They Talk Sex

Got sexual health questions? Primary care physician and consent educator Dr Evelin Dacker has information and tips for people of all ages.

Timestamps: 

1:00 meet your doctor

3:00 sexual health isn’t taught to most medical experts

6:00 why does my vulva get wet with a tampon in?

8:00 vulvodynia due to birth control for some folks

12:00 does your doctor deserve your disclosure?

15:00 being “out” as a sex-positive doctor 

18:00 seeing sexuality through all the ages

22:00 urinary tract infections and D-mannose 

24:00 hysterectomy tips

28:00 cervical orgasms 

31:00 how is the CDC sex-negative?

38:00 assess your actual risks

41:00 multiple partners does not equal more STIs

48:00 can a lot of masturbation hurt me?

53:00 is there any benefit to semen retention?

57:00 diabetes and erectile/engorgement complications

1:00:00 resources and recs

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Ever wanted to ask my slutty pals all your most embarrassing questions? We cover a lot with Valentine, a biracial, queer, veteran sex worker, and friend. Let’s talk dating, pornmaking, kink, burnout, and self-help.

1:00 meet your guest, Valentine 

4:00 why be closeted? 

7:00 filming porn with mascs vs femmes

10:00 pregnant sex workers and choice

13:00 how we feel about sexting apps

22:00 know how to set an appropriate vibe 

27:00 tips for anxious club customers 

31:00 strippers get nervous too

35:00 and we fart on the customers we don’t like

36:00 tips to prevent dating burnout

40:00 more dating advice for sex workers and those who love us

44:00 when your partner has anger issues

49:00 how to do Dom/Sub in public, discreetly 

55:00 how to enjoy sex after sexual assault

59:00 you can conquer anything if you believe in yourself

1:00:00 sensory issues and sex anxiety

1:03:00 gender-neutral endearment

1:08:00 libido differences in partners/couples

1:13:00 penis envy in women?

1:19:00 foot fetish-conflict advice 

1:25:00 sworkers can teach us a lot!

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How does public opinion of sex toys shape their design? On vibrators, let’s talk history, personal preferences, and horror stories with guest and innovative toy designer Ti Chang.

1:00 what was the first vibrator you ever owned?

4:00 some buyers are ashamed of their pleasure

8:00 standards and testing rigor of the future 

12:00 sex toys in the mall? Yes and maybe

15:00 common design issues or complaints

18:00 pros of a tiny toy - less intimidating for new users

21:00 suction toys can be intense for sensitive folks

25:00 I learn something new with every sex convo 

28:00 brief history of covert sex toys

33:00 poorly made toys can hurt you

37:00 magnets - how do they work? 

40:00 listener submitted sex toy horror stories

45:00 when toys get stuck in a rectum or colon

48:00 tech can help with disabled sex too

52:00 attitudes about pleasure informs how products are made

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How does a non-theistic religion relate to sexuality, consent, human trafficking, and personal rituals? Our expert academic Dr Sprankle teaches about history and the impacts of religiosity on human sexuality.

1:00 he’s a twitter hit

4:00 this is a good long running joke

8:00 Satanists don’t believe in a literal devil

10:00 no prohibitions on taboos, yes to consent 

13:00 occultism or rationalism, and rituals 

16:00 how society treats sex workers can lead to stressors

21:00 a religion of Self

25:00 listener questions 

28:00 ejaculations are healthy

31:00 ritual can be impactful

34:00 the history of “satanic panic”

39:00 underlying themes and messaging 

45:00 a random web search 

50:00 resources

54:00 all the popes have been accused of satanism

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In a culture that doesn’t understand grief, how do survivors of intimate partner death loss navigate their sexuality? Counselor and author Megan Devine offers help with libido, relationships and shame.

1:00 she was a counselor before her husband died

3:00 reflecting on the “before” life

7:00 death can feel like different rooms in hell 

9:00 people are afraid of death and sexuality

12:00 the blaming suicide survivors or victims

13:00 elle’s advice for suicide grief survivors

17:00 craving their body that no longer exists

22:00 anchoring, comforting, sex can help

26:00 what is normal?

29:00 what is working for my healing? what is more dangerous?

35:00 any kind of pleasure during grief can create guilt

40:00 personal agency is important

43:00 pleasure doesn’t cancel out pain

47:00 skin to skin contact is soothing

52:00 loving again feels scary

55:00 a new podcast about grief - for helpers!

1:00:00 when the connection urge still exists:

1:05:00 resources and recommendations 

1:08:00 sex after death advice means having curiosity 

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Have you ever accidentally or knowingly pushed on someone’s boundaries? We all have, so how do we communicate our needs and heal our harm? Let’s talk about queerness, flirting, sex, and accountability in trauma and relationships with writer Clementine Morrigan.

1:00 meet your guest

5:00 examples of how consent can be confused

6:00 queer imposter syndrome

10:00 verbal consent doesn’t work for everyone 

13:00 i identify a traumatized, nice to meet you

16:00 knowing your own triggers is quite helpful

20:00 crossing men’s boundaries

23:00 drinking, drugs, and consent

27:00 taking a pause is necessary and sometimes sexy

31:00 how to communicate when you’re tied up?

36:00 subs gotta use their safe words when they need ‘em

40:00 intent matters and is relevant

45:00 kids and modeled consent

50:00 penetration isn’t inherent to sex play

53:00 sex without penetration is sex

58:00 reflections of how we messed up before

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Is your heart still hurting and you need help with moving on? There’s a book for that, and I chat with the author, counselor Erin E. Davidson.
1:00 guest background

3:00 Elle’s quick tips for getting over people

6:00 breakups can be a type of grief

9:00 when you find excuses to contact them

13:00 recruiting your breakup team

17:00 rumination and “switching tracks”

22:00 life will be better again if you can leave safely

27:00 disenfranchised grief 

31:00 on being judged for divorcing AGAIN

35:00 the right relationship for the time being

41:00 some silly study on feeling better over time

45:00 breakup pain can go up and down

50:00 resources

53:00 Elle says F U to an ex

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Foreskin removal and reconstruction: guest Eric Cunningham shares history and medical knowledge relating to penis-altering procedures around the world.

1:00 language disclaimer 

5:00 penis circumcision is fairly rare, worldwide

8:00 circumcision in the US originated due to misbeliefs 

11:00 war and enslavement and the marking of genitals

15:00 Alexander the great wanted to stop genital cutting

20:00 the Olympics relates to circumcision

30:00 chastity devices 

32:00 surgeries conducted on genitals to prevent sexual function

38:00 you have frenulums all over

42:00 ribbed condoms mimic foreskin

47:00 circumcision doesn’t seem to reduce STI transmission

57:00 resource recommendations

1:00:00 animals have foreskins too

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For all genders: size anxiety, euphoria, acceptance, and individuality is explained to us by author Elle Chase, CSE.

1:00 this is about body acceptance, not love

5:00 the burden of negative cultural influences

10:00 gender roles for body image

15:00 how are bigger bodied people treated differently?

20:00 FOSTA/SESTA has hurt fat people 

25:00 how can straight-sized sex workers help?

31:00 Listener Questions

35:00 fat jiggling is really sexy to a lot of people

45:00 elle’s tips for anxiety and masturbation

50:00 what IS restrictive eating?

54:00 share what you love about your partner’s bigger body?

58:00 elle loves scissoring

1:02:00 more book resources and breathing reminders

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 Learn some behind-the-scenes secrets and production tricks as we talk to a xxx performer who has been making adult content for a decade.

1:00 Gem makes porn - meet your guest

5:00 nude model contracts can be weird 

10:00 would you prefer to let your spouse manage your OnlyFans?

13:00 likes/dislikes about adult content creation

17:00 chafed labias are a downside of a busy calendar

23:00 this stuff isn’t always easy!

26:00 on setting boundaries during live shows

30:00 filming feedback and mishaps

36:00 it sucks getting your period on camera

40:00 how to not get your IG deleted by OnaArtist

43:00 how we feel about anti porn people who claim they fight trafficking

48:00 what could change about the web porn industries?

52:00 sex tips and advice from Gem

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