They Talk Sex

Bella Cummins has owned her Nevada brothel for thirty-seven years and talks about venue management, what the regulations are like, and how to create a safer and more fun environment for everyone.

1:00 beginning the day at the brothel 

3:00 administrative and staff training

5:00 only cis women working here at this time 

7:00 decrim vs legalization discussion

10:00 clarification on decriminalization in NZ

14:00 safer working in brothels than outcall

17:00 discounts to Utah residents!

21:00 laundry is important at the brothel 

25:00 is this a calling for you?

28:00 how staff can be proactive

33:00 process for business approval by police and city 

36:00 law enforcement regulation

41:00 condoms used to be way thicker

46:00 deadname and origin story

49:00 more legal distinctions

54:00 why discounted rates for Utah?

58:00 more on regulated work

1:00:00 sex advice

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Do you have sex questions? She’s a Black sex educator who advocates for HIV prevention, sex toy exploration and straightforward communication: Ashley Cobb from Atlanta, Georgia offers straightforward and candid input on common questions about anal sex, penis size, and more.

1:00 began teaching sex ed in 2015

5:00 she thinks redheads are cute

9:00 38 vs early 20’s

11:00 pRep for Black women

14:00 raw sex equals pregnancy or STIs

17:00 syphilis and COVID going up why?

21:00 why to have sex before you get married

24:00 why insecure men might prefer sexually inexperienced women

27:00 how often should I get screened?

31:00 when one of you wants to have sex more often

34:00 ways to be intimate without PIV

37:00 ethical porn discussion

42:00 more anal tips for newbies

45:00 small penis tips and use your hands

48:00 on “sex-negative feminism”

53:00 Somaya Critchlow art discussion

56:00 what’s next for her?

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She’s a self-taught therapeutic dominatrix and touch provider, who specializes in helping people play and explore boundaries and kinks. Meet Lara the Divine Theratrix and learn about what it’s like to explore feeling big, small, and primal.

3:00 therapeutic approaches to hands-on work

6:00 autism and body language learning

9:00 Dr Stewart Brown - on play and communication

14:00 protection from obsession

19:00 humans are animals 

22:00 being fluid and changing

26:00 creative Safewords

30:00 special interests are so important 

36:00 JoyClub, Beducated, Fetlife

41:00 discrimination against dominatrix by doordash

44:00 sex workers rights and SWUnionUK

47:00 examples of worker controls or protections

52:00 examples of types of play

54:00 play makes life worth living 

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Let’s talk about male bisexuality, biphobia, role-modeling mental health and have a raunchy, fun time with Zachary Zane. He’s an advice writer and the author of Boyslut: A Memoir and Manifesto.

1:00 a book about bisexuality and shame

3:00 having OCD as a child and now

6:00 mental health and spirituality

10:00 bisexuality and stigma

13:00 not enjoying sex due to stress

16:00 a darn good therapist session

20:00 how do you role model healthy male sexuality?

25:00 tips on coming out to family members 

28:00 more discussion on this ^

31:00 how to address my gf’s biphobia

34:00 Bi-Men, By Women book

38:00 if they aren’t 100% enthusiastic, maybe avoid them

42:00 real non-fiction erotica stories

46:00 theragun in the butt story

49:00 Boyslut things and projects

52:00  cancel culture vs call-ins 

55:00 any sex tips for our audience?

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What are your personal ethics around sex work and matrimony? Why do some people share their interactions with spouses and other people hide them? How to support your partner in sex work? Is it cheating to pay for services? Let’s discuss this with a happily married sex worker, Jessie Sage.

1:00 a spicy viral twitter post

4:00 cancer, and caregiver roles

7:00 what work she’s done in sex

10:00 feedback from her clients

14:00 a public-facing nonbinary spouse

18:00 on blaming the sex worker

22:00 oral sex or we aren’t getting married

26:00 helping sex lives of other spouses

29:00 disclosing to your family that you’re dating a sex worker

34:00 keep it simple and name what is happening

39:00 besties who get weird around SW

44:00 outsiders and misunderstanding 

48:00 addressing their shame 

51:00 how to be a supportive partner article

56:00 @thotscholar, Lorelei Lee writing recommendation

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Who else has ADHD? Our guest noticed a lack of sexuality-related info for people with attention-deficit-hyperactivity-disorder. For two decades he has served people who need help with dating, sex, self-care and relating. Let’s learn and laugh with therapist and author Ari Tuckman.

3:00 he wrote the books because there was a lack of help for ADHD-ers

5:00 a lot of mental health and medical pros have little or no sex education

7:00 he gravitates to people with ADHD

10:00 how does ADHD make dating hard for you?

14:00 more examples

19:00 people-pleasing behaviors

25:00 maintaining interest after novelty wanes

30:00 ADHD and staying in the mood 

34:00 moving on after oopsies

37:00 other tips for re-directing your attention

41:00 more ways that ADHD can show up during sex

44:00 one study about ADHD people and sex

49:00 quirky can be charming or annoying, truly 

55:00 medication and sleep question

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Why do some people pay others to teach them how to be sexual and intimate? Surrogate partners work with clients to learn their bodies and how to have consensual, boundaried, erotic contact with others. Brandon of AmpersandIntimacy expands on our previous episode about surrogate partner therapy, and the benefits and barriers to these treatments.

3:00 gaming and play, kink and sex

6:00 previously he was a clinician

9:00 on people who aren’t listening to my boundaries

13:00 who his clients typically are

16:00 on why people pay for sexual touch

22:00 not being distracted or disturbed

24:00 hygiene requests

27:00 scheduled sex for couples

29:00 on over-regulation

33:00 client-rejection 

37:00 being mean to push me away 

41:00 sex therapy is historically for white hetero men

46:00 what is Upnegotiating and how to avoid it?

48:00 some people test things

52:00 tell me your boundaries PLZ

58:00 sex tips 

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Let’s talk with Leilah of A Stripper’s Guide about privacy issues and safety, queerness at the stripclub, and listen as she gives tips on setting boundaries and maintaining a healthier relationship with partners and self.

3:00 she works night shifts for a few reasons

7:00 curious but condescending 

10:00 plz don’t ask her about her sex life

12:00 “gold star lesbian” discussion

15:00 on the asexuality spectrum: demisexual

18:00 artificial intelligence 

24:00 feeling shame vs seeking privacy

28:00 I identify with the slutty-looking girl

33:00 private about her sex life 

37:00 on sounding polite while setting boundaries

42:00 image impacting income 

45:00 on seeming available 

47:00 non-sexual methods of partner bonding

53:00 on feeling touched-out 

1:00:00 book recommendations 

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How does spirituality and sexuality relate? It depends on who you are and what you believe. For this episode we talk sex and spells with guest Serena the Blessed who is a Black, Indigenous, Jewish trans-femme tarot reader and magic-maker in Portland, Oregon.

3:00 how magic works

6:00 OYE ancestors and priesthood family

10:00 “Black” magic and Hoodoo and Voodoo, Santeria

13:00 Yoruba origins of “queen”

16:00 gay culture can be different than queer culture 

21:00 all oppression is connected

23:00 more genders than two were common

29:00 Hoodoo and Voodoo work

33:00 her offerings

40:00 in what ways can I practice spiritual sexuality

45:00 on masking identity 

50:00 seduction vs shining brightly 

57:00 counseling and spirituality for Black Americans

1:04:00 white people can be poisonous

1:11:00 Third Eye Books and Cally’s Hot Wigs

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