What Your Therapist Thinks

In this special episode, hosts Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle share their own mental health journeys and what led them to create "What Your Therapist Thinks". Drawing from Felicia’s professional background as a somatic therapist and Kristie’s lived experience as a long-time therapy goer, they discuss navigating chronic illness, childhood isolation, the "good kid" trap and why breaking the stigma of silence is the first step toward true healing.

Some takeaways:

1. The "Sensitive Kid to Therapist" pipeline and why high-achievers often hide their pain
2. Why healing happens both inside and outside the therapy room through somatics and community
3. The power of self-forgiveness and the freedom to change your mind and your life

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*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle

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*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com

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This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

In this special holiday episode, Katrina Mautner, a queer trauma-informed therapist, joins Kristie and Felicia to talk everything on setting boundaries with family. Drawing from Katrina’s anti-oppressive and harm reduction framework, they break down boundaries as a tool for connection—defining them as the distance at which you can love both yourself and the other person.

Some takeaways:

• How boundaries actually allow us to deepen relationships and say "yes" more freely
• Surviving difficult moments with "strategic avoidance" and internal boundaries
• Applying a harm reduction lens to deescalate family conflict, even imperfectly

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Katrina’s Newsletter

*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle

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This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Shelly Qualter, an expert counselor, joins Kristie and Felicia to talk everything on performance anxiety. Drawing from Shelly’s experience as an expert counselor, they break down performance anxiety as a fear-based emotion arising from uncertainty, feeling threatened, or being out of control.

Some takeaways:

• The difference between helpful "nervous energy" and debilitating panic
• How externalizing anxiety (like giving it a name) fosters control and self-compassion
• Distinguishing between fact-based worry and baseless "what if" worries

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*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle

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*Produced by PodVision.

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This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Jon Lee LMFT, joins Kristie and Felicia to talk everything on trauma and recovery. Drawing from Jon’s specialized niche in dissociative disorders, they break down trauma as a lasting adaptation of the nervous system.

Some takeaways:

• The difference between a traumatic event and the physiological trauma response
• How healing is achieved through incremental progress and relational therapy
• Balancing traditional Western practices with community and ancient wisdom

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*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle

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This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Certified sex therapist Amalia Miralrio joins Felicia and Kristie to talk everything cheating. Drawing from her psychoanalytic expertise, Amalia breaks down infidelity as an unconscious drive. She explains where it can originate from and why this inner conflict leads to a struggle for autonomy.

Some takeaways:

• How unconscious drives work as a motivation for cheating
• The connection between infidelity and early developmental issues
• How this inner conflict often leads to a repetition compulsion
• Balancing the human needs for intimacy versus freedom

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Connect with Amalia:

• Amity Detroit Counseling
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• Freebie: Guide for Getting Cheated On

*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle

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Somatic trauma therapist Chloe Bean joins Felicia and Kristie to talk everything people-pleasing. Drawing from her expertise in high-functioning anxiety, Chloe breaks down people-pleasing as a learned trauma response. She explains how it can originate from a childhood need for safety and why prioritizing others leads to resentment and losing yourself.

Some takeaways:

• How people-pleasing works as a survival habit
• The connection between people-pleasing and losing yourself
• How prioritizing others' needs often leads to exhaustion and resentment
• Shifting from fear to setting authentic boundaries

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Connect with Chloe:

• IG: @chloebeantherapy
• Website: www.chloebeantherapy.com
• Freebie: https://chloe-bean-therapy.kit.com/freebie

*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle

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*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com

*Produced by PodVision.

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This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Licensed clinical social worker Kenny Levine joins Kristie and Felicia to explore the destructive power of contempt in relationships. Drawing from the Gottman method, Kenny breaks down the "Four Horsemen" of conflict, explaining how to identify warning signs like contempt and why addressing this early is a must for maintaining a healthy partnership.

Some takeaways:

• How contempt is a red flag for a relationship's health
• The difference between resentment and contempt
• Maintaining a five-to-one ratio of positive to negative interactions
• Why addressing issues early on is key to preventing the buildup of hopelessness

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Resources:

• Connect with Kenny Levine
• Kenny's Coaching Practice

*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle

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*Produced by PodVision.

If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!

This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Licensed marriage and family therapist Dr. Cassidy Freitas joins Kristie and Felicia to unpack everything on co-regulation in parenting. Dr. Freitas breaks down advice like how a parent's calm presence can regulate a child's nervous system, and the crucial difference between gentle parenting and permissiveness.

Some takeaways:

• What it means to be a calm anchor for your child's nervous system
• The crucial difference between gentle parenting and permissive parenting
• Why understanding your own triggers is the first step to co-regulation
• The power of "repairing" after conflict to build a stronger connection

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Book Mentioned: Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers

Resource for Teachers in early childhood education: Teaching through Emotions.

Connect with Dr. Cassidy:

• Cassidy's Website
• Listen to Holding Space Podcast
• Subscribe to Cassidy's Substack
• Follow Cassidy on Instagram
• The Crafted Practice and The Established Therapist Toolkit

*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle

*Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks

*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com

*Produced by PodVision.

If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!

This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Ketamine specialist Shannon York joins Kristie and Felicia to chat about the transformative world of Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP). Shannon breaks down how it’s different from purely medical ketamine treatment, debunks common myths, and explores how (KAP) can quiet the brain's default mode network to accelerate healing.

Some takeaways:

- Ketamine as a medical treatment vs. an assistant to psychotherapy

- Why setting a clear intention is a non-negotiable step

- How KAP can make you more receptive to change

- The importance of a strong therapeutic alliance to experience this safely

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Connect with Shannon.

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*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle

*Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks

*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com

*Produced by PodVision.

If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!

This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.

Licensed and multi-certified therapist Kathryn Wood joins Kristie and Felicia to demystify Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and intrusive thoughts. They break down what OCD actually is (and isn’t) and differentiate reality from pop psychology stereotypes.

Some takeaways:

• The difference between a fleeting thought and a persistent, intrusive thought
• Why typical “advice” can actually make OCD worse
• How OCD can manifest: from perfectionism to fears of causing harm
• Learning to sit with uncertainty as healing

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Connect with Kathryn:

• Kathryn's website: emboldenedtherapy.com
• Kathryn’s profile on BestTherapists.com

Resources mentioned in this episode:

• TreatMyOCD.com
• International OCD Foundation

*Hosts: Kristie Plantinga and Felicia Keller Boyle

*Watch full episodes on YouTube: What Your Therapist Thinks

*Brought to you by BestTherapists.com

*Produced by PodVision.

If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, rate, and leave a review, or share it with a friend who might need it!

This podcast is for entertainment purposes only and is not a substitute for professional mental health care. If you’re struggling, please reach out to a licensed therapist or call your local crisis line for support.