Understanding The Adelson's: Roots, Culture & Control

Families that look “close” on the outside can actually be suffocating on the inside. In this segment, Tony Brueski is joined by psychotherapist and author Shavaun Scott, along with Stacy and Todd, to unpack the roots of enmeshed families—the kind where loyalty becomes control.

We dig into cultural influences, from Jewish and Asian traditions that normalize family loyalty, to the rise of helicopter parenting. We explore how narcissistic parents turn children into extensions of themselves, expecting achievements to reflect back on them rather than fostering independence.

Shavaun explains the family continuum: disengaged (hands-off), balanced (healthy independence), and enmeshed (over-involved). Where does a family like the Adelsons fit? They raised high-achieving children, but at what cost? Their careers soared, but their moral compasses cracked.

This conversation looks at how enmeshment breeds anxiety, depression, and adult children who struggle with identity and boundaries. We also ask: Is there ever such a thing as a “good” enmeshed family, or is it always toxic in the long run?

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