She did everything right.

When her marriage hit a crisis, she and her husband went to therapy. They showed up every week. They stayed with it for months. They did what you're supposed to do.

And then the therapist told them she didn't think she could help them. Nothing was working. She didn't see a path forward.

They walked out feeling like failures. Like they had somehow flunked marriage therapy. Like the problem was them.

Here's what I want you to know: she was wrong about that.

And if you've sat in that same chair (or if you've tried the books, the advice, the frameworks, and still feel like nothing is reaching the actual problem) you may be wrong about it too.

There's a difference between failing therapy and therapy failing you. And that can change what you do next!

This week's episode is about that difference. Why therapy so often doesn't work in a marriage crisis. What's actually being missed. And why the advice that sounds right... and may even be right, can still be completely wrong for the moment you're in.

The hiking guide is useless when you need a tourniquet.

Listen below.

 

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Save The Marriage System (designed for a marriage crisis)

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