Too Smart For This

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Show Notes:

4:35 What do you do when your dream job doesn’t fulfill you?
4:48 Understanding when to quit and walk away
5:30 Decide what, in your life, is most fulfilling and chase after it
9:59 Embarking on the lifelong journey of self-love, self-care, and self-discovery
11:52 Navigating the stress of post-graduate life without a strong familial support system
13:00 Four pieces of advice that have allowed me to navigate the confusion and chaos of the past few years
13:08 Have a plan, but be flexible!
13:42 Learning to adapt is essential for your growth and happiness
14:17 How to view setbacks as learning opportunities
14:54 Bigger and better things are always on the horizon
16:14 When you invest in yourself, that money always comes back to you
16:21 Viewing everything you do with the utmost importance will only allow you to succeed 17:23 Importance of taking time to connect with yourself
17:29 Morning and night routines are essential in building self-confidence
17:39 Doing things for yourself, not for others
18:37 How to bet on yourself

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The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho
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Hello my friends and welcome back to Too Smart For This! This week's episode is with New York Times Bestselling Author Melody Beattie, who wrote the critically acclaimed CODEPENDENT NO MORE: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself. Since its publication in 1986, the book has sold over 7 million copies and continues to help countless readers heal. For the first time, Beattie unflinchingly reveals her personal story. She also addresses trauma and anxiety in an all-new chapter—subjects she has long felt necessary to address within the context of codependency. She has broadened the lens to address a wide range of compulsive behaviors—making the book even more relevant today than it was when it first entered the national conversation over 35 years ago. Glennon Doyle, Jen Hatmaker, Brené Brown, Whitney Cummings, and many others have been vocal about the importance of CODEPENDENT NO MORE in their lives—and this new edition is poised to reach a new generation of readers. Melody Beattie's compassionate and insightful look into codependency—the concept of losing oneself in the name of helping another—has guided millions of readers toward the understanding that they are powerless to change anyone but themselves and that caring for the self is where healing begins. With personal reflections, exercises, and instructive stories drawn from Beattie's own life and the lives of those she's counseled, CODEPENDENT NO MORE helps you break old patterns and maintain healthy boundaries, and offers a clear and achievable path to healing, hope, freedom, and happiness. For the book, shop here: https://amzn.to/3ROs7BJ   Shop Too Collective with discount code VALENTINES for 20% off this week: toocollective.com Get daily affirmation texts that remind you you’re THAT GIRL: toocollective.norby.live Subscribe to our Newsletter: toocollective.norby.live Follow Too Collective on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toocollective/?hl=en Follow Alexis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbarber/?hl=en Follow Alexis on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alexisbarber_?lang=en Subscribe to Alexis on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7-YnRrflV9g6nLMWUkwDtA

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Hello my beautiful friends and welcome back to Too Smart For This! This week's guest is the incredible Olamide Olowe, CEO and founder of Topicals! Olamide Olowe is a recent graduate of the University of California, Los Angeles where she was a pre-Med student and received a B.A. in Political Science with a concentration in Race, Ethnicity, and Politics and a minor in Entrepreneurship. In 2015, Olamide co-founded the beauty brand SheaGIRL, in partnership with SheaMoisture. Sundial Brands, parent company of SheaGIRL, was later acquired by Unilever in 2017. Currently, Olamide is the founder and CEO of Topicals, a skincare company transforming the way people feel about skin through effective products for eczema and hyperpigmentation. Olamide is passionate about harnessing the power of culture, technology, and science to improve the relationship between women of color and the beauty industry. She has received notable recognition from Harvard Business School, Google, the PAC12, and the UCLA Alumni Association. The platform she mentioned re: her entrepreneurial advice launches next week, and we will update the show notes then! Follow Olamide: https://www.instagram.com/olamideaolowe/ Follow Topicals: https://www.instagram.com/topicals/ Shop Topicals: https://mytopicals.com/?gclid=Cj0KCQiA2-2eBhClARIsAGLQ2RlbW1Q37-dptyOOUySuM264Qsm2LhaxKxNbMvt_AhYDgNpCi-7bAqYaAj7nEALw_wcB Shop Too Collective: https://toocollective.com/ [use code PODCAST15 for a discount at checkout!] Follow Too Collective: https://www.instagram.com/toocollective/ Follow Alexis: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbarber/ 


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Hi friends! This episode took a turn but I hope that it really gives some color to how I've been doing lately. Love you so much! Shop Too Collective with discount code PODCAST15 here: toocollective.com Subscribe to our Newsletter & Get on the Robe Waitlist: toocollective.norby.live Follow Too Collective on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toocollective/?hl=en Follow Alexis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbarber/?hl=en Follow Alexis on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alexisbarber_?lang=en Subscribe to Alexis on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7-YnRrflV9g6nLMWUkwDtA

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This weeks story is a tearjerker - we sit down with my new friend Sicard who you may know from his stunning TikTok that features Architectural Digest home reviews and Pinterest dreams. But his life hasn’t been all beautiful - he shares the story of how his family disowned him upon finding out that he was gay at a young age. He takes us on his journey and shares how being himself has gotten him to exactly where he wants to go. Keep up with Sicard: TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@shookerd?_t=8Z9zCPvJYLu&_r=1 Instagram: https://instagram.com/shookerd?igshid=YWJhMjlhZTc= Shop Too Collective with discount code PODCAST15 here: toocollective.com Subscribe to our Newsletter: toocollective.norby.live Follow Too Collective on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toocollective/?hl=en Follow Alexis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbarber/?hl=en Follow Alexis on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alexisbarber_?lang=en Subscribe to Alexis on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7-YnRrflV9g6nLMWUkwDtA 

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Note from Alexis: Welcome to our *new TSFT publishing day, THURSDAYS!! You all voted and this is where we are! Additionally, I accidentally say "finish up" this month's series in today's intro, but that's false - we're actually in the middle of it so we will absolutely have more fabulous Confidence episodes for you this month! CW: This episode contains discussions of eating disorders and fatphobia. Have you struggled with body and relationship confidence? So has Alexa Jay McCoy. In today's episode, she gives us the rundown of her personal history with an eating disorder, abusive ex-boyfriend, and anti-blackness that led her to feel awful in her own skin, and how she turned that around to become a thriving influencer and model.  We discuss her most recent publicized run-in at The Highlight Room, the pressures of social media, and dealing with mental health issues as an influencer. If you're in need of a pick-me-up, this episode is for you!  Shop 15% off the TOO COZY robe with code PODCAST15: https://toocollective.com/ Alexa's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexaaajay/?hl=en  Alexa's TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@flexylexxxy  Follow Too Collective on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toocollective/  Follow Alexis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbarber/ Follow Alexis on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alexisbarber_?lang=en This episode was produced by Kyle Strong.

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It’s 2023 baddies, and we’re kicking off the year with a confidence-building series from the girls who simply GET IT. If you’re in need of a reminder that being you isn’t just good enough, its all you’ve got, today’s episode with Unikue will get you there. Alexis and Uniekue jump into their shared experience of always being seen as “intimidating,” going to predominately white Boarding schools, and how they’ve taken control of their narrative with TikTok. Uniekue shares how to grow on TikTok by being yourself, and teases upcoming projects. To keep up with Unikue, check out: Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@uniekue?lang=en Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/uniekue/?hl=en YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@uniekue Shop Too Collective with discount code PODCAST15 here: toocollective.com Get daily affirmation texts that remind you you’re THAT GIRL: toocollective.norby.live Subscribe to our Newsletter: toocollective.norby.live Follow Too Collective on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toocollective/?hl=en Follow Alexis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbarber/?hl=en Follow Alexis on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alexisbarber_?lang=en Subscribe to Alexis on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7-YnRrflV9g6nLMWUkwDtA

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Hey baddies! It’s the final episode of 2022 and I cannot even believe it! We’re ending the year strong with an incredible community, so much fun, and even more goodness to come in 2023. In todays ep I’m answering your juicy questions and sharing my 2023 Favorites, all linked here! Favorites: Finances & Lifestyle Amex Platinum Card, Chase Sapphire Preferred Chani App: https://chaninicholas.com/chani-app/ Superhuman App: https://www.superhuman.app/?gclid=CjwKCAiAy_CcBhBeEiwAcoMRHNxXszkZJzN-hT0geofx-Oqsm9EIdiYvxGUotahqJf571GVGtUBEUhoC-kQQAvD_BwE Skincare: Laniege Water Mask: https://bit.ly/3DjGJ5t Laniege Moisturizer: https://bit.ly/3V5qcZx Laniege Lip Masks: https://bit.ly/3Pwcuhf Good Mollecules HA: https://bit.ly/3C4ZyJV Good Mollecules Discoloration Serum: https://bit.ly/3hyQFks Black Girl Sunscreen: https://bit.ly/3jco6dj Makeup NARS Radiant Longwear: https://bit.ly/2UFcMdN NARS Light Reflecting Foundation: https://bit.ly/3FxEBrP Charlotte Tillbury Lip Cheat: https://bit.ly/3uVnGuf Clothing Lululemon Aligns: https://bit.ly/3WlI0kc Alo Sweat Sets: https://bit.ly/3Fsd3nG Good American Jeans: https://bit.ly/3YxxSa7 Shop Too Collective with discount code PODCAST15 here: Subscribe to our Newsletter & Get on the Robe Waitlist: toocollective.norby.live Follow Too Collective on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toocollective/?hl=en Follow Alexis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbarber/?hl=en Follow Alexis on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alexisbarber_?lang=en Subscribe to Alexis on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7-YnRrflV9g6nLMWUkwDtA

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Hey baddies! Welcome back to our December series on reflecting and planning for the new year. Today, Alexis dives into the #1 thing helping her recover form this year: taking responsibility for where you are and learning how to BFFR with yourself. Hear how she develops frameworks for failure and how that can help you level ip this year. Shop Too Collective with discount code PODCAST15 here: https://toocollective.com/discount/PODCAST15?redirect=%2Fcollections%2Ffrontpage Subscribe to our Newsletter & Get on the Robe Waitlist: toocollective.norby.live Follow Too Collective on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/toocollective/?hl=en Follow Alexis on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/alexisbarber/?hl=en Follow Alexis on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@alexisbarber_?lang=en Subscribe to Alexis on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7-YnRrflV9g6nLMWUkwDtA The Tea on my 2023 Goals, Product Favorites from 2022, and How to Live a High-End Life when You Don’t Have Unlimited Funds Hey baddies! It’s the final episode of 2022 and I cannot even believe it! We’re ending the year strong with an incredible community, so much fun, and even more goodness to come in 2023. In todays ep I’m answering your juicy questions and sharing my 2023 Favorites, all linked here!

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Hi baddies! For the second installment of our end-of-year reflection series, we're talking the things you should and shouldn't keep doing in 2023 to get to your next level self. Enjoy and remember that you're too smart to not love yourself!
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