Unbridely - Modern Wedding Planning

When a bridesmaid says ‘yes’ to a bride, they must communicate clearly and early about expectations for commitment, assigned responsibilities and especially the costs. 

But it’s also essential for the bride to be aware of what she’s really asking of her family and friends when she excitedly proposes to them to be in her wedding party in the first place. 

The sentiment of friendship, closeness and fun that a bride may anticipate might not be reflected in real life and at the extremes, I’ve heard of many friendships and family relationships that have ended up destroyed beyond repair when the fairytale doesn’t match what happens when money, responsibilities, time constraints and close relationships all mix into one high-pressure and emotional life-altering event. 

The stakes are high, people.

 So this week, I’m going to delve deep into:

• The traditional role of bridesmaids and how they've changed,
• Some examples of the costs you can expect as a bridesmaid,
• What’s reasonable as far as expectations of a bridesmaid and how to communicate that, and
• My top tips for the bride and the bridesmaids they choose.

RESOURCES

Mama Mia: https://www.mamamia.com.au/average-cost-of-being-a-bridesmaid/

 CBC.ca: https://www.cbc.ca/radio/costofliving/bridesmaid-costs-1.6870502

 The Knot: https://www.theknot.com/content/what-bridesmaids-pay-for

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by Unbridely’s ebook How To Write Wedding Vows That Don’t Suck 

https://unbridely.com/shop/htwwvtds

This is for YOU if you want to write the unique and heartfelt wedding vows your fiancé deserves, but don't know where to start. 🤔

AND want to get it done in 20 minutes or less. 💪

Grab your instant pdf download of the Unbridely ebook 'How To Write Wedding Vows That Don't Suck' for just $27 now! 🧡

https://unbridely.com/shop/htwwvtds

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Have you ever asked yourself why you want to get married (with the subtext being, if nothing really changes anyway)?

In 2019 according to the Pew Research centre:

“The decision to get married is a personal one, but for most married adults, love and companionship trump other considerations such as such as the desire to have children someday, convenience or finances.”

But there are some other legal aspects to consider too, including in Australia: that marriage revokes a will unless it was created ‘in contemplation of marriage’, marriage spouses automatically become each other's next of kin, income tax changes, and there could be changes in future property settlements, survivor benefits, health insurance payments and claims, custody of children, maintenance payments and even inheritance.

But you want to know, when you wake up the day after your wedding, what happens then?

Dating and Relationship coach, Beck Thompson, from The Relationship Circle is going to teach you:

• The changes couples experience once they get married
• Why you need to work out and talk about your (sometimes) unconscious expectations
• How to start the discussion about traditional or gender roles and responsibilities, and
• Understanding the significance of changing your last name after you get married.

Resources Mentioned:

The Relationship Circle: https://www.therelationshipcircle.com/

The Relationship Circle Podcast: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2220575

The Relationship Circle on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/the_relationship_circle/

The Pew Research Centre: https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2019/11/06/why-people-get-married-or-move-in-with-a-partner/

Marriage and your will: https://tetlowlegal.com.au/marriage-changes/

What changes when we marry: https://www.celebrants.org.au/information/everyone/types-of-ceremonies/marriage-ceremonies/what-changes-when-we-marry

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by WedSites.com, Unbridely's recommended all-in-one wedding website builder, guest management platform & wedding planning tool.

Visit WedSites.com to get started on your FREE wedding website and use code UNBRIDELYPOD to get 10% off any of their paid plans.

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Given that I believe 99% of couples want these four things, this is what I'd like to get down to the crux of in this episode: 

• feeling calm, 
• feeling prepared, 
• being present, and 
• being receptive.

Calm, means an internal knowing that everything is going as it should. 

Being prepared means that you’ve designed a ceremony that fits you and your fiancé, rather than having something pushed upon you. Being able to assert yourself ahead of time, I think is absolutely crucial. 

Being present in your ceremony, emotionally and also in the way that you are reacting to things. So really seeing, hearing all the senses, touching, feeling, smelling, all of those things, drinking it all in. 

And receptive, as in being able to reciprocate and interact with your fiancé and your guests. 

So in this episode, I'm gonna go through lots of little checkpoints.

Some of them will really stick with you and you'll go, oh God, write that down. And some other things you might go, "I don’t even care if it's gonna happen or not". 

This is a bit of a workshop episode for your wedding ceremony. I hope it is super valuable for you.

Resources: 

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by the Unbridely Couples private Facebook group: https://facebook.com/groups/unbridelycouples

Are you engaged to be married and need planning advice, want to talk something out or share your wedding stories?

If you’re looking for a like-minded community of modern engaged couples join us in the Unbridely Couples Facebook group! 🙋

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I’m pretty sure I’ve shared my very own DIY wedding flower disaster story with you before on the podcast.

But as the lessons are both timeless, relevant and in hindsight, pretty funny too, it bears repeating especially in the context of interviewing Liza from Fifty Flowers in the United States.  

Liza is a trailblazing entrepreneur, a hot yoga enthusiast and the owner-operator of one of the biggest, most education-supported, customer-centric and innovative farm-to-arms DIY wedding flower companies in the world.

Today Liza is going to teach you:

• her 8 best tips for budget-conscious couples looking to create stunning floral arrangements on their own,
• the 3 different levels of involvement you can choose to have with your DIY wedding flowers, and
• the new wedding trends and shifts she’s seeing for this year including the increased use of AI.

Plus she will share what she considers the biggest misconceptions and mistakes people make with DIY wedding flowers and how you can overcome them.

RESOURCES

Fifty Flowers website: https://fiftyflowers.com/

Fifty Flowers Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fiftyflowers/

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by Unbridely’s ebook How To Write Wedding Vows That Don’t Suck 

https://unbridely.com/shop/htwwvtds

This is for YOU if you want to write the unique and heartfelt wedding vows your fiancé deserves, but don't know where to start. 🤔

AND want to get it done in 20 minutes or less. 💪

Grab your instant pdf download of the Unbridely ebook 'How To Write Wedding Vows That Don't Suck' for just $27 now! 🧡

https://unbridely.com/shop/htwwvtds

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You want ease. 

You want to be surrounded by problem solvers. 

You want to have their technical expertise and people with great energy who will not only do their job, but help you to get excited too. 

You want to choose the right wedding vendor team the first time around because it’s also super uncomfortable to have to let a vendor go, and because of contracts, potentially costly as well. 

So to kick off this year, I'm going to teach you how to research, find, and book the best wedding vendors that align with your style, budget, and personality. 

Resources Mentioned:

Ep22: These 3 Important First Steps In Your Wedding Planning Change Everything

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by WedSites.com, Unbridely's recommended all-in-one wedding website builder, guest management platform & wedding planning tool.

Visit WedSites.com to get started on your FREE wedding website and use code UNBRIDELYPOD to get 10% off any of their paid plans.

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Ho Ho Ho Happy Engagement Season!

If you’re getting, or have just gotten, engaged, congratulations beautiful! Drink it all in and revel in your love bubble. 

As I’m meeting and chatting with more experts in relationships and psychology and reading about studies about the financial health of marriages and those that are most likely to go the distance, it seems to me that: 

A) we should’ve been given the heads up on this stuff in school,

and

B) these crucial topics are something that everyone should be working through and thinking about well before they get engaged.

 Today you’ll learn about the 11 key topics to discuss with your partner before you get engaged according to the experts. 

Resources: 

Unbridely Podcast EP22: These 3 Important First Steps in Your Wedding Planning Change Everything: https://bit.ly/3uZTrFL

She’s On The Money podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/au/podcast/shes-on-the-money/id1468033698

The Holistic Psychologist: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/

The Holistic Psychologist on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/p/C037aBjvcf1/?img_index=1

https://www.instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by the Unbridely Couples private Facebook group: https://facebook.com/groups/unbridelycouples

Are you engaged to be married and need planning advice, want to talk something out or share your wedding stories?

If you’re looking for a like-minded community of modern engaged couples join us in the Unbridely Couples Facebook group! 🙋

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Unplugged weddings: to plug or to unplug, that is the question. 

But there is so much more to it from the impact on your ceremony and reception, to impeding your photographer or videographer and what about sharing your wedding photos on social media?

In this deep-dive you'll learn:

• What is an unplugged wedding,
• The problems with devices being used during weddings, 
• The advantages of not allowing devices, 
• The downsides of an unplugged wedding, and 
• Some compromises and unplugged ceremony wording.

RESOURCES

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*The Unbridely Podcast is sponsored by its listeners. When you purchase products or services through links on our website or via the podcast, we may earn an affiliate commission.*

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by Unbridely’s ebook How To Write Wedding Vows That Don’t Suck 

https://unbridely.com/shop/htwwvtds

This is for YOU if you want to write the unique and heartfelt wedding vows your fiancé deserves, but don't know where to start. 🤔

AND want to get it done in 20 minutes or less. 💪

Grab your instant pdf download of the Unbridely ebook 'How To Write Wedding Vows That Don't Suck' for just $27 now! 🧡

https://unbridely.com/shop/htwwvtds

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I reckon the 3 most likely reasons you’re avoiding writing your wedding speech are:

1) You’re imagining it’s going to be really hard,

2) You’re worried about being judged or criticised, OR

3) You just don’t know where to start and are overwhelmed.

Beth from Authentically Funny Speeches has heard it all, though.

And she is the very first Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast guest that I’ve invited back for a second time (so far) because her first episode receives a huge amount of downloads and you love her advice. 

With her years and years of experience, clear explanations and sensitivity to the complexities of family and friend relationships (you know what I mean – your life wouldn’t be worth living if you didn’t mention a CERTAIN person in your speech) Beth will set you on the right track and make you and your new husband, wife or spouse seem like the most generous, warm, and remarkable newlyweds ever.

In this episode, Beth teaches you:

· What makes a great speech including the order you want to thank people in, how long it should go for and the incredible benefits of going last, PLUS

· A few comedic tools to bring out when you really want to get the laughs

· What to do if 1 or both of you are introverts (and I think you’re going to be really surprised by Beth’s solution).

And make sure you listen to the end because Beth breaks down her 6 part wedding speech framework for you, so you don’t skip a thing and end up looking like a complete legend at the end of it.

And if you STILL are freaking out about writing the speech for your wedding, Beth can even hold your hand through the process with fill-in-the-blank templates, speech curation services (so you write it, but she makes it better) and done for you wedding speech writing too.

Head over to authenticallyfunnyspeeches.com and use code UNBRIDELY, and you'll get 10% off.

Resources Mentioned:

Ep 34: How to Give an Amazing Wedding Speech (even if you're really nervous) with Authentically Funny Speeches

www.authenticallyfunnyspeeches.com use the code UNBRIDELY for 10% off Beth’s wedding speech writing services

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by WedSites.com, Unbridely's recommended all-in-one wedding website builder, guest management platform & wedding planning tool.

Visit WedSites.com to get started on your FREE wedding website and use code UNBRIDELYPOD to get 10% off any of their paid plans.

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Unbridely acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we record this podcast on, the Kaurna People. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

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There’s a good chance you’ve never planned a wedding before and that you’ll only have one shot at it - with no do-overs. Wedding regret is a real thing that can steal joy from the planning, have you feeling anxious on the day and can haunt you afterwards too. 

But there are solutions to most dilemmas, circumstances and situations if you’re willing to listen and learn. 

In this special episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast, you’ll discover: 

• 4 wedding truths that you need to accept,
• the 9 most universally common and heartbreaking (because they can be avoided) wedding regrets that I’ve either experienced, read about or heard about from my couples, plus
• some extra, more subjective, wedding regrets.

Resources: 

Ep 20: 6 Essential Questions To Ask Yourself Before You Pick Your Bridesmaids

Ep 35: 22 Wedding Budget Ideas That Don't Discount Your Style Or Values

Ep 61: Micro-weddings With Massive Impact: Why Size Really Does Matter with WedShed

Ep 34: How to Give an Amazing Wedding Speech (even if you're really nervous) with Authentically Funny Speeches

Ep64: Pt 1 - 6 Most FAQ Will Make or Break Your Wedding Day Timeline With Luke John Photography

Ep65: Pt 2 - 6 Most FAQ Will Make or Break Your Wedding Day Timeline With Luke John Photography

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by the Unbridely Couples private Facebook group: https://facebook.com/groups/unbridelycouples

Are you engaged to be married and need planning advice, want to talk something out or share your wedding stories?

If you’re looking for a like-minded community of modern engaged couples join us in the Unbridely Couples Facebook group! 🙋

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Unbridely acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we record this podcast on, the Kaurna People. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

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I don’t think it’s too dramatic to say that your wedding day timeline holds the key to much of the success of your wedding day. 

But unfortunately, some engaged couples, don’t invest enough time and thought early enough in their planning, to build out a timeline that truly works for them, their guests, their vendors and their personal tastes and values.

In part two of this two-part episode series, (if you missed part 1 last week, head back to episode 64 and catch up) Luke of Luke John Photography will dig into the implications of a poorly thought out wedding day timeline and how a couple might be able to improve their timings to be able to experience the wedding day that they really want.

We will be covering the most frequently asked questions of wedding photographers that affect a couple's wedding day timeline. 

In part 2, you’ll learn the answers to:

• How long do family photos and portraits take?
• What is the best time to have portraits taken?
• How long should we book our wedding photographer for? What sort of coverage do we need?

Resources Mentioned:

Luke John Photography https://www.lukejohnphotography.com/

Luke John Photography on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lukejohnphotography

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This episode of the Unbridely Modern Wedding Planning Podcast is brought to you by Unbridely’s ebook How To Write Wedding Vows That Don’t Suck 

https://unbridely.com/shop/htwwvtds

This is for YOU if you want to write the unique and heartfelt wedding vows your fiancé deserves, but don't know where to start. 🤔

AND want to get it done in 20 minutes or less. 💪

Grab your instant pdf download of the Unbridely ebook 'How To Write Wedding Vows That Don't Suck' for just $27 now! 🧡

https://unbridely.com/shop/htwwvtds

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Unbridely acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we record this podcast on, the Kaurna People. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures.

Support the show

Follow us on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/unbridely/
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