How to run yourself as a more sustainable, cheerful and profitable business: business coach Carmen Santos from Racks-to -Riches offers advice for veteran strippers, baby strippers, and civilians.

1:10 most of us auditioning have zero or little knowledge of how to do the jobs

4:00 communication and sales skills matter

7:00 viewing yourself as a business

10:00 intergenerational and gender issues relating to financial education

15:00 employee vs contractor status

17:00 annoying things that clients do - don’t do these!

24:00 how to deal with those same old questions

36:00 alcohol wears people down

40:00 how to reframe aging in sex industries

45:00 privacy and disclosure advice

49:00 social media use is energy

53:00 bad legislation and laws 

55:00 what makes a good club

59:00 business advice resources 

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1:03:00 on dating yourself 

Facts, FAQs and communication about a common virus that many of us live with, with herpes educator and suicide-prevention organizer Courtney Brame.

2:00 - herpes diagnoses can make people suicidal

7:00 - shame about COVID and herpes 

12:00 - skin friction is how herpes is transmitted, sexually or not

19:00 - mental health and sexuality

26:00 - disclosure: when should I?

30:00 - the three most common responses to “I have herpes”

38:00 - different ways to disclose to partners

42:00 - therapists should be herpes literate 

52:00 - immune system support is critical

1:00:00 - what's' it like telling strangers you have herpes, regularly?

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Sex coach and author Stella Harris offers advice and tips on how to prep, plan and practice pleasure with three or more partners.

4:00 why do people want to have threesomes?

8:00 conflict is perhaps more likely with more people interacting

12:00 having sex positive friends creates more opportunity for pleasure 

17:00 on web options or paying for it

24:00 how do you meet people for a third?

27:00 sci-fi and fantasy nerds often engage in sexual diversity

35:00 options for play that don’t involve fluid exchange or penetration 

45:00 perks of being a unicorn

50:00 most porn is not education

59:00 bisexuality in men isn’t as supported 

1:03:00 fantasy is not the same as reality

1:07:00 more resource recommendations

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Clinician and author Silva Neves explains common misconceptions about so-called “sex addiction” and gives help to folks navigating distressing concerns about their own sexualities.

4:00 Lack of sexuality training with sex workers 

7:30 sex addiction type treatment is shaming of people 

9:40 why “sex addiction” is not an accurate term

11:00 your body doesn’t withdraw from lack of sex, and can’t OD on sex

19:00 trauma and attachment 

20:00 non-monogamy 

25:00 sex positivity includes body positivity 

Fetishes, poly, kinky, sex workers, disability, queer, asexual all need to be included in sex therapy

27:00 what sex-positive really means

29:00 asexuality is real 

31:00 conversion “therapy”

36:00 How to share a trauma story with partners

40:00 porn doesn't make people violent

47:00 relational trauma is common 

51:00 what is digisesxuality?

53:00 what is chemsex?

59:00 how to surf your emotions

1:11:00 monogamy is a christian concept

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On loving the work, being attacked by haters, trans man adult performer Trip Richards shares his experiences with pornmaking, dating, and censorship.

8:00 we are a mish-mosh of identities

12:00 perks of the work

18:00 trans porn resources

25:00 trip was deactivated on IG shortly after this recording

28:00 on cis women + trans man porn demand

32:00 most of us can’t be authentic in capitalism

40:00 dating as a performer

43:00 what was the pornhub scandal about?

46:00 there’s more child abuse material uploaded to facebook than pornhub

53:00 shame around desires causes violence

57:00 he’s a cat dad

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