Many enter marriage believing it will be effortless—a seamless fusion of two souls destined for harmony. But what if this belief is the very thing setting couples up for disappointment? What if the key to a thriving marriage lies not in ease, but in intentional effort and understanding? This week on Win Today, Gabe and Rebekah Lyons join us to dismantle pervasive myths about marriage and intimacy. Drawing from their 28 years together, they offer candid insights into:

• The biggest lie about intimacy that's sabotaging relationships.
• Why viewing your spouse as a 'problem to solve' undermines connection.
• Understanding the anatomy of an affair and how to safeguard your marriage.
• The concept of marrying your emotional equivalent and its impact on relational dynamics.

In a culture that often glamorizes the idea of effortless romance, Gabe and Rebekah present a refreshing narrative—one that champions resilience, mutual growth, and the beauty of navigating challenges together. Whether you're single, engaged, or have been married for years, this conversation offers invaluable perspectives to cultivate a relationship that not only endures but flourishes.

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In today's swipe-right culture, many believe love is something you stumble upon—a serendipitous event. But what if that mindset is sabotaging your relationships? What if true love is less about finding and more about forging? This week on Win Today, Kait and JJ Tomlin, renowned dating coaches and hosts of the Heart of Dating podcast, join us to dismantle dating myths and offer raw insights into building intentional relationships.

They delve into:

• The myth of "the one" and why love is intentionally built, not passively found.
• Differentiating between red flags and deal-breakers—and why knowing the difference can save you heartache.
• The art of sliding into DMs with authenticity and respect in the digital age.
• Empowering women to "drop the hanky"—taking initiative without compromising femininity.

In an era where ghosting is rampant and commitment is fleeting, Kait and JJ provide a refreshing perspective rooted in authenticity, intentionality, and faith. Whether you're single, dating, or reevaluating your relationship approach, this conversation offers actionable insights to navigate modern romance with clarity and purpose.

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We're in a relationship crisis. Everyone's talking about chemistry and compatibility, but no one's talking about maturity. And when emotional immaturity meets unaddressed shame, sexual frustration, and spiritual avoidance? It's a recipe for dysfunction.

This week, Stephen Chandler joins Win Today to kick off a hard-hitting four-week series on relationships. In this conversation, we're getting real about the deeper issues driving relational pain—and why surface-level fixes don't work.

Stephen unpacks:

• Why emotional immaturity is sabotaging modern relationships
• How sexual frustration creates silent fractures in marriages
• The role shame plays in both intimacy and avoidance
• The subtle ways we use spiritual language to hide dysfunction

This isn't another "five tips for better communication" episode. It's a wake-up call. Whether you're dating, married, engaged, or trying to get back into the relationship game, this conversation will expose the patterns keeping you stuck—and invite you into a maturity that transforms everything.

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Let's be honest, when it comes to relationships, most of us are winging it. We chase chemistry, avoid conflict, and wonder why we keep repeating the same cycles. But what if the problem isn't compatibility... it's maturity? This month on Win Today, we're tearing the lid off what no one wants to talk about—with a four-week series called LOVE LIKE THIS. These aren't fluffy conversations. They're real, raw, and disruptive—in the best way.

• WEEK ONE (04/02): Stephen Chandler kicks us off with a hard-hitting conversation about emotional immaturity, sexual frustration, and how shame is sabotaging intimacy from the inside out.
• WEEK TWO (04/09): Kait and JJ Tomlin are coming for your dating life—talking about red flags, deal-breakers, why love is forged, not found, and yes… why women should absolutely drop the hanky.
• WEEK THREE (04/16): Gabe and Rebekah Lyons show up with the truth every married couple needs to hear—why your spouse isn't a formula to solve, how emotional pain sets the stage for infidelity, and why the marriage you want is built, not wished for.
• WEEK FOUR (04/23): Dave and Ann Wilson close out the series with a raw look at how your wounds are showing up in your marriage, the power of your words to either crush or restore, and how intimacy becomes manipulation when pain goes unhealed.

This is the series your relationship needs—even if it's not the one you want. Whether you're single, dating, married, or just trying to heal—LOVE LIKE THIS will call you up, not just call you out. Subscribe now on Apple Podcast, Spotify, or YouTube, and don't miss a single week.

We live in a culture that demands constant performance, even in our spiritual lives. We're pressured to present a curated faith—one that hides our doubts, fears, and grief. But what if this relentless pursuit of a flawless facade is keeping us from experiencing the depth of God's presence?

This week, Aubrey Sampson joins Win Today to explore the transformative power of lament—a practice often overlooked but deeply rooted in biblical tradition. She reveals:

• Why our obsession with performing for God leaves us spiritually empty
• The lost art of lament and how it draws us closer to the Lord
• The danger of avoiding grief and the mystery it holds for our formation
• Practical steps to embrace lament as a pathway to genuine faith

For centuries, lament has been a sacred practice, allowing believers to express raw emotions and find solace in God's presence. Yet, today's fast-paced world encourages us to suppress these feelings, leading to a shallow faith experience. If you've ever felt the weight of unexpressed sorrow, struggled with the need to appear 'okay,' or wondered how to connect deeply with God amidst pain, this conversation is for you. Aubrey guides us back—not to a performative faith—but to an authentic journey where every emotion has a place before God.

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What if the way you pay attention is shaping who you're becoming? What if your deepest fears of being abandoned—whether real or anticipated—are keeping you locked in patterns of anxiety, shame, and self-protection? Today, Dr. Curt Thompson joins us to unpack the profound ways our minds and relationships shape our formation. We're talking about anticipated abandonment, the neuroscience of attachment, and how to cultivate rugged flexibility in the face of life's uncertainties. Dr. Thompson, a psychiatrist and expert in interpersonal neurobiology, reveals how the way we focus our attention—consciously or not—rewires our brains and forms our identity. If you've ever felt stuck in relational wounds or struggled to trust God and others, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why anticipated abandonment keeps us stuck in fear and self-protection
• The neuroscience behind shame and relational wounds
• How rugged flexibility helps us navigate pain without losing hope
• Why we become what we pay attention to—and how to shift our focus for transformation

This is a deep, thought-provoking conversation that will challenge how you see yourself, your relationships, and your faith.

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We live in a time where Christianity has been reduced to a formula for self-improvement. Faith is treated like a performance metric. And Jesus? For many, He's become little more than a life coach—a spiritual consultant who exists to make life better, not new. But that's not the real Jesus. That's an illusion.

This week, Jamie Winship returns to Win Today with a message that will shake your understanding of faith. He reveals:

• Why most people unknowingly treat Jesus as a self-help guru—and how to break free
• The hidden reason why many Christians stay stuck in fear, anxiety, and control
• What it actually means to surrender—beyond just words
• The cost of real maturity, and why many people never step into their true identity

For centuries, the Church understood that following Jesus required more than belief—it demanded transformation. But today, we've substituted depth for comfort. We tweak our lives, make small improvements, and wonder why we feel unfulfilled.

If you've ever felt stuck in faith, frustrated by your lack of transformation, or trapped in cycles of striving, this conversation is for you. Jamie isn't here to give you another spiritual hack. He's here to help you finally step into the life you were made for.

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We live in an era where our attention is constantly hijacked. AI is replacing our ability to think deeply, faith is thinning out, and our addiction to instant information has left us drowning in noise but starving for wisdom. And in the midst of it all, trauma remains unhealed, relationships are fracturing, and many feel more disconnected from God than ever before. So, what's really happening beneath the surface? And how do we reclaim a faith that's deep, resilient, and transformative?

This week, John Eldredge joins Win Today with one of his most urgent messages yet. He reveals:

• Why trauma won't heal through knowledge alone—and what actually works
• The hidden connection between shallow Christianity and the rising divorce epidemic
• How artificial intelligence is rewiring our brains and keeping us spiritually numb
• The critical practice that will restore your ability to hear God's voice today

For centuries, the Church understood that deep transformation requires more than sermons and self-help tips—it demands practices that restore the soul, anchor the heart, and cultivate genuine encounters with God. But today, we've traded depth for distraction. We scroll endlessly, consume information without application, and wonder why we feel spiritually exhausted.

If you feel stuck in faith, weary from digital overload, or frustrated by an inability to truly heal, this conversation is for you. John is here to guide you back—not to more information, but to the kind of faith that actually changes your life. Listen now.

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Do you ever feel stuck in a version of life you never signed up for? Do you find yourself grasping for control when things don't go according to plan? This week, award-winning artist and songwriter Amanda Cook joins us for an honest, soul-stirring conversation about:

• Living life on life's terms (not your own)
• How powerless people act and how to reclaim agency
• Breaking free from the life you never wanted
• What it really means to be in the pocket of your purpose

Amanda's journey—from growing up on a farm in Canada to becoming a leading voice in Christian music—has been one of deep personal transformation. In this episode, she shares how to navigate uncertainty, trust the process, and embrace the beauty of surrender.

Don't miss this conversation—it's one that just might change how you see your own story.

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At some point, almost everyone hits a wall in their faith. The emotional highs don't last, the formulas stop working, and the deeper questions won't stay buried. Midlife, in particular, isn't just about aging—it's about confronting what's real, what's broken, and what needs to change. And if we're not careful, we settle for a faith that looks polished on the outside but leaves us spiritually depleted on the inside.

That's why this conversation with Tim Ross is so crucial. Tim is known for his raw, unfiltered approach to faith and culture—challenging easy answers and pushing beyond surface-level spirituality. In this episode, we're diving deep into:

• Why spiritual formation in midlife requires a different approach than in your 20s and 30s.
• The right way to heal your nervous system—and why emotional and spiritual health are inseparable.
• Why curiosity and offense cannot coexist—and how learning to sit with discomfort leads to real transformation.
• The deceptive side of being 'spiritual'—why some of the most "mature" believers are actually the most fragile.

If you feel like your faith has stalled, if you're done chasing the next emotional high, or if you're wondering how to build true resilience in a culture addicted to outrage, this episode is for you.

Listen now and start rethinking what real spiritual growth looks like.

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