down.

Discover the roots of rest guilt, the impact of achievement-oriented upbringings, and practical steps to break the burnout cycle. This podcast offers insights and tools to help you embrace rest, redefine worthiness, and find peace in a world that equates productivity with value. Tune in for empowering conversations that encourage you to live courageously and authentically.

00:00] Introduction to Rest and Survival Mode

[02:00] The High-Functioning Woman's Dilemma

[04:00] Understanding Rest Guilt

[06:00] The Achievement-Oriented Family

[08:00] The Burnout Cycle

[10:00] Reframing Productivity and Worthiness

[12:00] Creating Safety in Rest

[14:00] Conclusion and Resources _________________________________________________________________Ready to go Deeper?

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Feel exhausted but can’t rest? Anxious but numb at the same time? This isn’t just burnout—your nervous system may be stuck in survival mode. You’re not broken, and you’re not alone.

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00:00 Understanding Anxiety and Numbness

Are you experiencing burnout symptoms, trauma responses, or feeling numb even though you’re anxious? In this video, trauma therapist Janice Holland explains the difference between burnout and trauma responses, why you might feel stuck in survival mode, and practical steps to reconnect with your body and emotions. If you’ve wondered “is this burnout or something deeper?”, this episode is for you.

Which sign of being stuck in survival mode resonated most with you? Share below—your story helps others feel less alone.

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Feel numb even when life looks perfect? This isn’t just anxiety or depression—it’s your nervous system in survival mode. You’re not broken.

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00:00 Understanding Anxiety and Numbness

02:10 The Impact of Survival Mode

04:58 Courageous Living and Creating Safety

07:22 The Importance of Rest and Pleasure

09:33 Identifying Signs of Being Stuck

12:10 Strategies for Change and Growth

Key Takeaways:

- Anxiety and numbness are survival responses, not personality flaws.

- You’re not alone—these feelings are common and valid.

- Creating safety within yourself is the first step to healing.

- Rest and pleasure are essential for emotional well-being.

- Micro moments of joy recalibrate your nervous system.

- Change is uncomfortable, but necessary for growth.

Are you struggling with emotional numbness, anxiety, or feeling empty even when your life looks fine? In this video, trauma therapist Janice Holland explains why you might feel numb, how trauma responses work, and practical steps to reconnect with your emotions. If you’ve Googled “why do I feel numb?” or “emotional numbness explained,” you’re in the right place.

Which takeaway hit home for you? Share your story in the comments—you’re helping others feel less alone.

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Summary

In this conversation, Janice Holland, a licensed therapist, explores the concept of the 'Good Girl Syndrome,' discussing how societal expectations shape women's identities and behaviors. She emphasizes the importance of self-expression and the need to reconnect with one's true self, offering tools and insights for personal growth and healing. Through guided visualization and journaling exercises, Janice encourages listeners to embrace their inner child and break free from the constraints of their curated personas.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Good Girl Syndrome

02:58 Understanding the Good Girl Persona

06:12 Cultural and Environmental Influences

09:05 The Cost of Conformity

11:56 Unpacking the Good Girl Identity

14:57 Desire and Self-Discovery

17:47 Reconnecting with the True Self

21:00 Navigating Social Situations

23:55 Tools for Self-Expression

31:52 The Journey to Feeling Seen and Safe

37:05 Unpacking the Good Girl Persona

40:03 Guided Meditation: Connecting with Your Inner Child

48:21 Reflection and Journaling for Self-Discovery

54:47 Resources for Continued Growth

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Ever find yourself asking, “Why am I anxious when everything seems fine?”

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How trauma creates chronic anxiety even in “safe” situations

Why peace can feel unfamiliar or uncomfortable

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A powerful mini course designed to help you go beyond just coping. Learn why traditional anxiety tools often fall short and discover trauma-informed strategies that work with your nervous system. This is a must if you’re tired of surface-level fixes and want deep, lasting change.

This 8 week intensive will help you break out of old trauma patterns, restore emotional balance, and finally feel like you’re living again. Perfect for those ready to shift out of chronic anxiety, overthinking, and people-pleasing and step into confidence, peace, and clarity.

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Have you ever felt trapped in a relationship that you know is unhealthy, but you just can’t seem to leave? You may be dealing with a trauma bond. In this episode, I break down what trauma bonds are and why they form.

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Burnout is one of the biggest hidden struggles therapists and healers face—yet no one really talks about it until it’s too late. If you've ever felt exhausted, emotionally drained, or even questioned whether you can keep doing this work, you're not alone. But burnout isn’t just a byproduct of working in the mental health field—it’s a sign that something deeper needs to change.

In this episode, we break down the real reasons why most therapists burn out, including:

Burnout is NOT a requirement for being a great therapist. There is a better way. Tune in now to learn how to prevent it and reclaim your passion for healing.

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👋 Let’s Connect!

I’m Janice Holland, a Licensed Professional Counselor Supervisor, Certified Trauma Model Therapist, and the creator of The Art of Healing Trauma. I help therapists, coaches, and healers break free from burnout, master trauma recovery, and step into their power as Healing Artists. With years of experience in private practice, agency work, and trauma-focused training, I’ve seen firsthand how traditional therapy often keeps both clients and therapists stuck.

My mission? To revolutionize the way we approach trauma healing—so that both you and your clients thrive. Whether through certification, coaching, or transformative workshops, I’m here to help you create a practice (and life) that’s sustainable, fulfilling, and deeply impactful.

Let’s change the way healing happens. 🌿✨