They Talk Sex

Let’s talk about aging and sexuality with an elder provider and playwright. Charla Hathaway became “a whore at fifty-four”, and she shares some things she’s learned.

3:00 starting her life over at fifty-four

6:00 anal play table-turning

9:00 Joseph Kramer on body healing

11:00 on the term “prostitute”

16:00 expert level hustling mastery

20:00 how to lead an erotic session

25:00 backlash

29:00 body changes and adapting sexual practices

34:00 older guys want intimacy too

37:00 breathing reminders

42:00 how to lead an erotic session 2

46:00 men being taught to receive

51:00 she has a September show coming up

54:00 things to reflect on?

57:00 the body is a temple

Find our guest at charlahathaway.com

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How does social standing relate to sexuality and dating? Have you ever been ostracized for reasons unclear, or been targeted in a smear campaign? Licensed counselor Halle Thomas joins me to discuss the complex issues and impacts of cancel-bullying.

2:00 former Catholic, queer and Creole

4:00 writing about shame 

6:00 grief, racial and sexual identity and relational problems

9:00 originated in Black queer spaces

12:00 elle hates it when people lie about abuse

18:00 cancel-bullying is a suicide risk 

21:00 obsessive behavior and unhealthy impacts 

25:00 RSD - rejection sensitivity dysphoria

29:00 Elle hits pregnant strippers, pass it on

31:00 making people houseless for “justice”

38:00 how to recognize people that aim to be destructive

42:00 stalking and violence and victim’s gender

45:00 when you’re being targeted 

54:00 definition of fighting 

57:00 identifying friends who exaggerate claims against them

1:01:00 impact vs intent 

1:06:00 Bebe Montoya, Africa Brooke, Juniper Cameryn, Clementine Morrigan, Jay Lesoleil - cancellation resources

1:10:00 life after cancellation

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She came, she saw, she conquered pornmaking and media: meet Joanna Angel and learn what her work and married life is like as a longtime porn icon of our generation. We have jokes and marketing advice!

1:00 on feature-dancing and stripclub work

4:00 she works in marketing

8:00 started stripping to pay for her porn site 

11:00 a golden era of stripping

14:00 the hottest people don’t make the most

17:00 monogamy and porn work

21:00 jealousy and business and work

24:00 what do the fans say?

29:00 the heyday of gonzo porn

32:00 creating a niche kink

36:00 self care and interests 

39:00 how to deal with haters and negativity 

43:00 younger people innovating porn now

45:00 sex work is not for everyone

49:00 what’s next for Joanna?

52:00 save your money and live your life

55:00 sex tip from a porn queen

Find your host on IG @stripperwriter @theytalksexpodcast

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What’s it like for Stoney Faye to be an autistic stripper and parent? Let’s talk about the intersections of disability and sex work, and swap some ridiculous hustle tales.

2:00 disability acceptance

5:00 heightened sensitivities 

8:00 on being canceled

10:00 on being a sugar baby

13:00 echolalia and decriminalization of sex work

16:00 not naturally feeling close to people

21:00 sensory stuff and sex

24:00 our libidos are very different but orientations are not

29:00 our fave customer in common

33:00 nerve endings and genitals

36:00 I hate kissing most people

41:00 people who don’t yet know they are autistic 

45:00 on hidden queerness

49:00 exploring identity as an adult

51:00 stimming and self-hitting

57:00 detaching from social norms

1:00:00 men dating women (or others) who out-earn them

1:03:00 an autistic friend for the end of the world

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Let’s speak to Aja Corynn who made the documentary film “Pleasers”. Our guest applies her anthropological background and creative lenses to her experiences as a stripper; Let’s talk stripclubs, relationships, retirement and media.

1:00 anthropologist and former stripper

2:00 why she quit

6:00 California Girls in Anaheim, Deja Vu in Hollywood

10:00 “Black and kinky” NY dominatrixes

14:00 I’m inside looking around

17:00 on survival sex work vs empowerment 

22:00 mandatory tipout

27:00 don’t write about strippers if you aren’t one

31:00 racism and in Vegas

36:00 on the good things

40:00 technology replacing strippers?

46:00 bad managerial practices

51:00 on AB5 in CA and employee status

54:00 camaraderie 

58:00 don’t settle

Find our guest on IG @AjaCorynn & @pleasersseries

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Nate Hazen is a certified bouncer in the state of Oregon and works in downtown Portland. Meet your host’s coworker and listen as we swap stories and tips on how to be safer and more fun as a patron of the adult entertainment industries.

2:00 could you work in a strip club with the lights and loud music?

6:00 felons, veterans, and foster system kids

9:00 de-escalation and working downtown Portland 

12:00 on men who shouldn’t be bouncers

15:00 some people have intent to be malicious

22:00 basic etiquette for beginners and all

25:00 don’t come in the club w/o money

28:00 on no-touching rules

31:00 DTF = down to fuck, btw 

35:00 on tip-out being unfair 

40:00 where my dogs at?

44:00 maybe a tv show about portland strippers?

48:00  death and grief in the industry

53:00 on being street smart and vigilant

57:00 don’t hit on the dancers when you work with them

1:00:00 pay attention to when you feel shame

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How might one person manage their co-occurring chronic illnesses and disabilities, and have a fulfilling sex life? Meet Katherine Harlow the Park Avenue Pinup and discover how she strategizes her health, pleasure, and functioning. Learn some care tips and disability advocacy with us.

2:00 endometriosis, pelvic floor disorder, narcolepsy, Autism, PTSD

5:00 70% of people with pelvic floor dysfunction have TMJ

7:00 tips for self care and immune system support

9:00 some of us wanted to be adult entertainers 

12:00 cis men have been born with endometriosis too

15:00 strategy around chronic pain

18:00 vaginismus is a symptom of larger pelvic floor dysfunction

22:00 “admin drain” - @invalidart 

25:00 more feedback on invisible disability 

28:00 disabled people are accused of lying 

31:00 self-advocacy and interviewing doctors

33:00 how can partners help?

37:00 tips for managing pain

40:00 she’s on the same sexting app as your host 

45:00 Andew Gurza resources

49:00 queer and trans people are more likely to be disabled

53:00 burlesque is not sex work, true 

55:00 more resources like Mia Mingus, @itswalela 

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What might healthy spirituality and sexuality look like for Catholics? Let’s meet Sister Shannon who specializes in pleasure and shame-less education and self help for her online audiences, and opposition to her work.

1:00 she’s been deactivated online 3x

3:00 sexual support for Catholics: there is a need

6:00 common questions: masturbation, family shame

9:00 imagine Mother Mary as a single mother

12:00 How do folks relate to Catholicism and sexuality?

15:00 “widen your knees” instead of “spread your legs”

17:00 The Old Testament had erotica in it! “Song of songs”

22:00 Sister Shannon’s current best contact info is [email protected]

25:00 the church does not let gay people get married or women be priests - don’t beg the hierarchy 

26:00 God is non-binary?

30:00 who is reporting Shannon’s IG online?

34:00 Mary Magdalene wasn’t a sex worker, sorry

37:00 abstinence “education” results in a lot of shame and guilt

40:00 bad experiences motivated Elle to find better ones

45:00 Richard Rohr, Lavonne Briggs

49:00 God probably doesn’t care if you have multiple sexual partners

52:00 this show can be surprisingly unsexy :) 

55:00 does God approve of Jesus-memes?

Find Shannon on IG @ItsSisterShannon or @Sister.Shannon

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Tom-boys, dykes, butch females, masc4masc, men, and more: how do nonbinary , cis men, and masculine-leaning people experience our world? It’s a spectrum of intersectionality! We speak with one person about gender, licensed sex therapist Grace Ballard.

2:00 Classic psychotherapy vs Buddhist psychotherapy 

4:00 some people love to be disruptive to others

8:00 on OCSB (out-of control sexual behavior)

13:00 playful, competitive, aggressive, touching = the gym

16:00 legitimacy in the workplace

19:00 work clothing is performative

21:00 how do you express your gender?

25:00 how does Elle express femininity for swork?

29:00 on gender and power play

33:00 masc people report boundary pushing too

37:00 on street harassment

40:00 take a woman-centered approach?

43:00 on sexual functioning for men

47:00 men and women need each other 

53:00 demonizing masculinity prevents people from being truly healthy

55:00 homophobia robs men of healthy touch

59:00 diversify your touch

1:03:00 break all the fashion rules

1:06:00 resources: Doug Braun-Harvey, Liz Plank and more

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