Untethering Shame

Untethering Shame

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  • Shame & Motherhood: The Off-Kiltering Balancing Act

    Join Lindsay and I in a discussion on the joy, overwhelm and wonder of motherhood. We get real in our exploration as human givers and the impact that has on how we view ourselves as moms. Key topics include:

    Some of my favorite insights and topics include:

    • How to integrate your expectations and the reality of parenthood
    • The problem with the “power through” mentality
    • When being a “helper” goes too far and why many of us cling to this role
    • The disservice of the “fake it till you make it” mindset on human givers
    • Relationships are inconvenient — and that’s okay
    • Grieving the loss of ignorance after having kids
    • How to release yourself from the pressure to “know” and “get it right” with your kids
    • Managing our disappointment without getting lost in shame
    • How to leverage pregnancy to understand boundaries versus using it as an excuse to have a boundary
    • The importance of aligning our time with our values and grieving the reality that we can’t do it all, all of the time

    • More about Lindsey:

      "I am a loving wife, dedicated mother to two, a Marketing professional, and a passionate dreamer. I have worked for American Family Insurance for 7.5 years, starting out as a Dream Curator at DreamBank and now thriving in my Advertising role where I manage our brand ambassador program and Advertising financials. I seek out the good in the world and share it with others through connections, communication, and showing up with my own love and kindness each day."


      Connect with Lindsey:

      • Instagram
      • 57 min
      • Shame & Sugar Addiction: Breaking the Cycle

        Join Danielle & I in this powerful conversation where we:

        • Delve into the clutches of sugar addiction and understand how it leaves us feeling ensnared.
          • Explore how our society's acceptance of addictive and avoidant behaviors fuels habits that hinder our progress.
            • Uncover the reasons why your efforts to transform your eating habits might be falling short of your aspirations.
              • Discover the pivotal role that trusting your body plays in overcoming sugar addiction.
                • Explore how our innate desire to be accepted can set the stage for addictive and avoidant behaviors.
                  • Learn practical steps to cultivate resilience and embrace your emotions as allies on your journey.
                    • Demystify the concept of repatterning and its connection to achieving emotional neutrality.
                      • Distinguish between intentional self-care and mindless avoidance as you navigate challenges
                      • Define actionable steps to kickstart your journey of reframing and healing, igniting a transformative process.

                      • Danielle Daem is a passionate nutrition coach helping women heal their relationship with food and step fully into their power. She focuses on uncovering and re-patterning the root causes of sugar addiction and helping her clients find a new sense of freedom in their bodies and minds.


                        Connect with Danielle:

                        • Podcast (and be sure to check out part 1 and 2 of our discussion on her podcast as well)
                        • Instagram
                        • Facebook
                        • Website
                        • Stress Eating Course
                        • ➠ Want to discover the ROOT CAUSE of your sugar dependency? Take the QUIZ HERE NOW.

                          59 min
                        • Shame & Sales

                          Michelle Terpstra joins me to talk about what makes sales so hard and how we got to a place it feels "sleezy" and "bad" so we can reframe it in a more empowering way. We talked about:

                          • What sales is really about
                          • The biggest fears we have about sales and where they are rooted to
                          • The impact of buyer’s remorse on how we show up in sales
                          • The reason you need to make an ask and how that is ultimately a sense of empowerment for your customers
                          • How to reframe an interaction based on your values and not the sale
                          • How your past stories affect your ability to be successful in selling
                          • How to not appear desperate in sales
                          • The impact of shame resilience on being in sales

                          • More about Michelle:

                            Sales Growth Expert and sought-after consultant for entrepreneurs, Michelle Terpstra, founder of Startup Sales Leadership Institute, has helped over 1,000 companies shatter sales targets, cultivate high-performance habits, and elevate sales efficiency by building bulletproof systems and all-star sales teams. She brings out the best in people and is fondly called the hype woman with a plan. With her unique background, she blends digital marketing, social selling, and traditional sales methodology for a cutting-edge approach that converts like crazy for the solopreneur or scaling CEO. 


                            Connect with Michelle:

                            • LinkedIn
                            • Facebook 
                            • Instagram
                            • Threads

                            • Resources from Michelle:

                              • High-Performance Sales Habits: 90-Days to Crush Your Goals and Redefine Your Reality
                              • The Definitive Guide to Building A High-Performing Sales Team
                              • The Sales Success Lounge: 50% off your first month with code "THANKYOU" 
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                                51 min
                              • Burnout

                                In this week's solo episode, we are talking about burnout. We are all burnt out -- or running close to the edge of it. And the only way to do anything meaningful about it is to actually get clear on what it is, WHY it shows up and the steps it takes to stop getting caught in the chase to do and be it all.


                                Stay Connected:

                                Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. Be sure to visit our website or YouTube channel for more engaging content.

                                21 min
                              • Shame & Wanting More

                                Join Emily Bissen and I as we talk about the tension that can exist between the world we are a part of and the world we create for ourselves. Some of the highlights included:

                                • The conflict between expansion and shoulds
                                • What “more” means in the context of expansion and fulfillment
                                • Redefining “limits” within the context of our own lives and wants
                                • The inevitable loss that comes with choosing more and the power on the other side of it
                                • The connection between insecure attachment and longing with expansion
                                • The marathon that is intergenerational growth and healing
                                • How letting go is also a form of expansion
                                • What resentment actually means and how to shift away from that

                                • More About Emily: 

                                  Emily is a runner, a cook, and a connector of people and ideas. She is passionate about helping people find their inner light and helping them shine a little brighter in the world so they can create the impact they are meant to. She’s a mama of 2, owner of Blue Heron Business Partners, and the wife of a scientist.  


                                  Connect:

                                  • Website
                                  • LinkedIn
                                  • 51 min
                                  • Shame & Chronic Pain: The Intersection Between Emotional & Physical Health

                                    What a powerful conversation with Deana Tsiapalis trying to dive deeper into understanding chronic pain from a more holistic view. And along the way, I came face to face with just how much my body is trying to connect with me about my own emotional and mental distress.

                                    We covered:

                                    • What chronic pain actually means
                                    • How our culture views and treats pain and the issues that arise from that
                                    • The 3 elements of pain that need to be addressed
                                    • The #1 factor to create safety in talking about our pain
                                    • Why not all pain is created equal
                                    • The power of curiosity when it comes to healing & connection
                                    • What it means to live at 100% every day while still being kind to yourself
                                    • It is Deana's mission to radically change chronic pain care from within the chronic pain community.  As a certified coach, pain educator, curator, and podcaster Deana believes that the chronic pain community are the experts on their own pain. Deana is passionate about bridging the gap between the primary care physician and chronic pain warrior pain with know how and guidance so that the person living with pain becomes an equal voice at the decision making table.


                                      Connect:

                                      • Website
                                      • Facebook
                                      • Podcast
                                      • 52 min
                                      • Family Get-Togethers

                                        Let's talk family get-togethers. For many of us, we spend all year dreading them and are constantly on the hunt for an excuse good enough not to attend. We are fixated on what everyone else will do or say and are overwhelmed by the thought of being "in it" for however long we are there but can't seem to shake the story that "we have to" go and "have no choice" otherwise. But the reality is, you have control over a lot more than you think you do - and very little control over the things that cause you stress. So let's reframe the way we think about and draw some boundaries around these events.


                                        Stay Connected:

                                        Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. Be sure to visit our website or YouTube channel for more engaging content.

                                        16 min
                                      • Shame & Chronic Health: Diagnosis & Disease

                                        Another powerful episode where Tina Hallis joined me to talk about health and the exploration of health as a concept and experience. 


                                        We covered:

                                        • The most important data point in our health & well-being
                                        • The reason we resist mental health as a tool for treating & healing chronic pain and disease
                                        • “My head and my heart don’t always agree”
                                        • The #1 thing we have to stop being afraid of when we talk about health & healing
                                        • The MIND-BLOWING Bench to Bedside problem
                                        • The importance of moving past quick fixes and expectations
                                        • The Pain to Effort Ratio
                                        • The cultural norm that is killing us slowly
                                        • What is post-traumatic growth and how can we leverage that in our favorite

                                        • Tina Hallis, Ph.D. worked for 20+ years in Biotechnology before discovering a new science called Positive Psychology in 2011. She has since been certified in Positive Psychology through the WholeBeing Institute, trained in Positive Intelligence, and is an Authorized Partner for Everything DiSC®. Recently, she has also completed training to be a Metabolic Terrain Patient Advocate. 


                                          Connect with Tina:

                                          • ⁠ThePositiveEdge.net⁠
                                          • ⁠PositiveHealthspan.com⁠
                                          • Resources:

                                            • ⁠Terminal Uniqueness⁠ (video)
                                            • ⁠The Power of a Weekly Mtg⁠ (video)
                                            • 52 min
                                            • Shame & Heterocissexism: Queer and Gender Expansiveness and Liberation

                                              Join Laura and me in discussing heterocissexism as it relates to her story and what she has learned and overcome through this process to make her the therapist she is today.


                                              We covered:

                                              • The inner turmoil born by intersecting identities in conflict with each other
                                              • The ways labels leave so many displaced
                                              • The intergenerational transmission of oppressive systems 
                                              • The domino effect of oppression
                                              • The internal conflict we have when our parents attempts to protect are what leave us feeling lonely and alone
                                              • The choice to live authentically can also be motivated by a desire not to hurt others by performing and pretending
                                              • The role of radical acceptance in letting our parents burdens and missteps be theirs to own
                                              • What happens when we release the internalized shame from these external systems of oppression 
                                              • The invitation for us in our own healing and disconnect from systems and people perpetuating oppression and othering

                                              • Dr. Laura Minero (She/Ella) earned her Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology and has dedicated her life-affirming work to revolutionizing systems that adversely impact undocumented, queer, trans, and communities of color. She contributed to scientific studies used to inform national policy as a Science Policy and Technology Fellow with the National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine. She serves as a consultant and has given numerous keynote speeches for international and national audiences. Dr. Minero is a licensed psychologist and specializes in working with BIPOC, LGBTQ+, and immigrant communities via her independent practice Yolotl Libre Therapy, Training, and Consulting. 


                                                Connect:

                                                • Main Website
                                                • Clinic Website
                                                • Instagram: Main & Clinic
                                                • 42 min
                                                • Radical Acceptance

                                                  One of the hardest things to accept in life is that we can't control everything. In this week's solo episode, learn more about how to do that using the process of Radical Acceptance. Radical Acceptance is one of the primary skills in dialectical Behavioral Therapy, which is about identifying, grieving and letting go of that which is out of your control and not your responsibility.


                                                  Resources:

                                                  • Control Wheel Handout

                                                  • Stay Connected:

                                                    Don't miss out on future episodes of "Untethering Shame." Subscribe to the podcast on Spotify or Apple Podcasts and be sure to leave a review to let us know your thoughts on this episode. Be sure to visit my website or YouTube channel for more engaging content.

                                                    12 min

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