Untethering Shame

Untethering Shame

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  • Shame, Sex & Social Justice:

    Join Dr. Catalina Lawsin and I as we talk sex and intimacy through a lens of social justice to see that sex is so much more than we consider when it comes to our sense of well-being and commitment to ourselves.


    Some of the key points included:

    • The difference between sex and intimacy
    • How shoulds make their way into their lives and the way that robs us of wants
    • The connection between sexual satisfaction and well-being — and how sexual satisfaction has nothing to do with how much sex you are having
    • The importance of self-compassion in the process of rooting to ourselves
    • Our ability to receive pleasure impacts directly impacts our sexual satisfaction
    • How capitalism continues to be the dominant force in our culture
    • What expansion looks like as it relates to our sexual self 
    • What your body needs to feel in control and at ease in itself

    • Get to know Dr. Catalina:

      Great sex & intimacy is your absolute birthright.  As a licensed psychologist for over 20+ years, I’ve worked with individuals affected by the big guns – cancer, death and dying. Through this work I witnessed the one key factor that motivates one to keep on living – relationships. Relationships are essential to who we are and how we experience life. Unfortunately, sometimes relationships aren’t easy and sex can suck.  I help visionaries who believe they deserve great sex & intimacy to experience ecstasy without settling for sexless relationships integrating neuroscience, attachment and tantra. 


      Connect with Dr. Catalina:

      • Website
      • TikTok
      • Instagram
      • Facebook
      • YouTube
      • 57 min
      • Shame & Men's Mental Health

        I am so grateful Simon Rinne joined me for such an important conversation on men's mental health, sharing his story and opening up a much larger conversation that needs to be had.


        We covered:

        • The development of Simon’s OCD and how this impacted his life 
        • The impact of toxic masculinity on Simon’s development of self
        • The value of imperfection and the art of wabi sabi
        • The overlap between perfectionism and OCD and how it connects back to shame
        • The moving target we get stuck chasing
        • What is exposure response therapy (ERP) and how can it support OCD recovery
        • The release alcohol provided that led Simon to develop an alcohol addiction

        • More About Simon:

          Simon is a social worker and Founder of Mindful Men, a therapy practice that is dedicated to supporting men with mental illness and disability. Simon’s passion for mental health comes from living with Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Depression, Anxiety, Burnout for over 30 years. During this time, he struggled in silence; believing that boys and men can’t cry, all whilst using alcohol as a way to feel “normal”. Simon shares his story to inspire others to believe that they can turn their pain into purpose, and move from surviving to thriving.



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          • Connect:

            - Website

            - IG: @therapyredeemed

            - Facebook

            - LinkedIn

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            Resources Mentioned:

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          • You're PART of the Problem

            In this week's solo episode, we discuss the importance of control and learning to own what is in our control and what is not.


            Stay Connected:

            Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. Be sure to visit our website or YouTube channel for more engaging content.


            11 min
          • Shame & Chronic Health: Diagnosis & Disease - Part 2

            Tina Hallis joins us again for part 2 of our discussion on chronic health.

            This time we dove deep into:

            • The divisiveness of a diagnosis and its impact on us
            • The conflict between our brain and body that leaves many of us avoiding self-care
            • The value in reframing the aging process
            • The importance behind the “little bits”
            • The role of community in making changes in your life
            • The power of acceptance in empowering those around us
            • The reality we need to accept about changing people around us
            • Tina Hallis, Ph.D. worked for 20+ years in Biotechnology before discovering a new science called Positive Psychology in 2011. She has since been certified in Positive Psychology through the WholeBeing Institute, trained in Positive Intelligence, and is an Authorized Partner for Everything DiSC®. Recently, she has also completed training to be a Metabolic Terrain Patient Advocate.

              Connect with Tina:

              • ⁠⁠ThePositiveEdge.net⁠⁠
              • ⁠⁠PositiveHealthspan.com⁠⁠
              • Resources:

                • Byron Katie Website
                • Our first episode on Spotify or Apple
                • 55 min
                • Shame & Body Love: Reclaiming Your Body and Healing Within

                  Such a powerful conversation with Kim Flores exploring her own experience with a deadly illness and how she reclaimed her connection to herself and her body.


                  More about Kim:

                  "I am a former anorexic turned CEO. After working in healthcare for over 10 years, I realized how the healthcare system never fully addressed the emotional or psychological well-being of patients, which ultimately contributed to ongoing illness. I created a company that addresses all aspects of health by connecting the heart, brain, and gut."


                  Connect with Kim:

                  • Website
                  • Instagram
                  • Facebook Private Group
                  • 56 min
                  • Addressing Negative Thinking

                    In this week's solo episode, we are talking about negative thoughts and what we need to do to regain control over them instead of letting them consume us.


                    Be sure to check out the Shame Overview episode mentioned in the episode.


                    Stay Connected:

                    Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. Be sure to visit our website or YouTube channel for more engaging content.


                    9 min
                  • Shame & Stepparenting

                    Brittney Phillips & I talk about her own experience and her work with other families to blend after divorce or loss and a subsequent remarriage.


                    Some of the key points from this episode:

                    • Brittney's own bias towards divorce
                    • Where Brittney struggled most in her blending journey
                    • What we need to let go of to show up the ways we need and want to as parents (of any role or nature)
                    • The importance of checking our ego

                    • More About Brittney:

                      Brittney is a mom of 4 in a 'yours, mine, and ours' dynamic and a certified stepfamily coach and teacher. She has experience blending her own family and spent many years learning strategies in the 'school of hard knocks'. Her approach is centered around empowering women to strengthen themselves, ultimately influencing and benefiting the whole family.


                      Connect with Brittney:

                      • Website
                      • Instagram
                      • TikTok
                      • 45 min
                      • Shame & Decolonizing Therapy: Exploring Our Role as Helping Professionals

                        I loved this episode with CéShaun N. Armstrong Hankins and feel like we only just started to scratch the surface on such a powerful topic. Some of the key takeaways for me include:

                        • How do you break out of the sense you are doing something wrong by choosing your values
                        • What do we do when the system is designed to make you the villain or the problem to protect its own agenda?
                        • Can you work in a system that is rooted in -isms and still affect change?
                        • How do we empower choice in ourselves and our clients
                        • Why somatic work is an integral part of decolonizing therapy

                        • More About CéShaun:

                          CéShaun is a mother, a friend, a nurturer, an edible gardener, an artist, a lover of delicious food and drink, and a therapist passionate about moving mental health towards anti-oppressive and decolonial care. She is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with 14 years of experience working with individuals both community-based and private practice settings. She is currently the founder of Cypher Mental Health, a private practice serving clients in California and Oregon with a focus on somatic therapy and EMDR for Black and Brown people.


                          Connect:

                          • Website

                          • Resources Mentioned:

                            • Inclusive Therapists
                            • Therapy Den
                            • Therapy for Black Girls
                            • Dr. Shawna Murray-Browne
                            • The Embody Lab
                            • 52 min
                            • Rumination

                              Does anyone else feel like they would get a blue ribbon in rumination? You know, sitting around replaying a thought repeatedly until you aren’t even sure what to do with it anymore?

                              We spent countless hours stuck in those headspaces, attempting to control or make sense of things completely out of our control. Why? And what can we do about it? Let's dive in together!


                              Stay Connected:

                              Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. Be sure to visit our website or YouTube channel for more engaging content.

                              9 min
                            • Shame & The Working Mom: Managing the Constant Tension

                              Such a joy having Ashley with me to talk about the tension that can exist for the working mom and what we can do to shift the way we show up to and in these roles and how to build a more supportive community. Some of my favorite takeaways included:

                              • Learning more about what it was like for Ashley to transition into motherhood
                              • Differentiating between adaptive versus maladaptive drive in what we do
                              • The right to create the system that works for you in your own home
                              • How shame gives you way to much power & responsibility for everyone else's lives
                              • Why you need to stop playing games designed for you to fail
                              • One statement we all need to stop making to each other when we are trying to be supportive and what to do instead

                              • More About Ashley:

                                Ashley Quinto Powell is a serial entrepreneur and Founder of the Virtual Assistant Agency, myVA Rocks. She is passionate about keeping women in the workforce and is the author of Executive Motherhood: The Art of Having It All, Without Doing It All.


                                Connect with Ashley:

                                • Website
                                • LinkedIn
                                • Her FANTASTIC book!
                                • 54 min

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