Trust on Purpose

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We want to thank the team that continues to support us in producing, editing and sharing our work. Jonah Smith for the heartfelt intro music you hear at the beginning of each podcast. We LOVE it. Hillary Rideout for writing descriptions, designing covers and helping us share our work on social media. Chad Penner for his superpower editing work to take our recordings from bumpy and glitchy to smooth and easy to listen to episodes for you to enjoy. From our hearts, we are so thankful for this team and the support they provide us.

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Everyone has been part of a recruitment process (or many) in their lives; many of us have been on both sides of the table. How candidates are treated through the process has an impact on both them and the hiring organization. Ila and Charles discuss the importance of and the how-to of building a recruitment process that builds trust from the beginning and serves to assess trustworthiness in candidates.

We want to thank the team that continues to support us in producing, editing and sharing our work. Jonah Smith for the heartfelt intro music you hear at the beginning of each podcast. We LOVE it. Hillary Rideout for writing descriptions, designing covers and helping us share our work on social media. Chad Penner for his superpower editing work to take our recordings from bumpy and glitchy to smooth and easy to listen to episodes for you to enjoy. From our hearts, we are so thankful for this team and the support they provide us.

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This episode delves into how a person's environment - their upbringing, community, family, country - shapes how they view people who are different from themselves, and how the assessments we make of "others'" morality and behavior can cause silos and further divisiveness. 

We want to thank the team that continues to support us in producing, editing and sharing our work. Jonah Smith for the heartfelt intro music you hear at the beginning of each podcast. We LOVE it. Hillary Rideout for writing descriptions, designing covers and helping us share our work on social media. Chad Penner for his superpower editing work to take our recordings from bumpy and glitchy to smooth and easy to listen to episodes for you to enjoy. From our hearts, we are so thankful for this team and the support they provide us.

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Forgiveness can be hard. Forgiveness of someone else who has hurt us and forgiveness of ourselves for having hurt someone. Even a sincere apology doesn’t magically wipe away the feelings associated with hurt or betrayal. What we do with those feelings, as they inevitably show up long after the actual experience, is where we do have control and choice.

Charles and Ila discuss the multiple barriers to being able to forgive ourselves and others, and the choice we all have in how we choose to live with the memory of broken trust.

Forgiveness by J. Ruth Gendler:

Forgiveness is a strong woman, tender and earthy and direct. Since her children have left home, she has embarked on an extended walking tour, visiting ruins and old monuments, bathing in rivers and hot springs, travelling through the small towns and large pulsing cities, tracing the current of sorrow under the stories she hears. Sometimes the city authorities and officials don't want her within their gates. If the people want her there enough, she always manages to find a way. 

Forgiveness brings gifts wherever she goes. Simple ones, a three-stranded twig with leaves turning yellow, a belt she wove on an inkle loom, a little song that grows inside you and changes everything. She brought me a silver ring from the South with a pale stone, pink with a hint of brown. When I had asthma, she taught me how to breathe.

We want to thank the team that continues to support us in producing, editing and sharing our work. Jonah Smith for the heartfelt intro music you hear at the beginning of each podcast. We LOVE it. Hillary Rideout for writing descriptions, designing covers and helping us share our work on social media. Chad Penner for his superpower editing work to take our recordings from bumpy and glitchy to smooth and easy to listen to episodes for you to enjoy. From our hearts, we are so thankful for this team and the support they provide us.

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When our behaviours cause harm or pain to someone, it calls into question our self-image and damages our own self-trust. Acknowledging and apologizing to someone whose trust we have breached or betrayed can be one of the most difficult things we'll ever do, but if salvaging the relationship (and our self-image) is important, avoiding a sincere conversation isn't an option. Ila and Charles dig deep into personal experiences and offer thoughtful suggestions on how to have sincere, trust re-building conversations with those we have betrayed.

We want to thank the team that continues to support us in producing, editing and sharing our work. Jonah Smith for the heartfelt intro music you hear at the beginning of each podcast. We LOVE it. Hillary Rideout for writing descriptions, designing covers and helping us share our work on social media. Chad Penner for his superpower editing work to take our recordings from bumpy and glitchy to smooth and easy to listen to episodes for you to enjoy. From our hearts, we are so thankful for this team and the support they provide us.

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How we feel about being good or not good at something can define how we see ourselves. Many of us are raised to believe that the only way to get approval and love is to become masterful at something, or sometimes everything. But what happens when we tie our self-worth to that? Ila and Charles share their own experiences and talk about how we all have choice in what we become competent in. "Not being competent in every area you want to be is not a deficit, it's simply a choice." 

We want to thank the team that continues to support us in producing, editing and sharing our work. Jonah Smith for the heartfelt intro music you hear at the beginning of each podcast. We LOVE it. Hillary Rideout for writing descriptions, designing covers and helping us share our work on social media. Chad Penner for his superpower editing work to take our recordings from bumpy and glitchy to smooth and easy to listen to episodes for you to enjoy. From our hearts, we are so thankful for this team and the support they provide us.

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Self-trust is at the heart of another episode of Trust on Purpose. This time, Ila and Charles examine how being dishonest with ourselves affects our core vision and purpose, and how critical it is to align our intentions with who we want to be, every day.

We want to thank the team that continues to support us in producing, editing and sharing our work. Jonah Smith for the heartfelt intro music you hear at the beginning of each podcast. We LOVE it. Hillary Rideout for writing descriptions, designing covers and helping us share our work on social media. Chad Penner for his superpower editing work to take our recordings from bumpy and glitchy to smooth and easy to listen to episodes for you to enjoy. From our hearts, we are so thankful for this team and the support they provide us.

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Charles and Ila dig into what happens when we avoid, put off, and ultimately fail to meet the commitments we make to ourselves. The impact it has on our self-trust is real and the work to rebuild it takes courage.

We want to thank the team that continues to support us in producing, editing and sharing our work. Jonah Smith for the heartfelt intro music you hear at the beginning of each podcast. We LOVE it. Hillary Rideout for writing descriptions, designing covers and helping us share our work on social media. Chad Penner for his superpower editing work to take our recordings from bumpy and glitchy to smooth and easy to listen to episodes for you to enjoy. From our hearts, we are so thankful for this team and the support they provide us.

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In this episode, Ila and Charles deconstruct a story shared by a listener who received less than glowing feedback and how he struggled to listen to it.

We want to thank the team that continues to support us in producing, editing and sharing our work. Jonah Smith for the heartfelt intro music you hear at the beginning of each podcast. We LOVE it. Hillary Rideout for writing descriptions, designing covers and helping us share our work on social media. Chad Penner for his superpower editing work to take our recordings from bumpy and glitchy to smooth and easy to listen to episodes for you to enjoy. From our hearts, we are so thankful for this team and the support they provide us.

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In this episode, Charles and Ila talk about what trusting yourself means, the importance of self-care and compassion, and the power of balancing the interests of others with our own self-interests.

We want to thank the team that continues to support us in producing, editing and sharing our work. Jonah Smith for the heartfelt intro music you hear at the beginning of each podcast. We LOVE it. Hillary Rideout for writing descriptions, designing covers and helping us share our work on social media. Chad Penner for his superpower editing work to take our recordings from bumpy and glitchy to smooth and easy to listen to episodes for you to enjoy. From our hearts, we are so thankful for this team and the support they provide us.