Untethering Shame

Untethering Shame

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  • Let's talk audio!

    In this short & sweet solo episode, I just want to share one of the ways shame has tried to take over when it comes to the podcast. Namely, it's gotten caught up berating the audio quality of different episodes as some of them are not as high quality as others (you know, the learning gap). It's trying to take away the process of learning and the notion of progress, not perfection. It's trying to make me focus on how it sounds versus what was said. And I am not going to give it any more head space for this story.


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    4 min
  • Shame & Comedy: Being Black Outside the Lines

    This is a heavy episode glittered with humor where we explore:

    • What it’s like to pursue a dream others don’t see, support or understand
    • The normalization of performance and expectation for Black men rooted in racism and the effect that has on how Tavaris shows up in the world
    • The role comedy has the capacity to play in our lives
    • The biggest challenge Tavaris faces as a comic
    • The importance of selective indifference to others’ reactions
    • The difference between defense versus reflective listening in comedy
    • The power of trust as a comedian and observer

    • Tavaris Smith is a stand-up comedian from Milwaukee, Wisconsin, based in Los Angeles. His comedy journey began 8 years ago, and since then, he has performed at clubs and theaters all over the country.


      Connect with Tavaris:

      • Website
      • YouTube
      • Instagram
      • 59 min
      • Guarding Vulnerability: Interpersonal Defenses Against Shame

        In this week's solo episode, we delve deep into the intriguing world of interpersonal defenses we employ when confronted with shame. As we navigate the intricate dynamics of how shame shapes our interactions and relationships, we'll uncover the 3 strategies we use to guard ourselves, ultimately gaining insights into how we can foster healthier connections.


        Stay Connected:

        Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. And be sure to visit my website or YouTube channel for more engaging content.

        10 min
      • Shame & Grief: A Match Made in Misery

        Join Victoria and I as we dive deep into the topic of grief, where we cover:

        • What exactly is grief?  
        • The “paper cut effect” of shame and rejection
        • The pressure to be “fine” is a form of psychological protection
        • The criticism trap that keeps us stuck
        • The impact resentment has on our health and well-being
        • How you are keeping yourself in "emotional jail"
        • The most powerful gift you can give yourself as you move through your grief
        • Victoria, the owner of The Unleashed Heart, LLC, is an Advanced Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, Self-Published Author, Reiki Master, Certified YouMap® Coach, Certified Biofield Tuning Practitioner, and End-of-Life Doula. Through in-person and online evidence-based grief programs, life-path coaching, her podcast Grieving Voices, and in-person or distance healing sessions, Victoria offers holistic support to those who want to go from surviving to thriving.  


          Connect with her:

          • Website:
          • Grieving Voices Podcast: --> And be sure to check out our episode here
            • Instagram
            • LinkedIn
            • Facebook
            • 57 min
            • Shame & “The White Man’s Religion”: Following Jesus as a Black, Queer Woman

              Join Zhalarina and I as we talk about religion, race, gender, and sexuality and the impact of these intersecting identities on how we show up in the world. We hit on so many points in our time together, including:

              • The impact of gender norms on non-gender conforming humans
              • How to find yourself in a sea of overlapping systems of oppression
              • How to reconcile when the thing you are trying to protect your kids against is what you end up perpetuating in your home
              • Can you be a true and devoted Christian if you found Christ as a trauma response to your life?
              • Is the church a mask we use to make ourselves feel “good enough”
              • Differentiating faith from religion and the importance of not allowing ourselves to make anything too rigid
              • Zhalarina is a rapper, actress, and playwright braiding psychotherapeutic tenets with performance art one song and script at a time. 


                Check out all of her awesomeness:

                Zhalarina.com

                Tiktok.com/@zhalarina

                Instagram.com/zhalarina

                YouTube.com/Zhalarina

                Twitter.com/Zhalarina 

                53 min
              • Shame 101: An Overview

                In this inaugural episode of "Untethering Shame," we lay the groundwork for our podcast journey by exploring the multifaceted world of shame. Host Kyira Wackett guides us through a comprehensive overview, helping us grasp the essence of shame and its far-reaching impact on our lives. With insights drawn from psychology, personal anecdotes, and expert interviews, we shed light on the complexities of this universal yet often hidden emotion.

                Understanding shame is the first step towards untangling its grip on our lives. Join us as we embark on a mission to uncover the layers of shame, challenge its hold, and embrace a path toward healing and self-acceptance.

                Stay Connected:

                To stay connected with "Untethering Shame" and receive updates on future episodes, be sure to subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts. Don't forget to leave a review and share your thoughts on this foundational episode. For more content or to get connected, head over to my website or check out my YouTube channel.

                Thank you for joining us on this transformative journey of untethering shame. We'll be back with more insightful discussions to support you on your path to healing. Remember, understanding is the first step toward liberation. See you next time!


                10 min
              • Shame & Ethical Non-Monogamy

                Join Paige & I in our discussion on ethical non-monogamy. In this episode, we cover:

                • What exactly is Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) & dispelling the myth that it’s just about having more sex
                • The importance of engaging in enthusiastic ENM
                • The hardest part of ENM for couples
                • Why you're feeling so bad about exploring open relationships
                • My own experiences with internalized homophobia and how I worked beyond that
                • Why we need to focus on what we want not what we can do

                • Paige Bond is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in helping individuals, couples, and ENM relationships with concerns about intimacy and relationship anxiety/insecurity. She is also the host of the Stubborn Love podcast, where every episode has actionable tips that will help you create a happier, healthier, and more fulfilling love life.


                  • Website: www.paigebond.com
                  • Social Handle: @paigelmft
                    • Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4AmAxAwm9vw0J90GJd7Zww?si=b17f7b00146c4e41
                    • —> And be sure to check out our episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/41YCwWIZgaQyeCbtntIonv?si=fbfd1ed04719484e 


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                      53 min

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