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216 // What Resentment Reveals & Understanding Envy


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We all know that we don’t love feeling jealous, but do we know the difference between jealous and envy? When we feel them, where do we go from there? What about when we feel resentful of someone? Where does this emotion come from and who is responsible for it?  In this episode, we deep dive into these emotions using Brene Brown’s work as a guideline. Resentment is in the envy family, along with a host of other unpleasant emotions. We give some ideas on how to process these difficult feelings.

Time Stamps

  • 10:54 - Our language shapes our world,
  • 13:20 - Comparison isn’t inherently bad, it’s a natural part of being human
  • 18:00 - Stay in your lane and your journey
  • 19:54 - Humans are happier if they are forced to commit to a decision
  • 26:15 - Feeling content with fashion
  • 32:30 - Definition of Jealousy vs. Envy
  • 34:09 - Malicious envy vs. just plain envy
  • 38:45 - Resentment is a part of the envy family
  • 42:00 - What do I need that I’m afraid to ask for?
  • 43:00 - Schadenfreude & Freudenfreude
  • 45:20 - Cultivating flame-keepers
  • 50:32 - “Rejoice in the success of others”
  • 52:30 - Develop Freudenfreude using “Shoy” and “Bragitude”
  • 54:52 - Social media can be a detriment for our ability feel freudenfreude
  • Related episodes:

    How to Process Jealousy and Resist the Gaping Pit of Comparison 

    Comparison vs. Contentment

    Books and links we mentioned:

    Atlas of the Heart // Brené Brown

    Decide Already by Hidden Brain

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