You ever feel like you're the one who gets it emotionally, but still can't stop chasing people who aren't good for you?

In this listener Q&A episode, I answer real questions from women and men navigating heartbreak, avoidance, divorce guilt, and that all-too-familiar spiral of "why do I keep doing this?"

You'll hear coaching around:

• Why your body craves people who are bad for you (even when your brain knows better)

• What to do when you're drowning in guilt after leaving your marriage

• How to stop using casual sex as a substitute for connection

• What it actually means when calm feels boring and chaos feels like love

• The sneaky self-sabotage of dating emotionally unavailable people

• And how to stop punishing yourself for choosing peace

This episode is packed with nervous system insight, real-life client reflections, and hard truths delivered with heart. If you're ready to stop repeating the same patterns in dating and start leading yourself differently in love, listen in.

Want to be coached on the podcast (for Free!) or submit a question about what you're going through? Go to unblockyourbs.com/podcast

MEN! Ready to regulate, lead, and love differently?

We kick off the next round of the Healthy Men-tality program next month! Learn more at unblockyourbs.com/healthymen

📥 Download the FREE 5-Minute Breathwork Audio HERE

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

This isn't a before-and-after story. This is the during. The messy middle. The part where healing actually happens.

In today's episode, I sit down with Elizabeth, a member of my Self Aware Army, who found herself in a season of overwhelming loss, burnout, and grief from losing several loved ones in a very short period of time… and decided to do something radically brave when she had lost all hope: she chose herself.

Inside, they talk about:

• What it's like to lose your family, marriage, and sense of self all at once
• Why traditional therapy gave her insight, but somatic work gave her freedom
• How coaching helped her take the mask off and finally feel safe again to be seen and heard
• The sneaky grip of people-pleasing and codependency and what letting go of limiting beliefs actually looks like
• Why nervous system healing accelerates change in ways mindset or therapy alone never could

Elizabeth's story is heartbreaking and an honest invitation to reflect on your own patterns to how they are blocking you from feeling hopeful, grounded and excited about what's to come… and I'm betting she'll inspire the hell out of you while doing it.

🎧 Listen now, then ask yourself: What if you gave yourself permission to be happy, too?

👉 Join us inside the Self Aware Army at unblockyourbs.com/saa

If you'd like to join the LIVE Swipe Right, Not Wrong Masterclass I'm co-hosting with dating and relationship Coach, Kayle Ersek, on July 18th - check out all the details and save your spot here: www.unblockyourbs.com/swipe

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

If you're a man (or in relationship with a man) who shuts down, spirals with intrusive thoughts of not feeling like enough, or suddenly you're seeking attention and validation from everyone else except your partner - this episode is for you.

In today's deep, raw, and practical conversation, I sit down with Men's Coach Jim Vance of The Conscious Man to talk about why so many men struggle in love, hide in shame, and feel completely unequipped to relate emotionally - not just perform or provide.

We unpack:

• Why men often confuse anger for the only "safe" emotion
• How to spot nervous system trauma in masculine shutdowns
• The real reason men ghost, numb out, or chase validation
• Why most men can't receive love (and how to fix that)
• What it takes to build a power couple dynamic… without resentment

This one's for anyone looking to understand the masculine - whether in yourself, your partner, your father, or your son. And it's packed with wisdom, heart, and actual tools you can use today.

Connect with Jim:

• Follow @the.conscious.man on Instagram
• Follow @the.conscious.man on Tik Tok
• Listen to "The Masculine Code Podcast"
• Listen to Jim and Jocelyn Vance's "AdVANCE Your Life" Podcast

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

If your dating and relationship life feels like one long loop of situationships, betrayals, or emotional neglect… this episode is for you.

I pull zero punches in this solo truth-sesh that unpacks:

• Why your nervous system is choosing familiarity over fulfillment

• How projection and past pain create toxic dating patterns

• The myth of "all men" or "all women" being the problem

• Why shame isn't the same as taking responsibility

• What to do when your brain keeps Googling reasons you're unlovable

This isn't about blame or this ridiculous social media Gender War culture we find ourselves in - it's about liberation through self-awareness. If you want to break the cycle, reclaim your power, and stop repeating the same heartbreak with a different face… you can start here.

Join the Self Aware Army for somatic tools, coaching, and real support in doing the deep work that's more effective than sitting in a therapy office and trying to logic your feelings for the next 6 months: www.unblockyourbs.com/saa

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

This episode is the self aware dating collab the internet needed: Tara and Kayle Ersek (of The Dating Collective) team up for an emotionally intelligent, no-BS look at modern dating through a nervous system lens. Whether you've been ghosted, breadcrumbed, stuck in a situationship or are wondering why your "good on paper" matches never lead to real intimacy - this episode is going to hit home!

They talk about the real reason you're attracting emotionally unavailable people (spoiler: it's deeper than your profile pic), why being "picky" might be protection, and how to rewire your nervous system to stop chasing chaos and start choosing connection.

We also cover:

• First-date mistakes and how to filter, not perform
• How shame keeps you settling and sabotaging
• The identity shift of no longer needing to be the savior or the saved
• How to flirt without abandoning your boundaries
• Why emotionally safe love often feels... boring at first
• How healing changes who you're even attracted to

If you've ever felt like dating is a broken game that you never seem to win at … this conversation will help you stop playing it and start creating something real.

Connect with Kayle:

• Follow Kayle on TikTok: @thedatingcollective
• Follow Kayle on Instagram: @kayletdc

Check out his Secure Love Blueprint Program at https://stan.store/thedatingcollective

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

You don't need a new job, a new relationship, or a 10-step morning routine to change your life.

You just need to understand how your brain actually works.

In this quick solo episode, I'm breaking down the exact 5-step process that explains why you do what you do and how to finally feel more in control of your thoughts, emotions, and reactions.

Whether you're constantly people-pleasing, shutting down in conflict, or wondering why the hell you keep spiraling into anxiety, this episode will give you a roadmap to shift the pattern… without needing anyone else to change first.

What You'll Learn:

• The 5-step process your brain follows before any behavior

• Why your nervous system always chooses survival over happiness

• How to stop reacting from old trauma and start creating new patterns

• Three things you can control (and two you can't) in any situation

Want support applying this in real life? Book a 1:1 coaching session or grab my Nervous System Reset Toolkit for 20% off just for being a listener to learn how to rewire from the inside out. → http://www.unblockyourbs.com/toolkit and use code "PODCAST" at checkout to get your 20% off listener discount!

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

If dating feels like a dumpster fire… you're not alone. But what if it's not the apps, the avoidants, or your bad luck? What if the way you're dating is still rooted in who you had to be, not who you are now?

In this raw and expansive conversation, Tara sits down with dating coach Kam Berard to unpack why modern dating often feels so disheartening—and how to reconnect with your self-worth, standards, and curiosity in the process.

They dive into:

• The truth about dating after divorce (and how to get back out there without losing yourself)

• Why your dating profile is your emotional marketing strategy

• How to shift from chasing validation to choosing aligned connections

• The power of self-trust and community in healing after heartbreak

• What polyamory actually is (beyond swinging or open relationships)

• How to let your needs evolve and create space for nontraditional love

This one's for the self-aware folks who are tired of repeating the same patterns in love—and ready to date like the version of you you're becoming.

Learn more about Kam at https://www.revdating.com or follow Kam on IG: @relish.every.vibe

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

In this raw and real coaching session, I sit down with podcast listener Marissa, who's exhausted by dating, tired of always giving more in relationships, and wondering why the "right" guys keep fading away.

She's done with breadcrumbing. Fed up with chasing clarity. And deeply craving a relationship where love and effort go both ways.

Together, we unpack:

• What happens when you attract men who mirror your old wounds

• The difference between standards and fear-based filters

• Why "empathy without boundaries" is draining you

• How dating patterns trace back to childhood emotional neglect

• And why your nervous system is trying to protect you with clinginess

If you're overgiving, overanalyzing, and over it—this one will hit home.

🎧 Plus, we talk about real next steps to regulate your nervous system, set healthy boundaries, and start creating a life that feels good—with or without a partner.

⚠️ NEW TOOL RELEASED!

Because after hundreds of DMs from people saying things like: "I shut down mid-convo and can't explain why…" "I know I'm people-pleasing but I can't stop it in the moment…" "I spiral and regret what I say—or I say nothing at all…"

I realized we don't need more mindset hacks. We don't need another hour-long therapy session to talk about what already happened.

We need tools to regulate in the moment it's happening—when your nervous system is screaming "this isn't safe," and you either shut down, lash out, or fawn your way out of your truth.

That's why I created the Nervous System Reset Toolkit.

It's for the version of you that knows better—but can't do better, because your body is still in survival mode.

Whether that's fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.

Inside, you'll get:

• Short, soothing audios for each nervous system state—tools to help you reset in real time A script library so you can speak your truth in conflict—without spiraling or ghosting

• Deep-dive journal prompts to unpack your patterns with compassion

• My favorite: the Back to Bed Blueprint for 2AM anxiety spirals And a bonus 15-min pep talk called "Should I Stay or Go?"—for when clarity feels far away but your nervous system is screaming

If you're ready to stop self-abandoning, communicate more clearly, and feel safer in your body and your relationships… this toolkit was made for you.

As a podcast listener, you get 20% off with code PODCAST at checkout.

Head to 👉 www.unblockyourbs.com/toolkit to grab it now.

You're not broken. You're just dysregulated. Let's give your nervous system what it's been asking for all along: safety, connection, and tools that actually help.

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Get on the Healthy Men-tality Waitlist
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

When your whole life explodes in a single moment, how do you survive it—let alone heal?

In this raw, vulnerable conversation, Brittany shares what happened when she found out her husband had been sexually abusing their daughter. Overnight, she went from wife to single mom, from deeply loyal to deeply shattered.

We talk about the silent trauma so many women carry, what it really means to regulate your nervous system after complex PTSD, and how she's navigating dating, motherhood, and healing after betrayal that rocked her to her core.

⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode contains discussion of childhood sexual assault, parental abandonment, and suicide. Please listen with care.

In this episode, we cover:

• What happens to your nervous system after trauma

• Why many survivors feel numb or shut down emotionally

• The difference between "being strong" and actually healing

• What it's like to date again while parenting through trauma

• The nervous system tools that have helped Brittany reclaim herself

• What she wants other survivors to know

🛠️ Want to learn how to regulate your nervous system in moments of overwhelm, shutdown, or emotional spirals?

Grab the Nervous System Reset Toolkit here: www.unblockyourbs.com/toolkit and use code PODCAST for 20% off.

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.

Chuck is 28, mid-divorce, and drowning in self-blame, rage, and regret. In this powerful real-time coaching session, we unpack the emotional spirals, survival patterns, and nervous system triggers that kept him stuck—and how to start healing them. We talk co-parenting, inner child work, breathwork, emotional regulation, and what it actually means to "do the work" when you're just trying to keep your head above water. If you've ever felt like your emotions are running the show—or that it's too late to turn things around—this one's for you.

What We Cover:

• The shame cycle that keeps men stuck after divorce
• How unresolved childhood wounds show up as defensiveness and rage
• Why "doing the work" isn't just about talking—it's about regulating
• Tools to co-parent without resentment
• What to do in the moment when you feel the anger rising
• Chuck's biggest breakthrough about what his2 year old son really needs from him

Applications are open until May 15 for the Healthy Men-tality Program, a life-changing container for men who want to stop reacting from survival mode and start leading from grounded presence. Apply here: www.unblockyourbs.com/healthymen

Connect with Tara:

• Follow @unblockyourbs on Instagram
• @unblockyourbs on TikTok
• Watch the episodes on YouTube
• Join the Self Aware Army Healing Community
• Book a 1:1 call with Tara
• FREE 5-minute Breathwork Download
• Get the Nervous System Reset Toolkit
• Submit a question for an upcoming Podcast or LIVE

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Disclaimer: The content shared in this podcast is for informational and educational purposes only and should not be considered professional medical, mental health, or legal advice. I am not a licensed mental health professional or medical provider and cannot diagnose, treat, or prescribe medication for any condition.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please ask for support from a licensed professional or contact a trusted organization in your area. In cases of crisis or emergency, please contact local authorities or a crisis hotline immediately.

The views expressed in this podcast are my personal opinions and those of my guests. They are not intended to replace professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Thank you for listening responsibly.