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Welcome back to “Speaking with Confidence.” I’m Tim Newman, your host and recovering college professor turned communication coach. In this episode, I dive into how radical responsibility shapes not only the way we communicate but the core of how we relate to ourselves and others. We look beyond typical “confidence” and get to the heart of conviction—the mindset shift that changes how we show up in our lives.

Joining me is Clay Moffat, a Navy veteran and performance strategist with a truly remarkable journey. Clay has been on top, coaching billionaires and building a seven-figure business—only to lose it all in a high-stakes startup crash. He faced the frightening possibility of permanent blindness while rebuilding his life, and from those experiences, Clay created the concept of the "trust trap"—the focus of his new book. Clay’s work helps people break free from the nervous system patterns and mental habits that keep us stuck in self-doubt, blame, and unproductive cycles, teaching not just confidence, but conviction rooted in personal power.

Our conversation starts with the central idea: what does it mean to take “radical responsibility” for our lives? Clay explains that it’s not about blaming yourself, but about owning even that “1%” of any situation that you can control or influence. As Clay puts it, reclaiming any sort of personal power, freedom, and forward motion in life begins with this kind of self-honesty. We talk about why the question “Why is this happening to me?” traps us in victimhood, and how reframing it to “How did I create this?” can shift us from powerlessness to agency. Through everyday stories—from missed vacations to major financial decisions—Clay shares how this mindset applies whether the stakes are small or life-changing.

Here’s what we covered in this episode:

• What is radical responsibility and how does it differ from blame or self-criticism?
• The difference between “confidence” and “conviction,” and why conviction matters for real communication and presence.
• How to spot when you’re stuck in victim thinking, and the questions to ask yourself to regain personal power.
• Practical strategies for transforming negative self-talk, including a four-step process to create a more supportive inner dialogue.
• The hidden ways family patterns and early conditioning shape our self-image and choices—often beneath conscious awareness.
• Why we ignore red flags and how our brains’ desire for shortcuts can create unhelpful mental “brackets” about people and situations.
• Real-life stories from Clay about high-stakes decision making, resilience, and bouncing back from major setbacks.
• How to own your story, communicate more authentically, and set a new standard for leadership, parenting, and self-trust.
• The power of mindset—the small language shifts that can open new pathways for growth, resilience, and effective action.
• Insights from “Trust Trap” on reclaiming authority over your life—even when circumstances and the world try to pull your power away.

Listen in to learn how taking radical responsibility can revolutionize how you see yourself, how you show up in the world, and the trust you create with others and yourself.

Don’t forget, you can connect with Clay Moffat on X (formerly Twitter) @MoffatClay

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