January 14, 2026

This Is Not the Day to Push Through

18 minutes

There are days when “just pushing through” isn’t strength—it’s a survival reflex.

In this episode, I talk about what happens in our nervous systems when violence, injustice, or collective trauma hits close to home. When something tragic happens, your body doesn’t experience it as news. It experiences it as threat.

And for many ADHD women—especially those who are justice-sensitive—that threat lands deeply.

We will explore:

• Why ADHD nervous systems tend to react strongly to injustice

• How emotional heaviness, numbness, or shutdown are normal responses

• Why suppressing feelings often shows up later in the body

• How to safely make space for what you’re feeling without collapsing

• When to work with emotions alone—and when to seek support

• Why action and advocacy can be regulating when done intentionally

I also share specific, accessible ways to take action if that feels right for you—without pressure, shame, or urgency.

This episode is not about productivity.

It’s not about fixing yourself.

And it’s not about bypassing what your body already knows.

It’s about meeting this moment honestly and supporting yourself with care.

Resources Mentioned in the Episode

ResistBot

Text the word RESIST to 50409

Or visit ResistBot online to contact your representatives

https://resist.bot/

5 Calls App

Provides current issues, call scripts, and direct connections to representatives

https://5calls.org/

—CHAPTERS—

00:00 Introduction: Pushing Through Isn't Strength

01:06 Welcome to the Self Loved ADHD Woman's Way Podcast

01:47 Coping with Tragic Events

02:54 Understanding Our Feelings and Reactions

05:56 Normalizing Emotional Responses

12:16 Taking Action and Advocacy

17:13 Conclusion: Supporting Yourself and Others

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DISCLAIMER: This podcast is for informational purposes only and should not be considered legal health or medical advice. We are not responsible for any losses, damages, or liabilities that may arise from the use of this podcast. This podcast is not intended to replace professional medical advice or psychotherapy.

If you are experiencing a medical or mental health emergency please contact emergency services in your area. If you are in the USA, dial 988 for the Suicide and Crisis line or 911 for a medical emergency.

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