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This week's episode is equal parts heartbreaking and historic. Derrick Hurley joins Shannon to share how his daughter was drugged and raped by a London police officer while attending nursing school in Antigua. This case grabbed international headlines, as the officer was extradited from the UK to Antigua to face justice—a historic move for a rape conviction. In this episode, they talk about the emotional toll of seeking justice, how he had to break the news to family and friends (after telling barely anyone for 4 years), and the complicated role faith played along the way.
Ever heard the phrase, “God makes all things work for good”? Yeah, they're getting into that one today. They get real about the complex role religion plays in trauma, exploring how it can help and sometimes hurt.
Grab your headphones and get ready for a conversation about faith, family, and the fight for justice. Cheers!
(0:00) Introduction
(46:26) Telling family and friends
(52:33) Faith, Religion, and forgiveness after assault
(1:03:46) Perpetrator impact statement
(1:14:15) Biggest surprise throughout trial process
(1:22:08) Sitting down with the assailant
Derrick's Book: https://www.amazon.com/ANTIGUAN-JUSTICE-Fathers-Sexual-Assault-ebook/dp/B0C7LMTFPK
Derrick's Email: [email protected]
CNN Article: https://www.cnn.com/2019/07/13/us/antigua-rape-trial-extradition/index.html
Get Educated: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
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Shannon doesn’t usually tackle current events, but let’s be real—when P. Diddy, Harvey Weinstein, and Mike Jeffries are making headlines at the same time, it’s hard to ignore. In today’s episode, Shannon’s here to give a quick rundown of the criminal cases of three men with more money than morals, and apparently, no sense of decency. We’ve got a music mogul whose tracks don’t seem to include a value system, a Hollywood producer who apparently believes courtrooms are their new movie sets, and a fashion CEO who took “sex sells” a little too literally. No sugar-coating, just straight to the truth because pedophiles lost that right when they chose to touch kids. Grab your popcorn, and get ready for brutal truths—no filter, no mercy. Cheers!
More info on the cases:
https://youtu.be/Uo1Bznk66WI?si=UzZWKJ41j_nRnb8f
https://www.foxnews.com/us/harvey-weinstein-new-york-court-hearing-retrial-sex-crime-case
https://youtu.be/b8k2Rghjz2M?si=jai4rV90Hcrms9rO
Get Educated: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
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If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted and needs support: 1-800-656-4573 (National Sexual Assault Hotline)
What happens when the people sworn to protect us turn out to be the ones we need protection from? In this episode, the ladies sit down with Chris McGhee, a father whose world turned upside down when his daughter was assaulted by a police officer at the age of 15. The real kicker: the officer received a misdemeanor, no jail time, and no sex offender registration. If you're thinking "That’s not justice," you're not alone. Chris isn’t a lawyer, not even close—he’s just a pissed-off dad on a mission to pass Pennsylvania H.B. 1847, a bill that will make sure officers like the one who hurt his daughter are held to a higher standard. So, grab your drink of choice, and get ready for a gut punch of truth—this one’s a ride. Cheers!
The article mentioned: https://www.washingtonpost.com/investigations/interactive/2024/police-officers-child-sexual-abuse-in-america/
If you're a parent who has gone through something similar or want to know how you can help get the bill passed, Chris wants to talk to you!
Chris McGhee: https://chrismcghee.com/
Chris's Email: [email protected]
Get Educated: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
Got questions? Have an episode idea?
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If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted and needs support: 1-800-656-4573 (National Sexual Assault Hotline)
In this solo episode, Shannon opens up about her dad’s sudden death (because if you're going to go, why not a plane crash, right?). On the surface, her dad was a comedic two-time Olympian and Nike athlete. But what was he like behind closed doors? A full-blown OCD narcissist. Shannon shares how she was told to "stay strong" and didn’t shed a tear for years, and how his early exit might’ve saved her from growing up with a not-so-great dad. She reflects on how it’s shaped her relationships with men, and whether or not she’s got some good ol' daddy issues. Grab your favorite beverage, get cozy, and welcome to the Dead Dad Club. Cheers!
Get Educated: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
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If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted and needs support: 1-800-656-4573 (National Sexual Assault Hotline)
In this episode, the ladies dive into Em's story of domestic violence, coercion, and survival. For 15 years, she endured abuse at the hands of her former husband, who not only coerced her into fulfilling his dangerous kinks but also sex trafficked her. Under the guise of pleasing her ex-husband, Em was forced into situations she never consented to, including being advertised on Craigslist and hookup sites. Her ex-husband further violated her by distributing hundreds of intimate photos across the internet, engaging in what is known as revenge porn—images that still circulate today with no help from law enforcement.
Read Em's Story (before you listen): https://www.thelovepost.global/coercive-kinks-how-my-ex-trafficked-me-and-how-i-survived/#:~:text=This%20is%20a%20story%20about,deeply%20harmful%20forms%20of%20exploitation.
Get Educated: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
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If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted and needs support: 1-800-656-4573 (National Sexual Assault Hotline)
In PART 2 with Sheerin: We dive deeper into the Women's Advocacy Initiative, where Sheerin reveals how they're bulldozing the barriers that keep survivors silent after assault. Whether it's financial roadblocks, lack of information, or just plain not knowing your rights—let’s face it, we've all been hit by at least one of these hurdles.
Sheerin also shares some of her own battles with addiction—rehab, trying heroin, and getting kicked out of school. It's time to reframe sexual violence for what it truly is: violence, plain and simple. Cheers!
Women's Advocacy Initiative:
https://www.wainitiative.org/
Get Educated:
https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
Got questions? Have an episode idea?
Send us an email:
[email protected]
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whattheydontsayofficial/
Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@whattheydontsayofficial
If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted and needs support: 1-800-656-4573 (National Sexual Assault Hotline)
The ladies sit down with Sheerin Gryloo, the founder of the Women's Advocacy Initiative. Together they truly shoot the shit and go on a rollercoaster of conversations from makeup to nose jobs, to how to truly be an advocate for yourself and the crossovers of battling addiction as a survivor. This is part 1 of an epic two-parter. Sheerin shares her experience of being what society would call "the worst kind of victim" to having no shame attached to her assault. This episode is truly unhinged, full of dark humor, experiences, and important conversations. If that sounds like your kind of episode, give it a listen!
The Women's Advocacy Initiative: https://www.wainitiative.org/
Get Educated: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
Got questions? Have an episode idea?
Send us an email: [email protected]
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whattheydontsayofficial/
Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@whattheydontsayofficial
If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted and needs support: 1-800-656-4573 (National Sexual Assault Hotline)
In this solo episode, Shannon discusses the current controversy that's rising in the sports world: Steven van de Velde, the beach volleyball player convicted of raping a child, is set to compete in the Paris Olympic Games this year.
Should Olympic athletes be celebrated solely for their physical capabilities? Should someone with a history of heinous crimes be allowed to represent the pinnacle of sportsmanship and national pride? Stand up, do some jumping jacks, and get ready for a passionate rant filled with questions, opinions, and controversy. Cheers!
Read more about today's topic: https://www.today.com/news/sports/steven-van-de-velde-netherlands-volleyball-controversy-rcna159587 https://www.cnn.com/2024/06/27/sport/steven-van-de-velde-olympics-intl-spt/index.html
Get Educated: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
Got questions? Have an episode idea?
Send us an email: [email protected]
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whattheydontsayofficial/
Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@whattheydontsayofficial
If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted and needs support: 1-800-656-4573 (National Sexual Assault Hotline)
In part 2 of this two-part series, Lauren and Shannon continue their conversation with Tracy DeTomasi, the CEO of Callisto. Today’s episode builds off of the societal issues discussed in part 1 of sexual assault being a perpetrator’s problem and safety lists to dive into the solutions surrounding sexual assault prevention. Tracy dives into her work at Callisto and the technological solutions being key to the next wave of sexual assault prevention. Callisto is a platform that can match you with other survivors of the same perpetrator if you have a .edu email address and help you get the resources you need. The gals dive into some impactful statistics that have the power to debunk any sexual assault myths out there and Lauren shares a story of small personal growth. Cheers!
Checkout Callisto: https://www.projectcallisto.org/
Follow Callisto on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/callisto/
Get Educated: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
Got questions? Have an episode idea?
Send us an email: [email protected]
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whattheydontsayofficial/
Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@whattheydontsayofficial
If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted and needs support: 1-800-656-4573 (National Sexual Assault Hotline)
In part 1 of this two-part series, Lauren and Shannon have on a powerhouse in the world of sexual assault prevention. Tracy Detomasi is currently the CEO of Callisto, a company using technology to change the face of prevention solutions. In part 1, the gals dive into the idea of rape being a “man’s problem” or really a perpetrator's problem. Tracy gives us insight into what it looks like to work with teen sex offenders and their pasts that led them to live the life of a perpetrator. She discusses the importance of getting to the root cause of rape and assaults answering the questions of why do perpetrators rape, assault, and have abusive tendencies? The real kicker in this episode though is the discussion of safety lists. If you are somebody who has struggled with blame and shame within your own trauma, this episode will provide you with an incredible insight into why survivors are so quick to place blame on themselves. Hopefully this insight can help you drop the blame and shame you hold, throw it on the ground and kick it into the Pacific Ocean. Or Atlantic. Or whatever ocean is closest to you. Give it a listen. Cheers!
Check out Callisto: https://www.projectcallisto.org/
Get Educated: https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
Got questions? Have an episode idea?
Send us an email: [email protected]
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/whattheydontsayofficial/
Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@whattheydontsayofficial
If you or someone you know has been sexually assaulted and needs support: 1-800-656-4573 (National Sexual Assault Hotline)
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