The Unplugged Alpha

Jealousy: Why male jealousy is different than female jealousy, and how male jealousy can be either productive or destruction in relationships. In this broadcast we will cover...

1. Evolutionary origins of male and female jealousy and why they are fundamentally different.

2. Two types of jealousy; retroactive jealousy and current jealousy. Retroactive jealousy: jealous over past threats; men in her past and her past sexual history.

3. Is jealousy protective or damaging?

4. Existential Despair; the ultimate killer. Men react to the destructive aspect of jealousy with “existential despair.” They adopt the belief that any idea of being bonded to a woman and maintaining that bond long term is impossible.

5. Solutions: a man must get emotional control over his primal jealousy, which will be completely overstimulated. He must have patience and be able to break down everything logically and methodically; and assess potential mates for a retained ability to pair bond. “Red” flags and “green” flags and data points are valuable here, as well as observing her behavior over time.

#Jealousy #DatingTips #Relationships

Jonathan C Noble, a Family Lawyer, joins me today to talk about Nikole Mitchell, a mother of 3, that was a evangelical pastor that turned to stripping, then moved on to OnlyFans and unsurprisingly ended the marriage.

We'll look at the red flags that were waived in front of her ex-husband John Mitchell, and hear Jonathan Noble reaction to it from a divorce lawyers perspective.

Check out Rollos interview with the ex-husband here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vAAKw...

Nikole Mitchell Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/mitchellnik...

#NikoleMitchell #OnlyFans #RedFlags

I'll share a very interesting story about a man that barely dodged a bullet and what lessons you can take from dealing with paternity issues with suspicions you have around kids.

In this broadcast, I'm going to review the 16 commandments of poon, and see how relevant they are today; apparently the closer you follow the letter of these commandments, the easier you will find and keep real, true unconditional love and happiness in your life.

Link to blog here: https://heartiste.org/the-sixteen-com...

The commandments are:

I. Never say ‘I Love You’ first

II. Make her jealous

III. You shall make your mission, not your woman, your priority

IV. Don’t play by her rules

V. Adhere to the golden ratio

VI. Keep her guessing

VII. Always keep two in the kitty

VIII. Say you’re sorry only when absolutely necessary

IX. Connect with her emotions

X. Ignore her beauty

XI. Be irrationally self-confident

XII. Maximize your strengths, minimize your weaknesses

XIII. Err on the side of too much boldness, rather than too little

XIV. Fuck her good

XV. Maintain your state control

XVI. Never be afraid to lose her

We're going to review 6 often overlooked risks men invite into their lives when they decide to date a single mother. First I'll open with why men tend to date single mothers, then talk about the 6 main risks, then close with when dating a single mother might make sense for a man.

In some tribes, after combat, if a father dies, they terminate the children since their chance of survival is low

Recently got zero'd out and feeling worse than nothing? Cool, now it's time to stop the sulking, and get some wins on the board.

It's really easy to get overwhelmed with how bad your situation can get but getting wins on the board (fitness, money, game) can change your outlook and motivate you to win.

Nothing inspires wanting more success than getting success.

Discussion points:

- EVERYONE gets kicked down in life, only winners get back up, losers sulk

- Your circle of influence, dictates your successes

- Your physical presence speaks louder than you think

- Can you be lethal should the need be called upon you?

- Are you competing in life, and how?

- Making bank, can you make it rain?

- Do you have game, do women have genuine desire for you?

- Kick depression, and mental health issues

Plus much more...

Paul from Apex Mindset, and Divorce Lawyer, Jonathan C Noble Esq join me today to talk about breaking up with, and divorcing a Covert Narcissist, and why they need special treatment, ESPECIALLY in family law...

Top female narcissist behaviors (these do NOT establish Narcissistic

Personality Disorder, but they are narcissistic clues to have on your

radar). In no special order:

1) Overly competitive / jealous. “Look what my friend Rita got for

Valentine’s Day from her husband. WHAT DID YOU GET ME?”.

2) Overly concerned with her appearance. – cosmetic surgery,

cosmetic dental work, lots of makeup, hair extensions, etc.

3) Materialistic – love spending $. Clothes, cars, handbags, jewelry,

Love to flaunt and talk about what they have (even if it is paid on

credit).

4) Thinks others are jealous of her. This feeds her ego.

5) She is overly sensitive to criticism. Insanely defensive.

6) She has a false sense of superiority. It is laughable to you when

you see this, but the narcissist has zero sense of self awareness

and really believes what she is saying. (Example: a woman in her

50’s or even 60’s really thinks she is still competing with a 30 year

old on the SMV scale).

7) She is a drama queen. Bores quickly. Even insignificant events get

blown out of proportion.

8) Triangulation – Loves to create problems then she pits people

against each other. Even between their own children.

9) She has a shameless disregard for boundries, but demands you are

in strict compliance with her wishes.

10) She gaslights you. “I never said that”.... you may be doubting

your own reality.

You feel like want to record your conversations with her to play for

her later when she denies what she said.

11) Tries to make you feel like you are never enough. Belittles you

during devaluation, discard stage.

12) She has a constant need for validation from you and everyone

else around.

13) Long series of broken relationships. Serial dater. High body

count.

14) She cannot stand not being in control of you. This can trigger

narcissist rage when you stand firm.

15) She plays the victim and wants you to sympathize with her.

16) Many other red flags to watch out for......

Most men start off in a strong frame, early in relationships, then through a process of betatization by 1,000 concessions, he becomes unattractive to his girlfriend or wife.

Maintaining frame is paramount to a strong LTR, and most men get it wrong

Some areas I'll cover include, but aren't limited to:

- Inviting a problem woman into your life

- Becoming 'exclusive' fast

- Not spinning plates, or bringing up 'where do we stand' before she does

- Saying 'yes' too often, and not saying 'no' enough

- Failing her shit tests

- Being too needy

- Lacking in conventional male competency skills

- Not enforcing boundaries with male friends & social media

- Getting involved with a woman higher than your own SMV

- Letting the alpha widow enter your relationship

- Making her your everything

- Losing contact with his friends, and hobbies

During this broadcast, family lawyer Jonathan C Noble joins me to discuss what men need to know about marriage and family law before getting married in the US

Join me and Ryan Christensen from hypnosisformen.net as we uncover ways men create train wrecks out of life from anxiety & the self sabotage that follows.

Our talking points include, but aren't limited to...

- A lot of guys who are in this part of the web are looking for answers, and looking to change their lives.

- A lot of these guys are struggling with anxiety, depression, and other self-sabotaging behaviors.

- There's a lot of good material out there designed to get guys taking action: "Do The Work", how to overcome approach anxiety, etc.

- Those mechanisms will generally work well for most guys who have previously had success, or who already have embraced being uncomfortable.

- Other men struggle with higher levels of anxiety, have failed more often in the past. They're carrying a lot more baggage.

- For men like that, "get over it" isn't effective advice. Most behavior or habit based methods require willpower for a time that they simply don't have due to a long history of things that have failed.

- In other cases, there's a pattern of self sabotage - think of starting stuff and walking away, or deliberately choosing targets you can't hit ("I only go after 9s and 10s even though I'm a 3")

- In both instances there's an unconscious pattern at work designed to keep them from harm in some manner - even if it's keeping them in a shitty place or keeping them from what they want consciously

- In men that suffer from those issues, the unconscious mind is less open to change because it has a much more evidence of possible harm, and weights it much more highly

- So unless they have constant support it's hard to make change. This could be in person coaching and in field support, therapy, etc. Online communities only help so much.

- Hypnosis on the other hand works directly on that unconscious level, and bypass the critical factor. The critical factor is that filter between the conscious and unconscious mind that determines what the unconscious will accept as true.

- Because of this, we can rapidly figure out where that anxiety or self sabotage originates, and what it's trying to do to help that person

- Once that happens, we can create new solutions to those old problems that get them better results.

- In addition, it's common to release a lot of built up trauma, anger, etc that's being carried around. That creates a lot more space and energy, so doing things becomes a LOT easier.