You Have the Power - The Road to Truth, Freedom and Real Connection

What happens when you stop chasing love and start choosing yourself?

In this powerful kickoff to the Radical Relationship Recovery: Rebuilding from the Inside Out series, I sit down with Katherine Kimball—my former counselor and the woman who held space for one of the most transformative seasons of my life.

For three months, I brought her my grief, loneliness, codependency, and truth. What I got in return was something no one had ever given me: space to feel it all and still stay standing.

In this raw conversation, we talk about:

• The scarcity mindset that used to drive my dating decisions
• What changed in me during our time together—and what that says about real growth
• The difference between authentic generosity and manipulative niceness
• How trauma survivors can finally stop overfunctioning in relationships
• The signs you’re moving from self-abandonment to radical self-trust

If you've ever felt like you're too much, too emotional, too intense—or you've been told that your standards are too high—this episode is for you.

This is what real healing looks like: messy, bold, and full of truth.

And it's only just beginning.

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To find Katherine Kimball:

Website: https://katavitacoaching.com

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In this powerful conversation, I sit down with sisters Amy and Nancy Harrington — former Hollywood insiders turned founders of The Passionistas Project — to talk about awakening, empowerment, and the transformative power of women’s stories.

Amy and Nancy share how they walked away from high-profile careers in the entertainment industry to build a global sisterhood that amplifies voices too often left unheard. Together, we dive into their upcoming Passionistas Project Summit — happening August 26–28, 2025 — and the release of the Awakening Your Power anthology, a collection of raw, inspiring stories from women who have faced adversity, reclaimed their voices, and stepped into their full power.

We also have candid discussions about the struggles successful women rarely talk about — the pressure to “have it all together” while silently dealing with burnout, relationship pain, and isolation. You’ll hear why letting down the façade and sharing the truth not only frees you, but creates real connection.

I’m honored to be both a panelist at the summit and a contributing author to the book, sharing my own story alongside other remarkable women. We talk about what makes this project different, why vulnerability is such a game-changer for connection, and how this summit is more than just another motivational event — it’s a deep, inclusive, and transformative experience.

You’ll hear about the unique summit format, the behind-the-scenes process of crafting the anthology, and how you can get involved — whether you want to attend, read the book, or even tell your own story.

Tune in if you’ve ever been told you’re “too much,” if you’ve struggled in silence while projecting success, or if you’re ready to be part of a community that sees all of you — and celebrates it.

Learn more and register for the summit here: https://www.thepassionistasproject.com/summit2025

 Pre-order the Awakening Your Power anthology here: https://www.thepassionistasproject.com/awakeningyourpower

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One year ago, I started this podcast to talk about trauma, narcissistic abuse, and the long road to recovery. But what I didn’t know was how much I would change along the way.

This episode marks a turning point — not just in the show’s title, but in my life, my relationships, and my truth. I’ve walked away from romantic partners, friends, and pieces of my past that no longer align. I’ve come home to Colorado, laid my soul dog to rest, and faced the grief of being too much for people who couldn’t hold my fire.

But I’m not shrinking anymore. And neither should you.

In this episode, I’m sharing why the podcast is evolving into You Have the Power: The Road to Truth, Freedom, and Real Connection — and why being too much was never the problem.

We’re still talking about trauma and healing, but we’re expanding into all the relationships that shape us — romantic, professional, familial, and most importantly, the one we have with ourselves.

If you’ve ever felt like your intensity, success, or emotional depth made people uncomfortable, this episode is for you.

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Part 2 of Breaking the Cycle: Generational Trauma & Emotional Inheritance

What if your child’s meltdown was actually a mirror? What if every outburst, every triggered reaction, was pointing you back to your own healing?

In this powerful episode, I sit down with Debbie Simmons—a mother to nine adopted children, founder of Anchor Point, and a woman who has turned unthinkable pain into a powerful legacy. From infertility and the heartbreaking loss of her quadruplets to parenting children from trauma backgrounds, Debbie’s story is a testimony to faith, fierce love, and deep generational healing.

We talk about:

• The real reason our kids' behavior triggers us—and how to stop reacting from our wounds
• Why providing a safe emotional space is more important than any “perfect” parenting technique
• How to name and tame your nervous system in real-time
• The power of using your words, not your wounds, to connect with your children
• Her faith in God—as a platform for healing, wholeness, and leadership
• What it means to truly break generational patterns (and how to start today—even if it’s messy)

If you’re a woman who’s tired of repeating the patterns you swore you’d never pass on… this episode will challenge you, move you, and empower you to lead your family differently. Because legacy isn’t about perfection—it’s about presence. And healing is not just possible—it’s generational.

Debbie Simmons:

https://anchorpoint.us/

https://thedebbiesimmons.com/

Darla Ridilla

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You didn’t choose the chaos, the shame, or the silence — but you’re still carrying it.

In this powerful first episode of Breaking the Cycle: Generational Trauma & Emotional Inheritance, Darla Ridilla exposes the truth about what gets passed down through family lines — and how those invisible emotional hand-me-downs hijack your nervous system and destroy your dating life.

From coal in a Christmas stocking to a mother threatening suicide on wedding days, Darla shares raw stories from her own lineage to uncover:

• How inherited trauma quietly programs you to chase emotionally unavailable or abusive partners
• Why people-pleasing, hypervigilance, and perfectionism aren't personality flaws — they're trauma legacies
• What happens when you finally say: This ends with me
• The shocking impact of unresolved maternal trauma on your adult relationships
• How your body is still reacting to fear you learned before you could even speak

If you’ve ever wondered why you keep attracting the same kind of partner, this episode holds the key. It’s time to unpack the emotional baggage that was never yours to carry — and stop letting other people’s pain write your love story.

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In this powerful episode, part 4 of the Reclaiming Safety & Power After Sexual Abuse series, I welcome Beth Brunk, a woman who has triumphed over unimaginable pain and betrayal. Raised in a strict fellowship, Beth faced years of sexual abuse and pornography addiction in her marriage, leaving her with deep emotional scars. Through faith and relentless healing work, she is now living a life of freedom, self-forgiveness, and abundance.

Beth opens up about the painful moments in her marriage, the struggles with religious teachings that kept her trapped, and the personal transformation she’s undergone through prayer, self-care, and breaking generational strongholds. She shares her journey to reclaim her power, the difficult decision to divorce, and the healing that followed.

This conversation is raw, inspiring, and may be triggering for some, but it’s also a beacon of hope for anyone struggling with betrayal trauma or toxic relationships. Join me as Beth shows us how to navigate the path to healing, forgiveness, and reclaiming your true power in the face of unimaginable adversity.

If you or someone you know is in an abusive relationship, Beth offers practical advice on seeking support and finding your way out. This episode is a reminder that, no matter the depth of your pain, there is a way to heal, grow, and step into the life you deserve.

Find Beth Brunk at: 

Website: https://www.bethbrunk.com/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100089464266376

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bethbrunkcoaching/

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In Part 3 of my Reclaiming Safety & Power After Sexual Abuse series, I open up about one of the hardest truths: forgiveness is not always owed to our abusers.

In this raw, unfiltered episode, I share why I choose not to forgive those who violated me — and why real healing means forgiving myself instead. I talk about the deep betrayal that comes when the people we trust the most become the ones who hurt us, and the painful layers of shame, anger, and self-blame that can linger for years.

We’ll explore how unresolved trauma shapes our patterns — how what’s “familiar” can keep us stuck in cycles of unhealthy love — and how to reclaim our bodies, our boundaries, and our power.

If you’re ready to finally stop carrying the shame that was never yours, stand up for your worth, and start trusting your own voice again, this episode is for you. You’re not alone — and you do have the power to rewrite your story.

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What happens when the people who were supposed to protect you... didn’t? When silence and denial caused as much damage as the abuse itself?

In this deeply moving episode, Darla sits down with The Emotional Chain Breaker herself, Ada Lloyd, for an unflinching conversation about the long-term effects of sexual abuse—and what it really takes to heal. Ada shares her own story of surviving childhood sexual abuse, the devastating moment her mother refused to believe her, and the journey that led her to create a life of emotional freedom.

Together, they discuss:

• Why denial and shame from others can deepen trauma
• How hidden barriers like imposter syndrome and trust issues often trace back to childhood abuse
• The emotional toll of maintaining a “strong” facade—and the liberation that comes from dropping it
• What it means to truly own your story and choose who you want to become
• How Ada’s “Yellow Pad Strategy” helps clients rewire their inner dialogue and quiet the critical voices that were never theirs to begin with

This episode is raw, empowering, and deeply validating. If you’ve ever felt alone in your story or wondered why healing feels so hard, this conversation will help you see that not only is healing possible—it’s your birthright.

Trigger warning: This episode contains discussions of sexual abuse and trauma. Please take care while listening.

Find Ada Lloyd at: 

Website: https://www.adalloyd.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ada-lloyd/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AdaGLloyd

Email: [email protected]

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This is the episode I was never supposed to record.

In Part 1 of Reclaiming Safety & Power After Sexual Abuse, Darla Ridilla shares her raw, unfiltered story—from childhood abuse to adult violation, from being silenced by the people who should’ve protected her to reclaiming her voice on her own terms.

This episode isn’t just a personal account—it’s a wake-up call for every high-achieving woman who was told to keep quiet, stay small, or protect their abuser’s reputation at the cost of their own healing.

You’ll hear what it really means to live with the lifelong echoes of sexual abuse—and how Darla turned pain into power by refusing to keep secrets that weren’t hers to hold.

This is not about playing the victim. It’s about breaking the cycle. It’s about remembering your worth. And it’s about reclaiming what was always yours: your body, your voice, your power.

If you’ve ever been silenced, gaslit, or dismissed, this episode will meet you where you are—and remind you that you’re not broken. Your truth matters. And you’re not alone.

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You’ve pushed through. You’ve achieved. You’ve held it together for everyone else. But underneath the surface, your body has been keeping score—and it’s tired. In today’s episode of You Have the Power, Darla sits down with yoga therapist and mindfulness coach Rachel Posner to explore a healing path most high-functioning women overlook: trauma-informed yoga.

This conversation isn’t about yoga poses or flexibility—it’s about learning how to listen to your body when your mind is screaming at you to stay strong. Rachel breaks down how trauma-informed yoga supports nervous system regulation, builds emotional resilience, and helps women who feel “too much” or “not enough” reconnect with their power through agency, choice, and sensation.

If traditional therapy hasn’t worked, if you're constantly anxious, or if you feel like your body is betraying you—this episode will show you what your body’s actually trying to say. And how to finally listen.

Rachel Posner:

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