What happens when a man finally decides to stop running from his pain—and starts getting honest about his patterns?

In this guest episode, I sit down with Ryan O'Keefe, a 7-figure entrepreneur and father who's spent the last several years doing deep emotional healing work. From father wounds and failed relationships to confronting his own emotional immaturity, Ryan shares what it really takes for men to do the work—and why most don't.

We talk about:

• Why so many men stay stuck in toxic patterns (even when they're successful)

• How emotional honesty changed Ryan's life—and relationships

• What most men misunderstand about safety, vulnerability, and leadership

• The truth about attachment styles and masculine healing

• Why doing "the work" isn't a one-and-done thing

This is the episode you send to the man in your life who's ready—but maybe doesn't know where to start.

🔗 Connect with Ryan: @healtheboyrevealtheman

AND MEN… If you've ever felt like you're doing all the right things—but still end up misunderstood, shut down, emasculated or losing yourself in relationships—you're not alone. My Healthy Men-tality program is a small group program where men learn to regulate their emotions, break painful patterns, and lead in love and life from a grounded, powerful place. Get on the waitlist to learn what real healing can look like for you as we kick off the next round of this program NEXT MONTH! www.unblockyourbs.com/men-tality

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Dating after divorce is a special kind of WTF. If you've ever been love-bombed, ghosted, or caught in an emotional tornado, you're not alone. In this episode, I'm breaking down the mind games, the attachment styles at play, and how to avoid falling into the same dumpster fire of situationships over and over again.

• Why dating after divorce can feel like an emotional rollercoaster (hint: it's not just bad luck).
• How attachment styles run the show in modern relationships—and how to break the cycle.
• The sneaky ways we self-abandon in the name of "chemistry" (spoiler alert: it's NOT love).
• How to start healing so you stop attracting emotionally unavailable partners.

Key Takeaways:

• That "spark" you crave? It's often just nervous system dysregulation.
• If someone moves too fast, they're likely running from something.
• Dating apps are a playground for unhealed attachment wounds.
• Healing your attachment style = breaking free from toxic dating cycles.

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
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• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Dating after divorce is like walking through a minefield blindfolded—with a bunch of people telling you what you should be doing while they're also clueless. If you're tired of the ghosting, the red flags, and the never-ending cycle of swiping with zero results, this episode is for you.

What You'll Learn:

• Why dating apps feel like a dumpster fire—and how to avoid the worst of it
• How self-awareness is your biggest flex (and why most people don't have it)
• The toxic dating culture keeping men and women disconnected
• The real reason you keep attracting the wrong people—and how to stop
• How men can lead in relationships without being labeled toxic
• Why being alone is a superpower (instead of a punishment)

About Our Guest:

Adam Kiddoo is a coach and a heart-centered leader who helps entrepreneurs build aligned businesses. After his 10-year marriage ended, he had to face the reality of dating in 2024—and spoiler: it's a sht show.* In this episode, we talk about the chaos of modern dating, where men and women are getting it wrong, and what actually works. Learn more about Adam on Instagram @adamkiddoo

Ready to Stop Playing Games & Find Something Real?

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• MEN - if you're on a healing journey and want to learn how YOU can evolve into becoming the man your (current or future) partner DESIRES - Join my "Healthy Men-tality" Program waitlist. Click here to learn more.

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

What do you do when you want to move forward in your relationship, but resentment and old wounds keep pulling you back?

In this episode, we dive into a powerful listener-submitted question about forgiveness, healing from past relationship trauma, and the emotional baggage that keeps us stuck. Brittany, a listener, shares her struggle with resentment, unprocessed pain, and the difficulty of letting go after her husband's past behavior. If you've ever struggled with forgiving someone, feeling emotionally drained in your relationship, or wondering if it's even possible to rebuild trust—this episode is for you.

✅ Why holding onto resentment keeps you emotionally stuck ✅ How trauma and past pain manifest as physical illness (Brittany's story) ✅ The "Backpack Analogy"—how to stop carrying emotional weight ✅ How to start fresh in a relationship (instead of patching up the old one) ✅ The power of making the choice to let go—without waiting for closure ✅ Practical ways to shift your mindset and create a healthier future

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Going through a divorce is one thing—learning how to heal, co-parent, and rebuild your life is another. In this episode, one of the Unblock Your BS Listeners, Stephanie, and I dive into what it really looks like to start over after divorce. She shares her journey of navigating emotional triggers, creating stability for her kids, and how self-awareness changed everything for her post-divorce. If you've ever struggled with post-divorce identity, co-parenting challenges, or the fear of being alone—this conversation is for you.

✅ Why self-awareness is the foundation for healing after divorce ✅ How Steph navigated co-parenting challenges and emotional triggers ✅ The impact of childhood trauma on adult relationships ✅ Why emotional intelligence & language shape our reality ✅ Breaking free from old relationship patterns & learning self-love ✅ What it really takes to create a healthy post-divorce life

• Reduce Emotional Chaos in 90 Days Without Years of Therapy!

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

What does it really mean to start over after a 21-year marriage ends? In this raw, heartfelt conversation, Joe shares his journey through separation, loneliness, and rediscovering himself as a single dad. From redefining traditions on Christmas Day alone to battling the silence of an empty house, Joe opens up about the real struggles men face post-divorce—struggles that often go unheard.

We dive deep into the loneliness epidemic among men, the emotional toll of losing your identity after a long-term relationship, and the often-overlooked pressures of masculinity in today's world. You'll hear hard-earned wisdom about communication breakdowns in marriage, the challenges of dating after divorce, and the internal work required to heal and move forward.

This isn't just a story about heartbreak—it's about rediscovery, resilience, and the courage to build a new life on your own terms.

What You'll Learn in This Episode:

• How loneliness can silently creep in after divorce

• The role communication breakdowns play in long-term relationships

• How men process grief and loss differently

• Redefining self-worth after losing your identity in marriage

• The emotional challenges of dating again after decades off the market

• How to find purpose and build new traditions post-separation

Men - Ready to start your own healing journey? DM or comment "HEAL" on Instagram or Tik Tok to get on the waitlist and learn more about the next round of the Healthy Men-tality Program—a 4-week small group intensive designed just for men who want to heal their nervous system, communicate better and stop the toxic cycles you find yourself in with your current or past partner!

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram

• @unblockyourbs on TikTok

• Watch the episodes on YouTube

• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community

• Book a 1:1 call with Tara

• 1:1 Virtual Breathwork Session with Tara

• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download

• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

What if the reason you can't "just move on" isn't because you're broken—it's because your body is still holding on to the pain?

In this episode, I sit down with my best friend, Victoria, a fellow Somatic Release Breathwork Practitioner, to dive into how heartbreak and trauma actually get stuck in your nervous system—and how breathwork became the missing piece that finally set her free after years of therapy couldn't.

If you're tired of feeling stuck, repeating toxic patterns, or struggling to let go of past relationships, this conversation will show you why it's not your fault—and how healing can finally happen for you.

• Why your nervous system keeps attracting toxic patterns

• How trauma lives in your body (not your mind)

• Why mindset shifts and therapy aren't enough to fully heal

• How somatic breathwork can help you break free for good

Join my FREE 5-Day Heartbreak to Healing Challenge starting March 10th!

You'll learn how to: ✔️ Break free from toxic relationship cycles ✔️ Reset your nervous system ✔️ Release pain, anxiety, and heartbreak for good

🎯 Save Your Spot Here!

00:00 - Victoria's healing journey through breathwork 12:00 - Why therapy wasn't enough 18:00 - How your body holds onto heartbreak 31:00 - Using breathwork to reset your nervous system 42:00 - Breaking toxic patterns for good

Feeling stuck isn't your fault—but staying stuck doesn't have to be your story. 💖

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram

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• 1:1 Virtual Breathwork Session with Tara

• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download

• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

🚨 What if the way you BREATHE is keeping you stuck? 🚨

What if I told you that your breath—the thing you do 20,000 times a day—is the most powerful, untapped tool you have for rewiring your nervous system, releasing trauma, and shifting your mental state instantly?

In today's episode, I sit down with breathwork and cold exposure coach Steven Roccazzella of Ice Life TN —a former law enforcement officer turned Wim Hof Instructor & Breathwork Expert—who has helped countless people heal from trauma, addiction, anxiety, and burnout through functional breathing techniques and cold exposure therapy.

Here's what we dive into: ✅ The hidden ways your breath controls your stress, emotions, and anxiety ✅ How to break free from chronic stress, overthinking, and emotional reactivity ✅ Why "just breathe" isn't enough—and how to actually regulate your nervous system ✅ The #1 mistake people make when trying breathwork (and how to fix it) ✅ How Steven lost 60 pounds, tripled his testosterone, and eliminated anxiety & depression meds—just by breathing ✅ Why "overbreathing" is causing low energy, brain fog, and panic attacks (and what to do instead) ✅ How to use breathwork to shift out of fight-or-flight in SECONDS ✅ Why cold exposure (ice baths) are a secret weapon for dopamine & confidence

🔗 Follow Steven Roccazzella on Instagram: www.instagram.com/ice_life_tn

💔 Join my FREE 5-day Heartbreak to Healing Challenge kicking off on March 10, where you'll learn how to regulate your nervous system, release stored pain, and reclaim your power. On the final day, experience a powerful somatic release breathwork session—described as "10 years of therapy in one hour"—to truly let go and move forward with clarity and confidence. Spots are limited, so sign up now at www.unblockyourbs.com/H2H and take your first step toward healing!

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram

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• Watch the episodes on YouTube

• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community

• Book a 1:1 call with Tara

• 1:1 Virtual Breathwork Session with Tara

• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download

• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Relationships can feel like a constant push and pull — who leads, who nurtures, and how do we find balance?

So many of us struggle with the tension between independence and vulnerability, strength and softness, logic and emotion. Whether you're someone who's been told you're "too much" or you feel lost in today's shifting gender roles, this conversation will help you understand why we show up the way we do in love, communication, and connection.

Today's guest is Adam, one of our Self-Aware Army members who always shows up for the community. He is a man who is doing the healing work, has a heart for coaching, and a passion for pouring into others.

He is also one of Tara's one-on-one coaching clients, and during this session, they found themselves deep in a conversation that was too good not to share…

In this episode, they talk about:

• Modern Masculinity
• Why men and women keep missing each other in relationships
• The real meaning of masculine and feminine energy (beyond the internet debates)
• What it takes to be a safe partner — physically, mentally, and emotionally
• Why so many men feel overlooked in the self-awareness space
• How women can soften into their feminine without losing independence
• Tara's realizations as a single mom and business owner about leaning too far into masculine energy

This conversation is honest, eye-opening, and one I know so many of you will relate to. If you've ever wondered what a healthy, supportive partnership looks like — or if men like Adam really exist— this episode is proof that they do.

Also, a heads up! Our Heartbreak to Healing Five-Day Challenge is coming soon, and registration opens on March 1st! It's completely free and designed to help you uncover what's been holding you back, release pain stored in your body, and start creating the life you deserve from the inside out especially if you've felt stuck in unhealthy relationship patterns.

You'll also get a free breathwork experience as part of the challenge. Complete all five days and unlock a somatic release breathwork session! Everything is virtual, so you can join no matter where you are in the world. Stay tuned for more details!

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram

• @unblockyourbs on TikTok

• Watch the episodes on YouTube

• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community

• Book a 1:1 call with Tara

• 1:1 Virtual Breathwork Session with Tara

• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download

• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Have you ever found yourself stuck in a pattern, wondering why you're drawn to the same types of relationships or struggling to make meaningful connections?

This episode dives into the roots of those patterns.. spoiler alert, it often starts in childhood!

In this episode, Tara sits down with Brian, a listener who reached out for a coaching session. Brian, in his late 40s and living in a small town in West Texas, opens up about his struggles with relationships. After three marriages and raising kids from two of those relationships, he's reached a point where dating feels overwhelming, almost impossible. Yet, underneath his hesitations, there's still a desire to connect and find meaningful relationships.

Brian shares how his childhood experiences, especially his deep bond with his grandmother and a challenging relationship with his mother, shaped his choices in partners. Tara guides him through a powerful coaching session to uncover the connection between his early family dynamics and the patterns he's carried into adulthood. Through vulnerable moments and insightful breakthroughs, Brian begins to peel back the layers of his relationship struggles and see the path toward healing.

In this episode, you'll hear:

• How childhood shapes the way we choose partners and form relationships.

• The role of unresolved family dynamics in adult relationship struggles.

• The power of self-awareness and addressing the root of unhealthy attachment patterns.

• What it means to take accountability and move toward healthier, more fulfilling connections.

If you want to work one-on-one with Tara, head to unblockyourbs.com /podcast. There's a link there where you can find a time to schedule a time with her and you can start to help you unblock your BS too!

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram

• @unblockyourbs on TikTok

• Watch the episodes on YouTube

• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community

• Book a 1:1 call with Tara

• 1:1 Virtual Breathwork Session with Tara

• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download

• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.