Worthfull Project

"When we don't feel worthy, we're looking for the evidence that we're not."

 

There's one topic I haven't dived into yet on the podcast, and it's not because I was avoiding it.

It's something that I've been working quite a bit on myself -- owning my worth in romantic relationships.

However, it wasn't until I was introduced through a mutual friend to the renowned love and dating coach Laurie Davis Edwards that I decided it was time to dive into this topic publicly.

Laurie is an incredible example of walking her talk in this arena. Not only has she gone through some of the worst lows in her relationships, she has also created the tools to get out of the valleys, find an incredible partner, be happily married, become a mother, and coach thousands of women of all ages in doing the same.

Her willingness to discuss all parts of her journey, and how she still practices these same tools today, really inspired me. 

Not only do I believe we are all worthy of wonderful relationships with our partners, this episode made me think in a new way about how quickly we can create that when we own our worth.

Consider this the first of many on the topic of owning our worth in our love lives.

 

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Show notes:

• What the turning point into worthfullness can look like (7:25)
• How to get out of a "lonely loop" (12:05)
• Why circumstances don't have to change for you to feel worthy (15:23)
• How to look for evidence that you are worthy (17:25)
• An exercise to become mindful of how you view yourself (21:16)
• What romantic relationships teach us about the rest of our lives (27:18)
• Proof that it doesn't take a long time for love to come into your life (29:30)
• The science behind why we want romantic partners so much (37:48)

  "Feeling worthy is a choice."

 

Links we mention:

• I Feel Pretty
• Calling In the One
• Abundant Love course

Follow Laurie:

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"It's more than okay to show your worth. It's needed, it's desired, it's wanted."

 

I've had such a beautiful flood of ideas around what it means to live worthfully that I had to pop in for a solo round on Episode 20.

Also, we've hit episode 20! Wow! I didn't even notice we'd come that far because I've been having so much fun with this.

Thank you so much for listening and sharing your thoughts with me on this journey so far. It's everything.

I've recently been doing some deep work on myself via therapy and a book course, and it's been a beautiful opportunity to take my understanding of worth to a new level.

As I've had conversations with friends recently, it occurred to me that I hadn't made clear the distinction between knowing one's worth and owning one's worth.

And for me, the whole magic of being worthfull is owning that worth.

So in this solo episode, I'm sharing my recent thoughts on the power of owning your worth and what is possible when you do.

 

LISTEN ON: Apple Podcasts  |  Spotify  |  Google Play  | Stitcher   Show notes:

• The difference between knowing your worth and owning your worth (3:46)
• The 3 ingredients of owning your worth (9:56)
• What the world would look like if everyone owned their worth (12:03)
• How ownership of worth is connected to the kind of love we can receive (15:10)
• Why some of us are resistant to publicly showing our worth (20:20)
• The cost of NOT owning your worth (23:10)

  "When I choose to see my own worth, I can't not see the worth in others."

 

Links I mention:

• IN-Q
• "River Lea" by Adele
• Calling In the One

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"Even when you don't feel ready, you can still learn."

 

This is one of my favorite podcast conversations to date.

Maybe it's because it was such an in-the-flow-of-life conversation, or maybe it's because Sami Udell is a friend who inspires me so deeply. Maybe it's because I respect entrepreneurs who hustle and own their worth.

Whatever the reason, I am stoked to share what Sami and I talked about.

We met 3 years ago when Sami was my coach for a workshop I took shortly after moving to LA. Since then she has become a thriving personal chef, launched a food truck, and created the life of her dreams.

And she's still right in the middle of continuing to create it every day. The hustle is real. It's hard. And it's worth it because she's building the confidence that she can do anything.

I feel SO strongly about this, as it's been a radically transformative shift for me to learn the same truth about myself.

Sami tells it like it is, with great insight and awesome stories, and I ate up every word (no pun intended, but yes, that was a great pun.)

 

LISTEN ON: Apple Podcasts  |  Spotify  |  Google Play  | Stitcher   Show notes:

• Why "scatterbrain" syndrome is often a sign of creativity (2:31)
• What defines a successful person (3:59)
• How to validate yourself when no one else is (7:26)
• The clearest way to build your confidence in anything (10:30)
• Why starting things before you are ready is so valuable (13:47)
• The difference between being a slave to work and being passionate about what you do (23:45)
• The true meaning of worthfull -- not just self-worth (29:10)

  "I'm more confident when I create the life that I talk about creating."

 

Links we mention:

• Wholesam Food Truck
• Deliciously Ella
• Sqirl
• n/naka
• DeMarcus Cousins
• The Alchemist

Follow Sami:

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"You can't truly experience the light until you feel the dark."

 

Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought some not-so-nice things about yourself?

How about downright mean ones?

I think most if not all of us have experienced this.

But it wasn't until I started doing some deeper self-love work a few years back that I began to unravel how profoundly damaging this habit can be.

My friend and wonder-coach Stephanie Kwong is one of the most experienced and profound teachers on the topic of self-love.

While Stephanie has created incredible results for her clients in the work of reprogramming the subconscious mind, I especially admire how she has applied the work of self-love to herself -- even in times of darkness, ill health, and deep struggle.

I loved hearing all sides of her story in this conversation, and my hope is that it will ignite a desire in you to love yourself deeper.

 

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Show notes:

• What this season of darkness has taught Stephanie about creating light in her life (4:10)
• How health struggles can teach us self-love (7:06)
• The difference between knowledge and application of knowledge (12:32)
• Why we need to physically and emotionally love our bodies (16:10)
• How powerful our thoughts are to create our experiences (18:02)
• The benefit of looking into your subconscious mind (20:24)
• What it means to "work out" your mind (21:20)
• Why some of us never feel happy despite our huge accomplishments (26:30)
• The 8 ways of being loving to yourself (31:18)
• Ways to train your subconscious mind (34:14)

 

"Your reality is based off of something you currently believe."

 

Links we mention:

• HEAL documentary (featuring Dr. Joe Dispenza)
• MITT
• Stephanie's 40 Day Self-Love Transformation
• Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Joe Dispenza
• Stephanie's Rise Higher podcast

Follow Stephanie:

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"Are you worthy of being in a loving relationship, of being vulnerable?"

 

Have you ever suddenly realized an assumption you had made about yourself wasn't true?

It can be wildly unnerving and scary or it can be one of the greatest opportunities for personal growth.

My dear friend Mimi Truong had one of these wake up calls that shifted everything for her in her self-worth perspective.

Since then, she has been dedicated to awakening her self-worth, putting it front and center in her life, and teaching others to do the same.

Mimi already had a successful life, career, marriage, and friendships before this discovery.

But it wasn't until she realized that she was terrified to speak about herself publicly that she came to terms with long-held beliefs that she wasn't worth it.

I loved diving into her process around this journey, not just because we have such similar experiences and are walking parallel paths.

Mimi is an incredibly wise woman and gifted coach. She has taught me so much about owning my worth, and I am delighted to share some of her wisdom with you in this conversation.

 

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Show notes:

• How to stick up for what you want even if your parents want something else (3:30)
• How the fear of going into the unknown is connected to our worth (8:45)
• Why talking about ourselves publicly can be so challenging (11:25)
• How our brain's ability to judge things impacts our self-image (19:10)
• The significance of our words in affecting our reality (19:45)
• The difference between perfectionism and having high standards (20:10)
• How our parent's education and experiences shape us (25:55)
• Why we sometimes compare ourselves to our parents (28:02)
• How to overcome the fear of failure (29:55)
• How we deal with the risk of relationships is a reflection of our self-worth (32:45)
• What working on our self-worth can do to our relationship with our parents (35:13)
• The impact of self-beat up in our relationships (37:01)

 

"I always knew there was something better for me and I was always in that search."

 

Links we mention:

• Brene Brown

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"It felt like a language that I knew I could come back to."

 

If you love listening to genuine belly laughs, you're probably going to love this conversation.

My gorgeous sister friend Jamie Baker mirrors back to me my own joy and love of life. So when we get together, it's a loving laughter fest.

I was especially excited to record this episode because Jamie is one of my greatest inspirations when it comes to owning my body's worth.

She is an incredible athlete and fitness queen and has lived her whole life with a close connection to her body.

But since getting a corporate career in her twenties, she pushed that to the side . . . until recently.

This is a conversation about reconnecting to the amazing gift of our bodies. It's about remembering our innate worth and the evidence that is always with us. 

And it's about trusting the process of how our lives unfold -- and knowing that it is divinely guided.

Being in Jamie's presence is a gift. It's impossible for me not to feel worthy in her presence. I think you'll feel the same listening to this conversation.

 

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Show notes:

• How our success in one area of life can define our value in other areas (6:35)
• Why we sometimes self-sabotage when things are going well (10:10)
• How the end of Jamie's athletic career was a mirror for her to see her value (10:55)
• What it feels like in our bodies when it's time for a change (16:25)
• Why we sometimes tone down our best talents to fit into another mold (20:15)
• How connection to our bodies gets us through hard times (22:40)
• The connection between our breath and the truth (24:05)
• The story of how I became reconnected to my body (25:05)
• The experience of pregnancy and childbirth to show us the worth of our bodies (34:45)
• Where to start reconnecting to your body (38:05)

 

"There's worth in each of us, and we're all here to guide each other."

 

Links we mention:

• Mary Jo Lorei
• Krista Petty Raimer
• The Glo Lab

Follow Jamie:

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"It doesn't have to be hard for you to be worthy to get it."

 

Who do I be? 

The first time I heard that question, it caught me off guard. What does it mean to "be?" I wondered. I always assumed "doing" was more important than "being."

But the more I learn about worth, the more I learn that our way of being in this world is far more important than our way of doing.

I was reminded of this in a big way when I sat down with my friend Colie Wasmund to record an episode during a time of huge transition in her life.

She is right in the middle of reinventing herself on every level and she happened to be in town so we got to connect.

The more we compared notes about life and what we're learning, the more obvious it became that she had been learning the power of "being" her best self while letting go of a lifetime of "doing" to prove her worth.

I am so grateful we got to share this conversation at this time, and I'm so excited to see what Colie creates as she trusts the power of being herself fully.

 

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Show notes:

• How leaving your comfort zone in small ways can lead to bigger leaps (7:05)
• Why big life changes that look great on paper don't always go the way we think (15:30)
• How to find a clear signal amid the wreckage of plans going south (20:01)
• Why grounding yourself in nature is so powerful amid chaos (21:05)
• What it feels like to truly let go of the thing we are afraid of (23:20)
• How letting people support you allows you to realize what a gift it is to serve (24:40)
• The way that gifts of support show us we are worthfull (30:10)
• Why we don't have to struggle to get good things in our lives (33:15)
• How surrendering relates to feeling worthy (34:45)
• The value of learning to create results in both masculine and feminine energy (40:45)
• The questions to ask yourself when you turn inward (47:15)

  "'This isn't what I look like' until I realized that's what I looked like."

 

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"It's not an immediate result. It's a slow coming home to self that happens over time."

 

There are some conversations I've recorded for the podcast so far that are just pure joy and sugar.

This is one of them.

My dear friend Alison Burger has been a role model to me for years of what it looks like to own my worth, my beauty, and a career I love.

She is a multi-talented wellness maven whose professional experience ranges from accounting to modeling to fitness to event planning to mediation and other wellness practices -- and that's just scratching the surface.

But what I really love about Alison is that she is committed to loving herself and her life despite what anyone else may assume about what that requires.

You see, Alison has not only experienced amazing professional and personal success, she has also experienced chronic pain and injury, multiple business opportunities not panning out, relationships ending, and much more.

That's why I value her perspective when it comes to how she celebrates her beauty and worth on a daily basis. She is a true queen of following her north star no matter the ups and downs of where the journey takes her.

I know we'll record multiple episodes together (we already decided the topic of the next one), so get excited to be introduced to someone I am sure you'll love as much as I do.

 

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Show notes:

• Why we sometimes re-evaluate our life when things seem to be going really well (3:25)
• How our bodies can intervene to stop us from going down the wrong path (6:50)
• How to navigate the exploration of a new career without going crazy (9:35)
• The gift within a horrible failure (10:53)
• Why self-worth is so closely tied to our relationship with ourselves (13:40)
• The difference between validating our worth based on external versus internal factors (15:00)
• How to disconnect other's perception of you from your worth (19:45)
• How to navigate what to focus on when you have tons of opportunities (22:45)
• Why Alison justifies self-care to support her self-worth (23:00)
• Alison's top self-care practices (27:46)
• How to think of working out as self-care and fun (28:30)
• How I've been developing a new relationship with my beauty (30:05)
• The connection for women between feeling beautiful and owning their worth (31:56)
• The role of meditation in connecting us to ourselves again (36:23)
• How moving our bodies lets us reconnect to ourselves (38:17)

  "The more self-care I do, the more tapped in I am. The more tapped in I am, the more messages I receive and downloads I get."

 

Links we mention:

• The Shine
• Demir and Carey Bentley

Follow Alison:

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"Love yourself girl, or nobody will." - J. Cole

 

One of the parts of living a worthfull life I respect the most is leaving the beaten career path to do the work you're best built to do.

I've experienced (and am still experiencing) that in my life and it's been one of the most challenging and rewarding parts of my journey.

So I'm always interested in connecting with other people who found either the compulsion or the courage to do the same.

Past podcast guests Sara Wong and Rebecca Regnier both said their friend Theo Yang was a woman I needed to talk to. They were right.

Theo had a super successful career in ad sales for years, made great money, and was pursuing her passion of music with her then boyfriend on the side. But despite the success on paper, the worth was missing for her.

After experiencing depression at a serious level, she made the choice to leave the stability of her career and go after what she had known she wanted to do since she was a little girl -- be an artist. 

But this is just the beginning of Theo's story. I loved hearing her talk about the ups and downs of this choice, the value of the time she spent alone healing from long held wounds, and her honesty in describing what it takes to commit to this kind of worthfull life before the results show up.

Theo is the real deal, doing the real thing, and I can't wait to see what she makes from this.

 

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Show notes:

• How our parents' story affects our story (6:02)
• Why following our big dreams can be viewed as selfish (9:32)
• How to tell if your dream is worth sacrificing stability for (11:45)
• Where to find self-confidence when you are different from everyone else (17:15)
• How to navigate leaving the beaten path to follow your own (18:16)
• How depression can effect self-worth (20:01)
• What it looks like to be insecurely secure (21:30)
• Why it's important to take the time to heal when you need to heal (22:25)
• What we can learn when we take time to listen to ourselves (24:02)
• What it looks like to start taking action while still reckoning with yourself (28:32)
• The value of self-reflection over an extended period of time (29:30)
• How to justify "being less productive" while working on yourself (32:40)
• The value of learning how to say no (36:50)

  "Anything that's really worth it has got to be a little difficult."

 

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"When things come back and knock on your door, open the door."

 

Some people are born with incredible gifts that are obviously meant to contribute in a big way to the world.

My friend Saray Deiseil is one of those people.

She is a filmmaker, producer, director, IronMan triathlete, spiritual seeker, and so much more.

Not only has she directed award winning documentaries and currently works in post production on major network TV shows, she also has known for over a decade that she would work in this industry and be successful.

One of the things I most admire about Saray is her willingness to listen to her spirit and follow her intuition with a beautiful level of trust I rarely see.

She has been a big example to me of this and so much else. In this conversation we got to unpack what happens when we take the time to sit and listen with full presence to another person's story.

There is nothing quite like it to reveal someone's worth.

 

LISTEN ON: Apple Podcasts  |  Spotify  |  Google Play  | Stitcher   Show notes:

• How producing an independent documentary taught Saray about her own worth (12:20)
• What she learned from a group of undocumented immigrant kids who were making a statement about their worth through her film (16:10)
• The value of listening to another person's story to understand their worth (17:30)
• What following your own spiritual path teaches you about your worth (27:55)
• The power of making a big lifestyle change to support your overall health (30:15)
• Why it's so important to define your own spiritual belief system (32:01)
• Saray's advice for creating a life worth living (36:15)

  "You don't have to live in anyone else's path."

 

Links we mention:

• American Dreamers
• Supergirl
• DACA
• Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle

Follow Saray:

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