Carta Monir is a trans girl pornmaker who explains why a lot of her material is forbidden on some of the most popular and watched platforms, as we talk about identity and work in an ever-changing industry and world. 

1:00 meet your guest

3:00 what violates OnlyFans? 

7:00 reddit and r/traps

10:00 on FOSTA/SESTA

12:00 on peer support and mentors

15:00 different incarnations of a person

22:00 what is your fave content to make?

25:00 new websites upcoming!

28:00 advice for running a successful biz

30:00 production can be tough

34:00 does it ever make you wanna quit?

38:00 plz fight for trans ppl if you can

40:00 how do you stay safer from creeps?

43:00 don’t share your location IRL

49:00 unsolicited dick pics are unaesthetic too 

53:00 porn is inspo but not an outline 

59:00 sex tips

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How might weed relate to sex and arousal? Let’s learn history, tips, and pleasure practices from the Cannasexual, Ashley Manta.

2:00 from DARE kid to cannabis teacher

5:00 publishing a book during COVID sucks

6:00 why say “cannabis” instead of “marijuana”?

9:00 reasons that people use cannabis for sex

12:00 on tolerance breaks

16:00 “cannabis is not boner pills”

21:00 ADHD and anxiety

24:00 resources for cannabis doctors

28:00 CBD vs THC

32:00 what is a placebo?

37:00 anxiety makes sense sometimes

40:00 as a trauma survivor:

44:00 what about this weed study?

49:00 cannabinoid hyperemesis syndrome (CHS)

55:00 what are terpenes?

58:00 keeping her tits all to herself

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A former pastor speaks to her experiences in the church, and how it shaped her current online pornmaking and coaching businesses she’s growing today. Meet Nikole Mitchell and learn about her very public coming-outs.

2:00 women were not allowed to lead

5:00 coming out during the pandemic

8:00 no shame in divorce here

11:00 the gateway selfie and website

15:00 creating spaces of sexuality and/or spirituality 

18:00 no churchy photo shoots yet

21:00 shame can be passed down w/o church

25:00 i dont want to pass my shame to my kids

28:00 sexual energy IRL or online

31:00 dirty, awkward, clumsy, rushed

34:00 on interacting with pregnant clients

36:00 on the vilification of Christians 

38:00 Orange County is effed, but lovely 

42:00 her previous sex life

45:00 purity-poster-child

50:00 purity balls are cringe 

52:00 how the purity movement traumatized people

55:00 other Californians and culture shame about sex

1:03:00 I also love lattes

1:05:00 orgasm shame

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How to talk about safety and hygiene? Masturbation? Learn from an expert in communication and teaching for kids and youth, Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers.

1:00 they train physicians, clergy, coaches and more, about sexual health

4:00 Swedes are sex-positive!

9:00 impacts of purity culture can look like sexual abuse

13:00 her article went viral, and opposition?

17:00 heredity influences our shapes and bodies

20:00 stages of sexual development are normal

23:00 what do you wish your parents had done differently?

27:00 just tell your kid that you love them regardless of how they look

31:00 it’s normal for kids to not want to hear from their parents on sex

34:00 why my kid can’t sleep in my bed sometimes

36:00 book recommendations

38:00 my parents comment on my body, help!

43:00 on kids and genital self-touching

47:00 how to explain that families are different 

50:00 book recommendations again

55:00 listener responses on parenting

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America is not the land of sexual freedoms and the Executive Director of NCSFreedom.org explains how people lose jobs, child custody, housing and more due to being polaymorous, kinky, or queer. You'll also learn how we can fight back against losing our human rights.

1:00 why NCSF was formed

3:00 consenting adults and alternative sexualities

6:00 workplace discrimination and harassment

9:00 what are the laws in your state?

12:00 stigma causes suicide, strife

14:00 opposition groups to sexual freedoms

16:00 stop calling anti-abortion people “pro-life”

19:00 what sexual freedoms do YOU fear losing?

23:00 the six dildos law in Texas

27:00 on crafting the DSM

30:00 working with mental health “experts”

33:00 cops shouldn’t arrest people for doing kink consensually

37:00 foster parents are more likely to abuse kids than parent’s partner

41:00 “institutionalized discrimination”

44:00 what is FOSTA/SESTA?

49:00 making adult postings illegal prevents their rescue 

53:00 helping SA survivors report to police more safely 

57:00 on PSAs on choking 

1:00:00 resources and organizing recs

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Our guest Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah collected the stories of African women from all over the globe for years in a blog before she released her book on “self-discovery, freedom, and healing”. We discuss gender, power, feminism, people, and shame.

2:00 meet your guest

5:00  genital reconfiguration for pleasure or mutilation

8:00 stories of self discovery

11:00 on libido in middle age

14:00 child sexual abuse 

17:00 on abortion in places where it is illegal

21:00 medical professional and race

25:00 how to unlearn feelings of guilt

29:00 it takes a village to raise a child

34:00 why are some young men so rushed during sex?

37:00 on anxiety and rushing and violence

42:00 the hungry vagina concept 

45:00 kink and polyamorous people can experience discrimination 

47:00 when marriage is revered

50:00 a cliteral sex tip

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Lina Dune is a bisexual submissive in a 24/7 Dom/sub relationship and she is a proponent of healing-BDSM. Meet the web’s @askasub and receive advice from a fairy godmother of kink and relationships.

2:00 what is a 24/7 sub?

5:00 gender roles can be kinky

8:00 importing themes of external oppression

11:00 male subs are people too

13:00 violence and sexual violence warning 

16:00 you can’t please everyone

19:00 what might look confusing to an onlooker?

24:00 how to spot take doms

27:00 doms are people too

30:00 Doms should be vetted on their politics

33:00 why No is not a Safeword

36:00 how to regulate after a scene

40:00 BDSM comes from a place off mutual respect

44:00 on One Penis Policies
48:00 I don’t need multiple dicks in my life to be a feminist 

53:00 on compatibility

56:00 how kink has been helpful 

61:00 schedule your sex

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Would you pay someone to teach you how to be sexual and intimate? Some people do! Surrogate partners work with clients to learn their bodies and how to have consensual, boundaried, erotic contact with others. Brian Gibney of bgsurrogatetherapy.com talks about touch, legality, and a misleading movie related to surrogate partner therapy.

1:00 he helps people learn to be sexual and intimate

4:00 Cheryl Cohen Greene sounds awesome 

6:00 reasons why people seek out a surrogate partner

10:00 what is the training process like?

13:00 examples of boundary exercises

15:00 people cry a LOT

18:00 teaching people how to say No and Yes confidently 

23:00 freedom to be yourself

26:00 some clients are not in distress, others are

29:00 challenges of the surrogate partner work

32:00 clients may fall in love and experience an ending

35:00 yes it affects how we do dating as providers

39:00 your host cries again here

44:00 do clients have to be attractive?

47:00 how can LMFTs work with surrogate partners?

53:00 on Brian’s deceased son with disabilities 

58:00 life should be less painful 

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You may know her comics, art, or stripper-social media: listen how Jacqueline Frances is adapting to a new and divorced life after stripping.

1:00 I love a new crowd

4:00 convince me to invest in you

7:00 why she is retiring from stripping 

10:00 on becoming internet-and-club-famous 

13:00 how stripping culture has changed in a decade

16:00 content warning for sexual assault

20:00 thirst traps doing good work

24:00 Jacq has a new book

28:00 any advice for my last year of stripping?

31:00 a note on positionality

34:00 hustle tips pleeeease

38:00 my body is a hot resource

45:00 be careful when flaunting cash online

49:00 strippers can tell you when the economy is bad

53:00 if I’m not getting money, I’m getting knowledge

56:00 Jacq’s plans for her future

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