Do you have a close friend of the opposite sex, with whom you can speak intimately and informally? I do and boy, am I fortunate. This is a non-judgemental, playful, and open conversation between two people that have been really good friends for almost a decade.

In this episode, I invite my dear friend, Tom, to the show. I’ll be asking about his sexual experiences from adolescence, how his sex life has changed from early 20s to approaching 30s, what’s his take on the dating scene in the advent of dating apps, as well as his take on the #MeToo movement.

We discuss things like:

1. Do you have sex today compared to how you used to have sex? Do you view differently?
2. Do you talk to your male friends about sex? What does that conversation look like?
3. Dating in your early 20s vs your late 20s? What is different?
4. Views on parenthood?
5. What’s your view on dating in the advent of dating apps?
6. What's your take on the MeToo movement?

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This episode is for those who need help understanding transgender experiences. Maybe you are  intimidated by the LBGTQ jargon or feel like you can’t keep up. Maybe you have kids that are experiencing gender dysphoria or gender fluidity. Maybe you are a person who feels like you’ve never REALLY FELT LIKE you’ve been yourself and are looking for answers.

Wherever you’re at, Episode 12, this episode, is going to provide you with a new perspective. I’ve brought back special guest and sex-educator, Elleri Scriver, who is pursuing a self-designed sex education undergraduate degree from Knox College in Illinois — the first undergrad program of it’s kind. Elleri, also goes by Eli, and uses pronouns he/him and they/them, which he’ll explain in the episode. In this episode, he speaks in great detail about his own transgender adventure, educating us on terminology and important dos and donts that cis-people could benefit knowing about. Thank you Eli, for sharing with us things that are, quite frankly, none of our business.

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TAKE A LOOK at the genderbread person! http://bit.ly/genderbread

Find out more about Eli: https://www.instagram.com/elleri.scriver/

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What the heck is prostate massage? Prostate milking? The male G-spot? In this episode, we’re going to tell you all about it — how prostate massage can lead to powerful 'Super' orgasms. Our guest, Marlon is sharing his story about his sexual education upbringing, walks us through his curiosity with anal play, and in great detail shares with us his first-time experience of using a prostate massage.

Shop prostate massagers:https://www.aneros.com/#a_aid=ellenmelon

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Discussed in the episode:

Prostate Massage 101 - The Ins and Outs of Prostate Play: https://youtu.be/xAWUvRrJHII

WHERE IS THE MALE G-SPOT? - Mantak Chia: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=46P8dVsKCR8

Bad Girls Bible, #9: PROSTATE MASSAGE & SUPER ORGASMS (SERIOUSLY) WITH FORREST ANDREWS OF ANEROS: https://badgirlsbible.com/episode-9-prostate-massage-and-super-orgasms-with-forrest-walker

Speaking of Sex with the Pleasure Mechanics, podcast episodes on Prostate Massage:

MUST LISTEN: Prostate Milking, Episode #185: https://www.pleasuremechanics.com/prostate-milking/

Pegging and Prostate Play, Episode #192: https://www.pleasuremechanics.com/pegging-and-prostate-play/

Unleash The Power of Prostate Orgasms, Episode #43: https://www.pleasuremechanics.com/unleash-the-power-of-prostate-orgasms/

Pegging & Everything There Is To Know About It - Coffee With Alice Little: https://youtu.be/ALOkjuRkINg

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Alice Little is the most successful licensed sex worker in the United States. She has been voted the #1 Companion of the Year at the world famous Moonlite Bunny Ranch legal brothel in Carson City, Nevada. She is also an intimacy and sexuality coach, an outspoken advocate for sex worker rights and vocal champion for an all-inclusive sex-positive society.

In this episode, we get to know Alice personally, learning about her childhood upbringing, how she learned about sex-ed, and her early career steps that led her to becomming a legal brothel sex worker. We have a discussion on the common misconceptions about the sex work industy and its stigmas. Lastly, I get to ask Alice some fun and juicy questions about her work as a sex worker — the good, the bad, and the ugly.

Alice has managed to use her notoriety as one of the highest-earning sex workers in the world to push forward causes that she believes in. She founded the political action group “Hookers for Healthcare” to fight for healthcare policies that benefit sex workers and other stigmatized groups. She also co-founded the Nevada Brothel Association, a committee that advocates for the rights of women working in Nevada’s bordellos.

Alice has been featured in the Huffington Post, Buzzfeed, The Daily Beast, Refinery 29, BBC News, CNN, ABC Nightline, and on the Tim Ferris Show and Shane & Friends podcasts.

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Alice Little YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCMl6gE-PPKdjIWgJaNlvK3w/featured

How to Become a Sex Worker - Ask a Sex Worker: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OItZDz1m95w

https://www.instagram.com/thealicelittleofficial/

https://thealicelittle.com/

Intimacy coaching with Ellen Melon: www.ellenmelon.com/Intimacy-coaching

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Are you having a baby soon? Your FIRST baby soon? Lots of women express “not knowing enough” or being “terrified of the pain” during their first childbirth — Vaginal tearing being at the top of that list.

Perineal tears are tears that occur between the vaginal opening and your anus, and are very common, and heal quickly, however not many people get the full education and outlook on their options. That’s what Alyssa will be telling us about today – the information she wished she would have known ahead of delivering her first child.

In this episode, she shares with us intimate details about her anatomy, sex after childbirth, and lessons learned. She assures us that you don’t have to be scared of the pain in delivering a baby AND in fact, there are methods out there that ENSURE you don’t take that view on your labor plan.

Alyssa boldly shares her experience in having baby #1 with an epidural, and baby #2  as a natural birth, integrated with a breathing method called Hypnobabies.

This episode is somewhat graphic, so proceed with caution.

Hypnobabies: https://www.hypnobabies.com/how-does-it-work/

Article on Vaginal Tearing:https://www.huffingtonpost.ca/entry/vaginal-tearing_ca_5cd53f11e4b07bc7297634c7

POST BABY HANKY PANKY Keeping the Spark Alive: To help normalize postpartum sexual concerns and open the lines of communication both between partners, and also between health care providers and new parents. http://postbabyhankypanky.com/ (by Dr. Natalie Rosen)

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How do you initiate sex with your partner or partner(s)? Do you give them a look, do you send them a text, do you outright ask? Are you someone who always initiates sex? Never initiates sex? 

In this episode, I’ll be discussing research on initiating sex, why being rejected sexually is so devistating in a partnership, understanding why we initiate sex, communication styles around initiating sex, and finally tips in dealing with rejection with the communication tools to help you out. This part 2 of 2 — If you haven’t listened to Part 1, make sure to check it out — #7. The messages we receive about sex when we’re young Part 1 of 2.

Things I call out:

Speaking of Sex with the Pleasure Mechanics #356 — Taking Turns In Bed : How To Practice The Skills of Giving and Receiving Pleasure:  https://www.pleasuremechanics.com/taking-turns-in-bed-how-to-practice-the-skills-of-giving-and-receiving-pleasure/

Sex Ed THe musical: EPISODE 36: 10 SEXY THINGS YOU CAN DO THIS WEEKEND: https://www.sexedthemusical.com/podcast/10-sexy-things-to-do-this-weekend

Works cited:

Who Initiates Sex and why it Matters so Much: https://youtu.be/gIUjpXAcH64

The Sex-Starved Relationship: https://youtu.be/tSs2dXDf1Zs

School of Life: How to Help Your Partner Remember That You Exist: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-k1u87s2Azc

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This is Part 1 of a 2-Part series. 

Part 1 is about (Episode 7) The messages we receive about sex when we’re young and Part 2 is (Episode 8) Tips on initiating sex and dealing with rejection in relationships. Both of these episodes were born from a place of frustration with Ellen’s own libido, sexual shame, self worth and vulnerability. They contain her experiences and tools used for growth in sex/pleasure and also the things she’s learned from listening to others experiences.

In this episode we talk about libido (sexual desires), shame around our bodies, and unpack the messages Ellen received about sex at a young age. Ellen has also created a tool that she will walk through, in order to help listeners uncover their own messages — in hopes that they give up their own sexual shame.

Activity: Blog post related to episode www.ellenmelon.com/blog/messageswereceive

Goddess Gatherings: www.ellenmelon.com/events

Book: "Dear Ijeawele, or A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions” by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie: https://www.chimamanda.com/book/dear-ijeawele-or-a-feminist-manifesto-in-fifteen-suggestions/

TED TALK: Nicole Daedone - Orgasm: The Cure for Hunger in the Western Woman: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s9QVq0EM6g4

TED TALK: The Pleasure Principle: The Secret to a Better Sex Life | Laurie Betito: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lnigGtrwAfs

TED TALK: Reclaiming Female Sexual Desire | Pam Costa: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0Sn_UhcXZm4

Pastor Nadia Bolz-Weber Gets 'Shameless' About Sex: https://www.npr.org/2019/01/13/684505811/pastor-nadia-bolz-weber-gets-shameless-about-sex

5 Things Every Couple MUST Discuss Before Getting Married

https://www.huffpost.com/entry/15-things-every-couple-mu_b_5638629

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We all know that maintaining a relationship between 2 people is hard work, so what would it be like if there was a third? With the rise in polyamory and non-monogamy, we’re seeing a shift away from traditional relationships and today we’re talking about thrupples and bisexuality.

In this episode, we sit down with a dear friend of mine, Mallory who has been in monogamous relationships her whole life...UNTIL the last couple years. She unconvered she was bisexual not too long ago and has since been in a non-monogamous relationship, specifically called a triad or a throuple. What does it take to maintain a healthy, strong dynamic between the parties involved in a long-term threesome? Well, she’s going to share with us her story and with it, a different perspective on relationships.

Podcast recommended: https://www.turnmeonpodcast.com/

Resources from the podcast "Turn Me On" about being bisexual. 

09 - Bisexuality: Whatever You Got In Your Pants I Can Deal With https://open.spotify.com/episode/1sCF8D9ifi2Ve4KVM2pM7p?si=dSCVeHlwRGSzCjRIkn63Rg

This episode (above) has a cool question sent in from a listener asking how to approach adding a 3rd in the bedroom.

08 - "Was I Born Gay?" https://open.spotify.com/episode/36yusZlSSNL4gUywQ6pY88?si=cElJihJvR_aYmfWW3BP1xQ

Find Mallory online:

https://www.instagram.com/maljean89/

https://mallycreative.com/

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THE PENIS (AND ITS ERECTION) IS NOT THE CENTER OF THE SEXUAL UNIVERSE and we need to stop putting that kind of pressure on penises. In this episode we are discussing erectile dysfunction (also known as ED) with Sex Therapist, Joe Molinari — What is erectile dysfunction and why does it happen? 

Joe has helped couples and inidivduals with all kinds of emoitional complications that can arise during sex. I wanted to have Joe on the show teach us about difficulties with erections providing us with some tips and examples we can use to comfortably and courageously discuss ED in relationships.

Joe Molinari, LCSW, LICSW, CST, Pronouns: He/Him/His

AASECT Certified Sex Therapist | Certified EMDR Therapist | Licensed Clinical Social Worker

Find out more about him here:

https://www.joemolinari.com/

http://www.menssexcoach.com

Suggested book resource: Coping With ED by Barry McCarthy

https://www.amazon.com/Coping-Erectile-Dysfunction-Regain-Confidence/dp/1572243864

Bondesque (located in MPLS, MN):

https://www.facebook.com/pg/bondesque/about/?ref=page_internal

http://www.bondesque.com/

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“The-birds-and-the-bees” — We all know the term, but not all of us got an opportunity to have that conversation. Maybe we talked to a friend. A cousin. A sibling. Some may have even had the stereotypical talk — the one where you sit and wince through an awkward lecture WITH your parent(s). Whatever the case, we seem to never revisit it, if there even was a conversation to revisit. Today, Ellen sits down with Mary, her mother, to revisit that conversation. They’ll talk about:

1. How Mary was taught sex-ed
2. How Mary was taught about her menstrual cycle
3. How sex was discussed in school, among peers, and at home
4. What Mary would have done differently in Ellen’s sexual education 

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