Can’t stop thinking about your wife’s previous partners?

Are you overwhelmed by obsessive thoughts and curiosity regarding your wife’s previous partners? Do you catch yourself in repeated cycles of shame and self-loathing after you act on your insecurities, wondering what happened to the self-assured, carefree husband you used to be?

You’re not alone and you do not have to continue feeling this way.

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Obsessing over details of your wife’s sexual past is exhausting, emasculating. And, is often accompanied by some pretty serious feelings of shame.

I also know how liberating it is to be free of these obsessive thought patterns.

Since the release of my book in 2013, I’ve applied what I learned in my journey to overcome retroactive jealousy (RJ) to help thousands of others heal too.I’ve received thousands of emails in my years of doing this work. Though the specifics of each case are different, every single person who writes to me describes feeling haunted by their partner’s past. Many saying that thinking about their wife’s sexual past is “killing” them.In these emails, men and women from all over the world describe the enormous toll retroactive jealousy takes on their relationships and their self-esteem.

Obsessive jealousy about your wife’s sexual past turns you away from your true nature and turns you into someone that you’re not.

The good news is, you can choose to stop living this way. You can take immediate steps to overcome retroactive jealousy today.Not only have I been where you are now and have overcome RJ myself, I’ve also helped thousands of men and women from around the world heal from obsessive jealousy too.These people are not only in healthier, happier relationships, they’re also sleeping better, having better sex, and have seen massive improvements to their self-esteem.

Each of them got there by doing exactly what you’re doing now: researching the issue, taking steps to learn more about it, and committing to change.

If you commit to healing, it is possible to overcome obsessive thinking about your wife’s previous partners quickly and return to the man you know yourself to be.

Before I share a few strategies to begin the healing process, let’s talk about where you’re at now and how you got there.

Why Does My Wife’s Sexual Past Bother Me So Much?

My inbox is full of emails asking this question.

While in some ways, it doesn’t matter what prompts us to engage in obsessive thinking. Seeking to understand what motivates us is human nature.I’ve done a lot of reading on the origins of jealousy in romantic relationships. And, the question of where it stems from is still mostly unknown.Jealousy in romantic relationships didn’t become the focus of study for social scientists until the 1970s. Some argue that biology and genetics play a role. While others look to the attachment styles in relationships and family structures.

What science can tell us is that there is a big difference between normal jealousy and obsessive jealousy.

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