Transformational Leadership: From the Insight Out

Transformation Tip: Proverbs 4:7  'The beginning of wisdom is this: Get wisdom. Though it cost all you have, get understanding.’

Concept(s) for “Getting Wisdom:

1. Pays multiplied dividends
2. Requires Humility and produces humility
3. Teachability - a lifestyle of curiosity and growth. Always be open to learning.
4. Play the long game

Practical Tips:

1. Get wisdom 
2. Hang out with wise people
3. Apply wisdom quickly - wisdom only works if you activate and practice.
4. Know when to share it and when not to 

Transformation Application: Identify 1-2 people in your life whom you respect. Go and talk to them - coffee - and ask their advice.

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Transformation Tip: Respect is unconditional high regard for the other person

In this episode, we sit down with Julie Thomas, the President of Priority Logistics Group, based in Cincinnati, to talk about trauma-informed leadership. 

Transformation Application: Download the rest assessment.

Additional Resources:

• Contact Julie at [email protected]
• Trauma Free World has resources and an online course https://traumafreeworld.org/
• Download the Rest Assessment  https://tinyurl.com/4y9a27wj

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Transformation Tip: “When you understand that people react based on their own wounds, you will stop taking things personally." — Unknown

Concept(s)

1. When others trigger manifest in fight or flight. 
2. Triggers are often emotive and seek to gain control.
3. Recognize, and know how to respond.

Four Practical Tips for Responding to Other People’s Triggers:

• Ignore 
• Defuse or Deflect 
• Empathize without agreeing
• Confront 

Transformation Application: Choose one of the responses, and look for an opportunity to practice it this week.

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Transformation Tip: “ Your triggers are the fruit of a much deeper root!” Steve Chua

Concept(s)

1. Triggers are created by significant events that leave scars, wounds, or compartments of pain, shame, insecurity, terror, panic
2. A trigger sends a message to a memory(ies) that leaves us vulnerable and unprotected and causes us to behave in self-protective ways
    
   • The four F’s
3. Triggers can cause us to act irrationally or cause us to overreact.
4. Triggers can come from our wounded child.

We go over practical tips on how to identify trauma and how to start processing these events!

Transformation Application: Make a list of up to 3 triggers you think you might have. If you can’t think of any, ask a partner or close friend to help you identify them.

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Transformation Tip: “You can't change the beginning, but you can start where you are and change the ending.”  - CS Lewis. 

Concept(s)

1. The power of your past events isn’t found in the events themselves.  

2. You can’t change past events.  But you can change the story you tell yourself about those events.

3. We have a way to compartmentalize our pain as a self-protective coping mechanism, which can take root and establish fear, insecurity, and panic.  

4. When people are in unfamiliar territory, our brains need to develop a reason.  

Practical Steps:

In this section, we go over a step-by-step guide on how to process these narratives and change perspective so that you can change the way you look at the past!

Here’s a link to the guide:  https://www.petecoaching.com/how-to-change-your-past 

Transformation Application: Download the guide in the show notes and work through just one issue first.  If it works, do more!

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Transformation Tip: If you never heal from what hurt you, you’ll bleed on people who didn’t cut you. – Tamara Kulish

Concept(s)

1. The definition of Trauma 
2. Trauma overwhelms the amygdala and hippocampus causing memories to be trapped in time
3. Trauma questions your security and protection 
4. Trauma can reset your internal narrative
5. Trauma can also cause you to live in denial

This episode explores the practical applications you can use to help you try to tackle trauma as quickly as you can.

Transformation Application: If you’ve recognized any of the lingering signs of trauma, go seek some help.

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Welcome Alia Eyres!

In this episode, we sit down with Alia Eyres, the former CEO of Mother's Choice, to talk about navigating major life transitions. Alia shares the key indicators that signaled it was time for a change, the pivotal moment that led her to take the leap, and the emotions she faced stepping into a new chapter. She also offers insight into how she processed her last season to transition well and gives practical advice for those considering a big change.

Transformation Application (Pick one of these steps to focus on this week):

1. Be alone - solitude

2. Be selective - choose objective counsel

3. Do not force the next thing - be open and flexible - close one chapter before starting the next one. 

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Transformation Tip: “There are people less qualified than you, doing the things you want to do, simply because they chose to believe in themselves” Marshall Goldsmith

Concept(s)

1. The nature of disruption presents a window of opportunity where change happens.
2. This opportunity can be for the good or for the bad! 
3. If the window opportunity closes, it’s harder to make the change. 

Key aspects of embracing positive disruption:

• Openness to new ideas
• Experimentation: F.A.S.T
• Communication and collaboration:
• Growth mindset

Practical

• Embrace discomfort
• Identify strength
• Challenge the old systems, structures, and processes
• Clean house
• Reassessment
• Be forward-thinking
• Step up

Transformation Application:

Take a couple of hours away from distraction and ask yourself:

Q: What part of my normal life is being disrupted right now?

Q: What changes do I need to make that I’ve resisted?

Q: Who can I talk with to help process and consider alternatives?

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Transformation Tip: “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference" - The Serenity Prayer

Concept(s)

• Understand the spectrums of emotional and mental response to disruption]
• Identify the feelings you might have
• Identify your negative narratives
• Identify negative behaviors 

Transformation Application: Identify the disruption that’s troubling you, Tell someone the next two actions you will take.

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Transformation Tip: “Every best-laid plan never goes to plan” - Gen. Stanley McCrystal

Concept of Disruption:

1. The nature of it
2. How to handle it
3. The Upside of it

Transformation Application: Any disruptions in your life? Any that you see coming? Take a moment to check how it might be affecting you mentally and emotionally. Get a reading on your vitals.  Write it down (journal).

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