My monthly guest, sex and relationship therapist, Dr Christine Hyde, shares how resentments (unmet expectations) fester and deteriorate a relationship and what we can do to change that trajectory.

She expresses that primary topic she works through with couples are the resentments that underlie. Learning how to acknowledge and change how we react to our own resentments will change the foundation of the relationship.

About Dr Christine Hyde

Dr Hyde is the founder of NJ Center for Sex Therapy and has been a practicing sex therapist for over 26 years.

⁠https://njsextherapy.com/⁠

⁠Instagram: @sexconsultingwithdr.hyde⁠

Where to find me or work with me:

Instagram:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠@IronStrongFit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Website:⁠ ⁠⁠⁠⁠IronStrongFitness.net⁠⁠⁠

My small group strength training schedule in Jersey City: ⁠https://straightupstrong.as.me/tinas-jersey-city-group⁠

Each week's episode drops Tuesday 7am ET

Last week, I had a conversation with a trainer asking me if she needed any special certifications or books to better serve her clients in perimenopause/post menopause.

Menopause has been a taboo societal subject since the beginning of time and it is not only more openly discussed.

Because of this, trainers (and everyone actually) have little background or education on what their clients may be experiencing.

In this episode, I share 2 of my go to books that will be helpful for a health & wellness non-medical professional who works with women over 40 and give some insight on how the menopause transition affects women's workouts and what they need to be adding into their fitness.

In a couple months, I'll be hosting an hour long webinar diving a little deeper into the subject. I'll keep you posted!

Where to find me or work with me:

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@IronStrongFit ⁠⁠⁠⁠

Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠IronStrongFitness.net⁠⁠

My small group strength training schedule in Jersey City: https://straightupstrong.as.me/tinas-jersey-city-group

Each week's episode drops Tuesday 7am ET

This episode is about how we can create our own opportunities when none seem to be available. 

I talk about why I actually opened up my own jewelry stores and the opportunities that opened up to me when I spent 3 years organizing a annual one day event, The Fit Festival.

Sharing these two stories with the intention of encouraging you to create your own opportunities.

Where to find me or work with me:

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@IronStrongFit ⁠⁠⁠⁠

Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠IronStrongFitness.net⁠⁠

My small group strength training schedule in Jersey City: https://straightupstrong.as.me/tinas-jersey-city-group

Each week's episode drops Tuesday 7am ET

This episode is dedicated to women 40-55.

I share a story about my friend who texted me "Omg she is amazing! We have a plan and I feel so grateful right now, to both you and Dr. Potter. " after meeting with her new gynecologist.

If you haven't already found a gynecologist who makes you feel heard and understands truly what you're going through, listen to this short episode.

As I mention in the episode, head here to search for a menopause certified doctor near you: https://portal.menopause.org/NAMS/NAMS/Directory/Menopause-Practitioner.aspx

Where to find me or work with me:

Back Squat Workshop in NYC on Feb 24, 2024:

https://ironstrongfitness.lpages.co/back-squat-workshop-new-york-city/

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@IronStrongFit ⁠⁠⁠⁠

Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠IronStrongFitness.net⁠⁠

My small group strength training schedule in Jersey City: https://straightupstrong.as.me/tinas-jersey-city-group

Each week's episode drops Tuesday 7am ET

My monthly guest, Dr Christine Hyde, shares ways to enhance the bedroom through the 5 senses for a wonderful Valentines Day evening (and any romantic evening for that matter.

About Dr Hyde:

Dr Christine Hyde is the founder of NJ Center for Sex Therapy and has been a practicing sex therapist for over 26 years.

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sexconsultingwithdr.hyde

Website: https://njsextherapy.com/

Where to find me or work with me:

Get on the waitlist for my free 10 day workout challenge that starts in February: https://ironstrongfitness.lpages.co/free-10-day-workout-challenge/

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@IronStrongFit ⁠⁠⁠⁠

Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠IronStrongFitness.net⁠⁠

My small group strength training schedule in Jersey City: https://straightupstrong.as.me/tinas-jersey-city-group

Each week's episode drops Tuesday 7am ET

In this week’s podcast episode, we’re talking about how to make new friends as adults and how to create long lasting beyond superficial friendships.

The experts I have on today are two friends in my life who have an abnormally large and deep friendship fabric that surrounds their lives.

Sima Schloss, a mixed media artist and adjunct professor, aged 52, is an example of someone who continues to grow her close friends during a time when most people have downsized their relationships.  Every time there is a special occasion gathering, I am always meeting new friends of Sima’s that she’s picked up each year of her life. 

Cennet Kocak, an IRS auditor, aged 38 has deep close friendships that extend before her college years and she continues to develop close friendships in her life and community.   A year ago at her birthday party (not even a milestone one), there were 75 people (and not superficial friends) invited where one even flew in from Florida. Friends show up for her in response to the way she does for them. 

I chose these two for this interview  because I have observed the depth and breath of their friendships and I wanted to dig a little deeper into what they do as advice and tips for the rest of us so that we can age with a deep and true community around us. 

Where to find me or work with me:

Get on the waitlist for my free 10 day fitness challenge (starts in Feb 2024): https://www.straightupstrong.com/10dayfitnesschallenge

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@IronStrongFit ⁠⁠⁠⁠

Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠IronStrongFitness.net⁠⁠

My small group strength training schedule in Jersey City: https://straightupstrong.as.me/tinas-jersey-city-group

Each week's episode drops Tuesday 7am ET

As I mentioned in the introduction, here is how to join the waitlist for my free 10 Day Fitness Challenge that starts late February: https://straightupstrong.com/2024freechallenge

In this episode I share two events in my life (France & a business pitch contest) that have taught me to question discomfort and to say yes to opportunities. I share these two events to encourage you to say yes to uncomfortable opportunities.

Where to find me or work with me:

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@IronStrongFit ⁠⁠⁠⁠

Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠IronStrongFitness.net⁠⁠

My small group strength training schedule in Jersey City: https://straightupstrong.as.me/tinas-jersey-city-group

Each week's episode drops Tuesday 7am ET

This is our last episode for season 1 (2023). The new podcast season will start January 30, 2024.

In this episode, Dr. Christine Hyde shares gift ideas for couples based on the five love languages. The five love languages are words of affirmation, quality time, gifts, acts of service, and physical touch.

For words of affirmation, Dr. Hyde suggests writing love notes, creating a deck of cards with things you love about your partner, or ordering custom fortune cookies with love messages.

10,000 Ways to say I love you by Gregory Godek here.

For quality time, she recommends a scratch-off dating book or planning a romantic dinner. Gifts can be thoughtful gestures or personalized items.

Adventure Challenge for Couples book here.

Acts of service can include coupons for help with household chores or pre-paid services.

Sex checks here

For physical touch, Dr. Hyde suggests massage candles, sensual masks, and intimate toys. She also shares ideas for games, books, and cards to enhance intimacy.

Melony Massage Candle here

Takeaways

Gifts should be tailored to your partner's love language.

Words of affirmation can be expressed through love notes and verbal expressions of love.

Quality time can be enhanced with scratch-off dating books and romantic dinners.

Acts of service can include coupons for help with chores or pre-paid services.

Physical touch can be enhanced with massage candles, sensual masks, and intimate toys.

Games, books, and cards can also be used to enhance intimacy.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Love Languages

01:01 Words of Affirmation

03:47 Quality Time

07:30 Gifts

09:26 Acts of Service

10:53 Physical Touch

16:05 Games

17:41 Books and Cards

18:48 Conclusion

About Dr Christine Hyde:

Dr Hyde is the founder of NJ Center for Sex Therapy and has been a practicing sex therapist for over 26 years.

https://njsextherapy.com/

Where to find me or work with me:

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@IronStrongFit ⁠⁠⁠⁠

Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠IronStrongFitness.net⁠⁠

My small group strength training schedule in Jersey City: https://straightupstrong.as.me/tinas-jersey-city-group

Each week's episode drops Tuesday

I add HIIT workouts into my week and other post menopausal women should, too,

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HIIT (high-intensity interval training) and SIT (sprint interval training) workouts are beneficial for postmenopausal women because they help improve cardiovascular fitness, increase muscle mass, and boost metabolism.⁣

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During menopause, women experience a decline in estrogen levels, which can lead to a variety of physical changes in the body. HIIT & SIT workouts serve as an alternative gateway for the body to replace the roles of what estrogen once did.⁣

HIIT: High Intensity Interval Training

80-85% effort where there's a little bit of gas left in the tank. Work periods are more than 30 seconds. Rest periods not quite enough for full recovery between intervals.

SIT:  Sprint Interval Training

100% effort where legs burn, heart barely keeping up for a work period that is less than 30 seconds. 

Long rests (like 3 minutes) between work intervals so that performance is always 100%. It’s hard to have your heart working as hard as it can which is why these sprints are short. 

For more on the science and research, read Dr Stacy Sims book, Next Level. Dr Sims is physiologist and nutrition scientist who focuses solely on women's health and exercise.

This is the second to last episode of the season 2023. The new season of podcasts start in late January 2024.

Where to find me or work with me:

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@IronStrongFit ⁠⁠⁠⁠

Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠IronStrongFitness.net⁠⁠

My small group strength training schedule in Jersey City: https://straightupstrong.as.me/tinas-jersey-city-group

Each week's episode drops Tuesday

I share my honest and candid experience as a step parent for 10 years. This is not to say everyone's experience will be negative. I wanted to share some insight on the difficulties that arise in this role that most people won't tell you publicly.

When I think back on my marriage, I believe I would still be married if it were not for the arguments we had about co-parenting (with me as step mom).

The step-parent's role is not talked about enough.

Where to find me or work with me:

Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@IronStrongFit ⁠⁠⁠⁠

Website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠IronStrongFitness.net⁠⁠

My small group strength training schedule in Jersey City: https://straightupstrong.as.me/tinas-jersey-city-group

Each week's episode drops Tuesday