Is your heart still hurting and you need help with moving on? There’s a book for that, and I chat with the author, counselor Erin E. Davidson.
1:00 guest background

3:00 Elle’s quick tips for getting over people

6:00 breakups can be a type of grief

9:00 when you find excuses to contact them

13:00 recruiting your breakup team

17:00 rumination and “switching tracks”

22:00 life will be better again if you can leave safely

27:00 disenfranchised grief 

31:00 on being judged for divorcing AGAIN

35:00 the right relationship for the time being

41:00 some silly study on feeling better over time

45:00 breakup pain can go up and down

50:00 resources

53:00 Elle says F U to an ex

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Foreskin removal and reconstruction: guest Eric Cunningham shares history and medical knowledge relating to penis-altering procedures around the world.

1:00 language disclaimer 

5:00 penis circumcision is fairly rare, worldwide

8:00 circumcision in the US originated due to misbeliefs 

11:00 war and enslavement and the marking of genitals

15:00 Alexander the great wanted to stop genital cutting

20:00 the Olympics relates to circumcision

30:00 chastity devices 

32:00 surgeries conducted on genitals to prevent sexual function

38:00 you have frenulums all over

42:00 ribbed condoms mimic foreskin

47:00 circumcision doesn’t seem to reduce STI transmission

57:00 resource recommendations

1:00:00 animals have foreskins too

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For all genders: size anxiety, euphoria, acceptance, and individuality is explained to us by author Elle Chase, CSE.

1:00 this is about body acceptance, not love

5:00 the burden of negative cultural influences

10:00 gender roles for body image

15:00 how are bigger bodied people treated differently?

20:00 FOSTA/SESTA has hurt fat people 

25:00 how can straight-sized sex workers help?

31:00 Listener Questions

35:00 fat jiggling is really sexy to a lot of people

45:00 elle’s tips for anxiety and masturbation

50:00 what IS restrictive eating?

54:00 share what you love about your partner’s bigger body?

58:00 elle loves scissoring

1:02:00 more book resources and breathing reminders

 Learn some behind-the-scenes secrets and production tricks as we talk to a xxx performer who has been making adult content for a decade.

1:00 Gem makes porn - meet your guest

5:00 nude model contracts can be weird 

10:00 would you prefer to let your spouse manage your OnlyFans?

13:00 likes/dislikes about adult content creation

17:00 chafed labias are a downside of a busy calendar

23:00 this stuff isn’t always easy!

26:00 on setting boundaries during live shows

30:00 filming feedback and mishaps

36:00 it sucks getting your period on camera

40:00 how to not get your IG deleted by OnaArtist

43:00 how we feel about anti porn people who claim they fight trafficking

48:00 what could change about the web porn industries?

52:00 sex tips and advice from Gem

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Gay and bisexual men have been hugely impactful on modern fitness and gym culture, and our writer and fitness expert explains how.

2:00 meet your guest

5:00 a famous bisexual sex worker flexing was one of the first film clips

7:00 beefcake magazines

9:00 excessive carbs can lower your libido?

14:00 men, what keeps you closeted?

18:00 discrimination prevents success

22:00 hormones and steroid use 

27:00 ethical steroid use and applications

33:00 how often do you come out to people?

38:00 homophobia/misogyny/racism in fitness on social media

45:00 the Proud Boys and Vice relationship

49:00 labial and scrotal wax can HURT

53:00 carnivals and wrestlers and strippers

1:00:00 good hygiene is good sex advice

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How do current laws and beliefs perpetuate opportunities for sexual abuse of people, specifically children, immigrants, trans people, BIPOC, and sex workers? Let’s talk with an Executive Director for a nonprofit that supports survivors and offers resources, the Cupcake Girls.

2:00 meet our guest - why does a civilian work in anti-trafficking?

5:00 police abuse in oregon 

10:00 *deep breath reminder*

13:00 doctors, lawyers, nurses might Out or report sex workers to police

17:00 examples of how criminalization hurts people

20:00 critically question your spirituality 

21:00 more examples of how criminalization hurts people

25:00 domestic violence can link to sex trafficking 

29:00 generational trafficking is more common than you might think

35:00 resource for secondary trauma - emma sullivan

39:00 tips for talking with a partner about trauma

43:00 sex workers are taxpayers too, LOL

50:00 most anti-trafficking organizations require people to quit sex work to receive services

55:00 How to donate

1:00:00 planes and flights with people being transported 

1:05:00 gender myths and trafficking
1:10:00 don’t make assumptions 

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 Let’s talk about genital self-touch with author Vic Liu and learn from Bang For All - their inclusive book on masturbation.

2:00 why write a sex ed book on masturbation

10:00 how masturbation can be good for you

13:00 masturbation myths

20:00 how to increase sensitivity in your vulva

25:00 be mindful of your anal play

27:00 anal numbing creams are so dangerous 

32:00 vibrator dependency - why the brain can rely on simple methods

40:00 elle asked listeners: what have you masturbated with?

47:00 why teach sex education to k-12?

49:00 child sexual abuse *trigger*

52:00 resources 

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Which sexual scripts and stereotypes do you follow, even if they don’t feel good or make sense? Dr Chris Donaghue explains how to have sex outside the lines and expand your skills and attitudes with yourself and partners.

5:00 throw out your expectations about what sex “should” be like 

12:00 approach a partner’s body with curiosity regardless of gender

18:00 controversial idea: fluid and expansive educators will understand sexuality better

25:00 trying new things all the time 

30:00 goth kids do it in the cemetery 

33:00 dirty talk tips

39:00 everybody likes different things, sexually

44:00 using toys: our entire bodies can be stimulated

52:00 on “heteroflexible” as a term 

57:00 other examples of sexual scripts

1:00:00 resource requests

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What can it mean to be kinky and how can we play more safely and creatively? Domina Franco M.Ed has two decades of experience and gives advice and info about kink play and trauma. 

4:00 what is kink? 

8:00 how some types of play and relationships are pathologized 

12:00 on being a joyful sadist and human furniture 

20:00 slut play 

28:00 a theory on why some people love submission

32:00 Consensual Non-consent play or “rape role play”

40:00 how to screen for safer dominant partners

45:00 topping is a sacred responsibility

54:00 mint green bandanas mean mommy kink

1:00:00 book recommendations on kink and BDSM

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We all experience jealousy and feel it on a spectrum: learn how to manage it with relationship-building expert Dr Joli Hamilton.

3:00 different relationship styles 

6:00 why call it CNM instead of ENM 

14:00 what purposes does jealousy serve?

18:00 people don’t like identifying they are jealous - feeling shame about feeling jealous

19:00 how mismanaged jealousy can do great harm

24:00 how do I ask to open up an existing relationship? 

29:00 I hate my partner’s partner - what to do?

38:00 how to own your jealousy

48:00 germophobes and sharing