This is an intimate and vulnerable episode you don't want to miss. I take you through the interpersonal workings of my brain and body through a fear response, melancholy and the Exact, step by step, in real time, emotional process I used on a plane flying to Mexico.
This is the 6th step out of 10, and probably THE MOST CRUCIAL to practice and master.
Go slow and do what feels safe.
In the Stop Drinking and Start Living Program you will have access to multiple versions of this process to see what lands with you and your body.
I will also take you 1:1 through the process in real time.
Knowing something conceptually vs. true embodiment is a game changer.
Everyone comes to this practice with a different set of trauma's.
It is important to validate your body for protecting you and closing the gap between the ego and sources, little by little, until you feel safe enough to surrender.
Quantum healing is using your senses and imagination to really FEEL into the emotion and do a lot of deep integration and healing in a short amount of time.
Step by step process for processing an urge/emotion: (this happens in your head or out loud)
You can incorporate essential oils into this practice for even better results.
1) Become aware your mind is looping and the urge is growing because of it. Take note of the space around you and you in the space. Just become aware.
2) Take several deep breaths and say: Come in to the body. Just breath and make space. Use the exhale breath through the mouth through out, as needed to keep emptying heat and making space.
3) Locate the place of the urge in the body. Name it.
4) Discribe how it FEELS, the sensations.
5) Give it an identity with the senses. (what is the shape, color, texture, feel, smell, taste, sound?)
6) If this urge or emotion had a message for you, what would it say?
7) From the place of the compassionate witness, respond to that message.
8) keep responding to the YOU
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DISCLAIMER: This podcast and its contents are not a substitute for rehabilitation, medical treatment or advice. It is for educational and inspirational purposes. I am not a therapist or doctor. The views here are expressed a personal opinion and based on first hand experience. Please consult a doctor if your mental or physical health is at risk.
