Worthfull Project

"A lot of where we end up is what we expect."

 

I love intelligent women who aren't afraid to contribute their full thoughts and brilliance to a conversation..

Sometimes I think of myself this way -- but sometimes I don't say all that I was thinking (only to regret it later).

It is so encouraging to meet women like my new friend Eliza Moody and be reminded that our experiences and our perspectives are worth hearing.

Eliza has had a brilliant career studying human behavior and coaching teams in the workplace to function at their best.

She's also worked on political campaigns, in government offices, and is Harvard-educated.

But none of that is as impressive to me as her perspective on people's worth -- and that it is not tied to their professional results.

I absolutely loved learning how she developed this perspective (since it's something I've struggled with big time myself) and what she has been able to create in all areas of her life as a result.

This conversation is for anyone who has been doubting the worth of their voice being heard in the workplace or anywhere they are in a place to contribute their unique strengths to the world.

  Show notes:

• How Eliza realized that she was fascinated by studying human behavior (3:10)
• What conversation teaches us about each other (5:05)
• How parents can install self-worth into children early on (6:15)
• Why playing to people's strengths reveals our worth to each other (8:45)
• What valuing an employee's worth looks like in the professional world (13:12)
• How to own your worth in your career (at every job you have) (23:30)
• What happens when team members decide their voices are worth hearing (30:02)
• Why our inner wisdom matters more than the outside wisdom we hear (35:15)
• The power in using affirmations to remind us of truths we know (40:00)
• Why our need to belong is so closely tied with our feelings of self-worth (41:50)
• Why cognitive fallacies are so helpful to study (46:50)
• What would be possible if we all spoke the truth out loud (54:45)
• The connection between how we view other people and how we view ourselves (58:00)

  "Your work is an extension of you."

 

Links we mention:

• Robert Cialdini's Influence

Follow Eliza:

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"It was worth it to pursue because I was worth it. Because my own struggles were worth it."

 

I made a new friend a couple of weeks ago when I was in Utah recording podcast episodes. 

Great people know great people, and my friend Scott knows A LOT of great people. He connected Camille Nelson and I via text and less than 24 hours later I showed up at her home to record an episode knowing it would be a home run conversation.

IT WAS.

Camille is an extraordinary musician (plays multiple instruments beautifully) and has been pursuing her love of music and several other careers for years (college professor, speaker, etc). As a fellow multi-passionate woman, I was so validated by the way Camille has navigated her multiple opportunities and interests.

I was also deeply touched by her willingness to talk about what it was like to live the first 18 years of her life with a terminally ill mother and then lose her right before her high school graduation.

We laughed a lot. We got teary. And I am so grateful to now count Camille as a friend.

This one is for everyone who has a big, unrealistic dream inside them that won't stop pushing them into uncharted waters. It turns out, those waters can be the most beautiful ones to sail in.

 

Show notes:

• How Camille got out of music practice as a kid (2:30)
• What it was like to be raised with a mom who was terminally ill (4:45)
• The moment Camille discovered she was deeply connected to music (6:15)
• How to tell what your true passion is when you love many things (13:20)
• The difference between looking for outside validation and validating your own interests (14:50)
• What it's like to watch someone you love die slowly (16:39)
• Why some of us put on a happy face even when things are really hard (18:00)
• Why it's okay to live for Option A and not just settle for Option B (22:15)
• The courage it takes to decide your gifts are worth sharing (24:52)
• How to go after what your gut is telling you even if no one else gets it (30:30)
• The relationship between feeling worthfull and feeling joyful (33:14)
• How our self-worth is reflected in how we treat others (35:30)
• The power of having good friends around you (38:01)
• Camille's worthfull recommendations (40:00)

  "Our struggles reveal our art."

 

Links I mention:

• Red Letter Day
• Sarah McLachlan
• Brene Brown
• Mandisa
• Francesca Battistelli
• Giants Fall
• Alanis Morissette
• Incomplete

Follow Camille:

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"Every single person we come in contact with every single day has that same infinite, fixed, eternal worth."

 

Holy moly. When I sat down with my friend Liz Darger last week to record this episode, I knew it was going to be good.

I didn't know how beautifully Liz would teach us about the power of vulnerability and how to frame conversations around this.

(This is one of my FAVORITE topics because I have struggled with it so much.)

Liz has worked with student athletes her entire career and has an incredible love for supporting others in finding their way.

Her graceful, beautiful thoughtfulness about our value, the importance of doing work we love, the joy and fulfillment that comes into our lives when we serve others, and so much more is so inspiring. 

To say I left her office uplifted and grounded at the same time hardly does this conversation justice.

If you're in a transition in your life, if you're doubting what makes you unique and valuable, or if you're facing some vulnerable conversations that are terrifying you, I recommend taking the time to listen to this full episode.

I can't say enough good things about what Liz shared in this conversation. It's just who she is.

 

Show notes:

• How to navigate an identity crisis (5:55)
• The relationship between our worth and our spiritual identity (7:50)
• Some tools to get spiritual guidance during hard times (13:25)
• Why we feel compelled to support others to find their worth once we've found ours (15:30)
• How to support someone who is struggling with something you've struggled with (18:15)
• Why practice is the best resource for owning our worth (23:30)
• The best way I've ever heard to set up a vulnerable conversation (26:03)
• How being vulnerable creates space for vulnerability in others (30:15)

 

"If I'm not what I do, then what am I? And if I'm more than I do then what does it matter what I do?"

 

Links I mention:

• Brigham Young University
• Nevin Caple

Follow Liz:

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"It actually does matter what I think of myself."

 

I wasn't planning on posting another solo episode today, but I had a conversation this week that stuck with me and I felt it merited a mention.

I was in an Uber on my way somewhere and was telling my driver about this podcast.

He listened to me describe what it was about and then asked, "What does self-worth mean?"

It suddenly occurred to me that I have been assuming that everyone defines self-worth the same way I do. Turns out that is not true.

So I wanted to take this episode to explain how I came to my current definition of self-worth, why I think it's worth talking about, and the value of constantly building my self-worth.

I share a few of my favorite quotes that have helped me define this term AND I explain where the term worthfull came from.

I would LOVE to hear your definition of self-worth after you listen. What does it mean to you?

 

Show notes:

• Where the term "worthfull" came from (2:50)
• My definition of self-worth (5:15)
• Why what I think of myself matters (6:40)
• How self-love relates to getting what we want (9:30)
• Why looking for perfection blinds us to our worth (13:45)
• What happens when we are willing to fully acknowledge the dark sides of ourselves (18:20)
• Why our flaws are essential to our wholeness (21:45)

 

"Self-worth is how I value myself."

 

Links I mention:

• Idillionaire
• Live in the Details
• Gabby Bernstein's Judgment Detox
• Brene Brown's The Gifts of Imperfection

Follow Christine:

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"I started to wonder if I was worth spending my time on things that made me happy."

 

You may not have linked feeling overwhelmed to feeling low on self-worth.

Or maybe you have. 

I hadn't until about a year ago when I started to come out of a season of deep emotional overwhelm.

I spent about six months getting very curious about the overwhelm I was in (triggered by a family fall out initiated by my actions) and what I learned about myself and my worth set the stage for the Worthfull Project.

But it didn't occur to me to record a solo episode sharing what I've learned until my friend Rebecca suggested it.

And then I loved the idea because I've spent months thinking about this and wanted to share what I have learned in case it might support anyone else who is in deep overwhelm.

Here's the thing: it wasn't until I went deep down the rabbit hole of overwhelm that I began to face the truth about my worth -- and that it had nothing to do with how productive I was being in a day. It had everything to do with how I took care of myself.

If you have experienced or are experiencing any kind of overwhelm in your life, I invite you to take off your self-judgment lenses for a moment and reconsider what this feeling may be here to show you.

 

Show notes:

• My definition of overwhelm (3:17)
• What triggered my deep period of overwhelm (4:15)
• What helped me start to understand overwhelm while I was in it (6:28)
• How I became fascinated with introversion and extroversion (8:40)
• The turning point that got me out of overwhelm (12:17)
• What overwhelm has to do with being worthfull (14:23)
• What shifted in my life and wellbeing when I started honoring my energy source (16:45)
• What is available to you if you choose to put your wellbeing first (21:00)
• The practices I do daily to fill up my energy (24:30)

 

"Your worth as a person is intact and it has nothing to do with how much you get done in a day."

 

Links I mention:

• Rebecca Regnier

Follow Christine:

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"Your ways of being have to change to create something new."

 

The day I met Travis Ross, I think I  knew my life would shift.

He's the kind of man that ignites a fire in the people he meets.

He has faced the lowest of lows (including attempted suicide) and also chosen to live with a mission to inspire and elevate others.

He is a internationally renowned tattoo artist, a musician, a speaker, coach, and so much more.

When I thought about the kinds of conversations I'd like to share via the Worthfull Project, I thought of what Travis and I talk about. He has become a dear friend and I'm so grateful to learn from him as we walk our individual paths of owning our worth.

It is so exciting and beautiful to bring you this conversation today (don't worry, we'll record more in the future together).

Whether you're at the top of your game but feeling the loneliness of doing life alone or at your rock bottom, I hope this conversation will bring you light, inspiration, and a reminder that you can choose to live fully once again.

Show notes:

• How Travis reconciled the reality of his life with what he felt called to do (12:01)
• What happens when we decide we are innately full of worth (or not) (13:30)
• How the process of creating something fills our self-worth (15:10)
• The role of gratitude in bringing us opportunity (22:27)
• How to begin to own your worth to create abundance in your life (23:40)
• What "ways of being" means and why it's so powerful (25:47)
• What the beginning of a shift in abundance looks like (29:20)
• How to put one foot in front of the other when you're at rock bottom (31:25)
• What is possible if the human race starts to believe they are full of worth (34:50)
• The best cure when you're feeling down on your life (36:30)
• Why community building is so important right now (38:10)
• Travis' vision for giving back in a massive way through TRYBE (39:15)
• Travis' daily self-worth practices while on the road (46:41)

  "The enlightenment never gets dropped onto you. You have to go to it."

 

Links we mention:

• Travis Ross Art
• Jeff Gogue
• The School of Greatness podcast
• Michelle Stann
• Sarah Silverman
• Freddy Corbin
• One World Academy

  Follow Travis:

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"I was forced to figure out who I was."

 

To question your worth is a shame.

Not the kind of shame you are supposed to feel like a bad person about. But a true tragedy.

That's what my dear sister-friend Sara Wong said at the end of this spiritually rich conversation.

Sara and I met a couple years ago as mentors in a leadership program (yes, the same one I've referenced in almost every episode so far). 

Right when we started coaching together, I knew she had something I wanted -- the confidence of a woman who has learned to own her worth professionally.

As we have become closer friends and I've seen her go through career ups and downs, I now know her as a woman how owns her worth in ALL parts of her life.

She has been incredibly successful in her career in media and marketing, but as she explained to me, she sees her value far beyond her income and resume at this point.

"We're here for a reason and it's not to compete with each other," she said.

One of my favorite weddings I've ever attended is Sara's (just this fall). The love and worth at that beautiful event was unforgettable.

Now Sara is in the middle of a massive career transition and I couldn't be more excited to see her channel all her worth into her new calling - a light worker supporting others on re-connecting to their souls.

When Sara speaks, I listen. I invite you to as well in Episode 5 of the Worthfull Project.

 

Show notes:

• Why we don't credit ourselves for our big successes (4:15)
• What happens when we choose to be a lone wolf (13:15)
• Why it's okay to want more when you already have a good life (14:03)
• How to view events (good and bad) in a positive light (17:05)
• What happens to our ego when we get laid off (20:20)
• How virtual reality can help us create new memories (22:30)
• How to keep your worth intact when you get feedback that you're not worthy (25:40)
• Keys to getting through a huge lifestyle transition (31:07)
• Where to start in discovering your soul's purpose (33:05)
• Why we don't need evidence of our worth (39:30)

  "I was always waiting for 'When can I be me?'"

 

Links we mention:

• Soul Wizard
• Tony Robbins
• Gabrielle Bernstein
• Mastery in Transformational Training
• "Hello" by Adele
• Ayahuasca
• Akashic records
• Buddha series on Netflix
• Rise Higher podcast

  Follow Sara:

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"Pain is the greatest motivator."

Here it is, the official introduction episode of the Worthfull Project.

By popular demand (and branding common sense), I'm popping in here with a solo episode to introduce the podcast.

Yes, I know it's Episode 4 and not Episode 1, but that was on purpose.

In this episode, I introduce what this podcast is, how it came about, and who I am.

I go into the story of how I lost and found my worth, what influences have supported me in this process, and why I'm obsessed with podcasts.

Consider this my formal introduction to you :)

Now I want to hear from you! Who are you? What is your story? Why are you interested in living a worthfull life?

Any and all feedback appreciated in any way you want to send it (but the easiest way right now is to comment below on this page).

Welcome to the Worthfull Project, I am your host, Christine Baird.

 

Show notes:

• Who I am (0:30)
• How I got into podcasting (4:57)
• Why I started the Worthfull Project (6:15)
• Why I chose now to launch this podcast (7:59)
• My story of losing and finding my worth (9:30)
• Why listening to other people's stories is so valuable (16:10)
• My top recommendations of resources to begin your journey of worthfull living (17:25)
• My vision for the Worthfull Project (24:15)
• What you can count on from me (26:45)

 

"Be wide open to hear the stories of others and notice what resonates with you."

Links we mention:

• School of Greatness podcast
• Lewis Howes
• Rich Roll
• Brene Brown
• Mastery in Transformational Training
• Worthfull Spotify playlist

Follow Christine:

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"I had self-worth and I don't know where it came from."

 

Wow. The woman I got to have this conversation with is one of my biggest role models in owning my worth.

To be in Jenna Anton's presence is to feel loved, whole, and seen.

She lives in grace, beauty, worth, peace, and joy.

She is also a top-level, amazing makeup artist who works on the most beautiful models and shoots in the world.

But life started out for her so differently. 

Jenna grew up in an actual cult, with little to no father figure and a drug-addicted, emotionally absent mother. She turned herself into social services as a young teenager, lived in the foster system, and was out on her own by 17 years old, working to survive.

It wasn't until years later, however, that she came to a dramatic crossroads and made the decision to create a better life for herself.

Through decades of working in the beauty industry, developing her talent as an artist, and developing her self-worth to create the life she now enjoys, Jenna has built a wealth of wisdom on this topic. 

I knew this conversation would be extraordinary, and it is.

I hope that as you listen, you feel the worth that is possible in your own life despite anything you may have experienced or faced.

If there is anyone who can show you that living a worthfull life is possible, it's my friend and mentor Jenna Anton.

"When you don't know your worth, it is a long life of mostly suffering."

"Self-worth will take you to the ends of the earth, whereas anything else that you are relying on will fall by the wayside."

"For others to value me, I have to show them my value."

Show notes:

• What life was like growing up in a 1970's Northern California cult (6:46)
• What we do when we are in survival mode (11:01)
• The signals our bodies send us when we are overworking ourselves (13:05)
• What drug use does to us (14:25)
• The rock bottom moment that was the turning point for Jenna's life (15:05)
• What addiction does to our self-worth (18:01)
• Why discomfort is one of the best motivators (22:25)
• What the greatest high actually is (24:02)
• How we learn about worth by witnessing what it's not (25:15)
• The relationship between physical beauty and self-worth (28:13)
• The value of self-worth from a model's perspective (29:20)
• How to own your worth in a super competitive, subjective industry (33:29)
• Why self-care is so powerful to fill your cup of worth (39:52)
• What to do if you don't think you have time for self-care (42:00)

 

"I know how to celebrate life because I know what it looks like on the other side."

Links we mention:

• Gisele Bundchen
• DailyOM

Follow Jenna:

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"I had self-worth and I don't know where it came from."

 

Wow. The woman I got to have this conversation with is one of my biggest role models in owning my worth.

To be in Jenna Anton's presence is to feel loved, whole, and seen.

She lives in grace, beauty, worth, peace, and joy.

She is also a top-level, amazing makeup artist who works on the most beautiful models and shoots in the world.

But life started out for her so differently. 

Jenna grew up in an actual cult, with little to no father figure and a drug-addicted, emotionally absent mother. She turned herself into social services as a young teenager, lived in the foster system, and was out on her own by 17 years old, working to survive.

It wasn't until years later, however, that she came to a dramatic crossroads and made the decision to create a better life for herself.

Through decades of working in the beauty industry, developing her talent as an artist, and developing her self-worth to create the life she now enjoys, Jenna has built a wealth of wisdom on this topic. 

I knew this conversation would be extraordinary, and it is.

I hope that as you listen, you feel the worth that is possible in your own life despite anything you may have experienced or faced.

If there is anyone who can show you that living a worthfull life is possible, it's my friend and mentor Jenna Anton.

"When you don't know your worth, it is a long life of mostly suffering."

"Self-worth will take you to the ends of the earth, whereas anything else that you are relying on will fall by the wayside."

"For others to value me, I have to show them my value."

Show notes:

• What life was like growing up in a 1970's Northern California cult (6:46)
• What we do when we are in survival mode (11:01)
• The signals our bodies send us when we are overworking ourselves (13:05)
• What drug use does to us (14:25)
• The rock bottom moment that was the turning point for Jenna's life (15:05)
• What addiction does to our self-worth (18:01)
• Why discomfort is one of the best motivators (22:25)
• What the greatest high actually is (24:02)
• How we learn about worth by witnessing what it's not (25:15)
• The relationship between physical beauty and self-worth (28:13)
• The value of self-worth from a model's perspective (29:20)
• How to own your worth in a super competitive, subjective industry (33:29)
• Why self-care is so powerful to fill your cup of worth (39:52)
• What to do if you don't think you have time for self-care (42:00)

 

"I know how to celebrate life because I know what it looks like on the other side."

Links we mention:

• Gisele Bundchen
• DailyOM

Follow Jenna:

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