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What kind of relationships do you want to make? Our most downloaded episode of 2021 is a real conversation for ALL relational styles. Ethical nonmonogamists discuss relationship structures, communication skills, trust, jealousy, and the work of getting to know ourselves. Plus Karen’s Sermon on the Pubic Mound on sexual abundance.

In this episode:

• Gabrielle Smith
• Cooper Beckett
• Maile of #open
• The Ethical Slut - and more sex book recs!

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Are you feeling stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.

Get tickets to our 8th Anniversary Show, Sunday Oct 25, 6pm at Lincoln Lodge in Chicago!

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Do you feel stuck in the same pattern whenever you masturbate? How can you reset and start to form a healthy masturbation practice? In this latest Eavesdropping ep, Sex writer Jera Brown sparks an impromptu convo with Karen on understanding and getting unstuck from masturbation habits that aren’t bringing us joy.

In this episode:

• Jera Brown - Sex and relationship writer, fetish provider
• S2E3: Masturbation and Mindful Erotic Practice with captain snowdon
• Joseph Kramer’s work on changing how we watch porn

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Are you feeling stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.

Get tickets to our 8th Anniversary Show, Sunday Oct 25, 6pm at Lincoln Lodge in Chicago!

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How can you tell when you’ve got enough partners? (But what if the new person you’ve just met is *really* cute?) Panelists respond to a listener question on avoiding overcommitment and burnout while living a nonmonogamous life.

In this episode:

• Matthew Amador - Sex-positive psychotherapist
• Heather Shannon - Sex therapist
• Mksthingshappin - Kink & relationship coach 

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Are you feeling stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.

Get tickets to our 8th Anniversary Show, Sunday Oct 25, 6pm at Lincoln Lodge in Chicago!

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A listener asks what to do about feeling anxious before sex with a new partner. Panelists offer techniques to get present, reframe spinning thoughts, and set the scene for pleasure.

In this episode:

• Erica Washington - Sex-positive holistic mental health therapist
• Elmo Painter-Edington - Queer somatic psychotherapist
• Tazima Parris - Sex coach & pleasure mentor

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Are you feeling stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.

Get tickets to our 8th Anniversary Show, Sunday Oct 25, 6pm at Lincoln Lodge in Chicago!

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Several recent conversations have touched on Betty Martin’s critical work with intimate communication and consent, so we’re revisiting our interview with Martin herself. Sex coach, former sex worker, and Wheel of Consent creator Betty Martin talks to Karen about her book, 40 years of touching people, and how you can practice giving and receiving pleasure.

In this episode:

• Wheel of Consent video library
• Read a chapter of Betty’s new book
• Buy it on Bookshop

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Speaking of merch… New tees and accessories! Be wild & sublime every day!

They said what? Full episode transcripts are available on our website

Do you feel stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.

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Do you avoid difficult conversations with partners, or leap right into the sticky stuff? In the second episode in our Eavesdropping series — unplanned, no-holds-barred conversations, beginning with a guest’s question for Karen — Brandon Hunter-Haydon asks, “What does it mean to choose pain over suffering?”

In this episode:

• Brandon Hunter-Haydon - Intimacy coach & therapist
• More on the Wheel of Consent - Hear our interview (S2E25)

Want more Wild & Sublime? The Afterglow brings regular bonus content and Wild & Sublime goodies! Until the end of Nov 2021, $10+/mo memberships get the new W&S sticker - and our latest benefit: 10% off all merchandise.

Speaking of merch… Check out our new tees and accessories! Be wild & sublime every day!

They said what?  Full episode transcripts are available on our website

Do you feel stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.

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What exactly does a surrogate partner do? In a continuing exploration of sex work today, we hear from two professional surrogates about the intimate work of redressing trauma, dismantling unhealthy assumptions about sex, and helping clients move toward the relationships they want.

In this episode:

• River Roaring - Surrogate partner, private coach & workshop facilitator
• Brian Gibney - Surrogate partner and intimacy coach

More resources:

• Surrogate Partner Collective
• International Professional Surrogates Association

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Do you feel stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.

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Is it time to exit an LTR that’s not working? How will you know? Panelists answer a listener question on getting out (or not), plus Karen’s Sermon on what keeps us stuck in situations we don’t want. 

In this episode:

• Heather Shannon - Sex therapist
• Matthew Amador - Psychotherapist for love, sex and gender rebels
•  Mksthingshappin - Kink & relationship coach 

Karen’s Steve Gadd YouTube rabbit hole:

• The full song, 50 Ways to Leave Your Lover - Paul Simon
• Drummer Steve Gadd demonstrates the intro
• Drummer Stephen Taylor breaks it down even further

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Want to get un-stuck? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.

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What is sex work? Who is doing it? Two therapists who focus on sex worker support discuss stigma, community, the “whorearchy,” and the ways legal structures like SESTA-FOSTA harm sex workers while claiming to help society.

Are you a sex worker? Do you want to join the sex worker support group? The Sex Worker Support Group is an affirming support group for individuals 18+ who identify currently or previously as sex workers, including but not limited to work in phone sex, escorting, camming, sugaring, stripping, professional fetish/BDSM, and other erotic labor. Meetings take place on the first Monday of every month, 6:30-7:30pm CT. For Zoom link, please RSVP to [email protected] or call or text 708-320-3078.

More from this episode:

• More SESTA-FOSTA info 
• Senate Should Reject the EARN IT Act - concerning end-to-end encryption online
• EARN IT Act is a Disaster amid the Covid-19 Crisis 
• Spencer Bokat-Lindell - How OnlyFans Became the Latest Casualty of the War on Porn
• Catharine MacKinnon - “OnlyFans Is Not a Safe Platform for ‘Sex Work.’ It’s a Pimp.”

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Want to learn more about healing energy? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.

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Has your identity shifted? Do you want to… tell anyone about it? Panelists answer a listener question on the value and meaning of coming out as queer (or as anything!).

In this episode:

• Matthew Amador - Psychotherapist for love, sex, & gender rebels
• Elmo Painter - Somatic psychotherapist
• Brandon Hunter-Haydon - Psychotherapist and intimacy coach

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Want to learn more about healing energy? Work with host Karen Yates in Zoom groups and one-on-one as she uses the energy of sound to reduce stress and help repattern behavior. Learn more about Biofield Tuning.

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Get tickets to our 8th Anniversary Show, Sunday Oct 25, 6pm at Lincoln Lodge in Chicago!

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