On this episode of The Karen Kenney Show, I talk about why you can't explain yourself to everybody all the time and how trying to do so, will just wear you the heck out!

I also share how the tendency to over explain is often rooted in a fear of being misunderstood, and yet our words often get filtered through other people’s history, trauma, beliefs, and stories long before they land anyway.

Which means that the "message sent is almost never the message received.”

We dive into why some of us became over-explainers and people pleasers in the first place -and I tell a few personal stories about choosing to do what I knew deep down inside was right for me - even though I couldn’t fully explain it to others - and I knew that those other people wouldn’t like it. 😳

We explore how some folks will insist on misunderstanding you - just so they can keep their old story about you alive - and why it’s not your job to keep defending or justifying yourself to them.

Instead, you get to practice using discernment to explain things when and if it truly matters and you feel like the person or the relationship are worth the time and energy to do so.

Otherwise, you just gotta' say, "Go ahead and judge me"… because they’re probably going to anyway! 😆

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Karen Kenney is a writer, podcaster, certified spiritual mentor, and coach.

She’s known for her dynamic storytelling, her sense of humor, her Boston accent, and her no-bullshit approach to spirituality, self-development, and transformational work.

She’s been a yoga teacher since 1999, and a Thai Yoga Massage practitioner since 2008.

She's also a speaker, a certified Gateless Writing Instructor, and host of The Karen Kenney Show podcast.

She works with clients individually in her 1:1 program THE QUEST and in her HEART-TO-HEART DAYS via Voxer. She also leads a group coaching program and community called THE NEST.

Her down-to-earth approach brings together practical tools, resources, and storytelling that encourage curiosity, invites self-awareness, and helps people to know, love, and trust themselves more​!

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