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Episode Overview
In this episode of You Keep Me Sane, Aileen and Julie take a deep dive into the concept of addiction—not just in the traditional sense of substance abuse but in the broader context of human behavior. Drawing inspiration from Gabor Maté’s work, they explore addiction as a response to pain rather than a failure of willpower. From sugar and shopping to busyness and technology, they examine the ways addiction manifests in everyday life and how it connects to unresolved trauma.
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Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
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Hair loss is often seen as a men’s issue, but for many women, it’s a deeply emotional experience tied to identity, confidence, and self-worth. In this short but important Sanity Check, Aileen opens up about her personal experience with hair loss, the impact it had on her self-image, and the surprising encounter that gave her hope. Julie and Aileen discuss why hair loss isn't just about vanity, the role of perimenopause and hormones, and practical steps to support hair health.
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Have you experienced hair loss? What worked for you, both physically and emotionally? We’d love to hear your story. Send us a message at [email protected] or leave us a voicemail.
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In this episode, we explore the journey back to authenticity—why we lose it, how we reclaim it, and what it costs us when we don’t. From childhood conditioning to the pressure to fit in, we unpack how the need for approval can disconnect us from who we really are. With insights from Gabor Maté and our own stories, we reflect on what it means to show up as your true self.
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We’d love to hear from you! Have you ever struggled with authenticity? Have you faced judgment for being yourself? Send us a DM or share your thoughts—we’re here to listen.
If this episode resonated with you, don’t forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review. It helps us reach more people who need these conversations.
See you next time! 💛
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In this Sanity Check, Aileen and Julie dive into a topic that hits hard: the feeling of having lost the fun, playful side of yourself. Whether it comes from a partner, a friend, or even your own kids, hearing "you're not fun anymore" can sting deeply. They discuss personal experiences, the emotional toll of mental load, and how societal expectations often strip women—especially mothers—of their spontaneity and joy. This candid conversation explores why this happens and how we can reclaim our sense of fun.
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Have you ever felt like you've lost your fun side? How have you tried to bring it back? We'd love to hear your thoughts, experiences, and tips. DM us or email at [email protected]. Your stories might be featured in a future episode.
If this episode resonates with you, please like, subscribe, and share with someone who might relate. We're all just doing our best, and that's enough.
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Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
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Comparison can sneak in through social media, friendships, or everyday moments—leaving us feeling like we’re not enough. In this episode, we explore the roots of comparison and jealousy, how they impact self-worth, and what we can do to shift our mindset. Through personal stories and practical tools, we look at how to move from comparison to connection.
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We want to hear from you! Have you struggled with comparison or jealousy? How have you learned to navigate these feelings?
Send us a DM or leave us a voice message—we’d love to share your insights in future episodes!
📢 If you enjoyed this episode, please share it with a friend who might need to hear it. Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and leave us a review!
Until next time, remember—you are enough, just as you are. 💛
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If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy.
BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch.
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Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
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This week’s Sanity Check lands on International Women’s Day, and we’re diving into a conversation that doesn’t get nearly enough attention—the immense power of women in the economy. Despite the progress we’ve made, studies show it will take until 2158 to achieve full gender parity. That’s five generations away. Simply put, change isn’t happening fast enough.
In this episode, we explore the real impact of women’s financial power, the barriers that still hold women back, and what the world might look like if our economic systems had been built with women in mind from the start.
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This International Women’s Day, let’s take action—waiting until 2158 isn’t an option.
How can we create systems that truly work for women? DM us or email [email protected]—we’d love to hear your thoughts.
If this episode resonated, share it and keep the conversation going. Subscribe, rate, and review You Keep Me Sane for more honest conversations.
Happy International Women’s Day—own your power.
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Disclaimer:
Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
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Most of us left school knowing algebra—not how to budget, manage debt, or invest. In this episode, we unpack the money lessons we wish we’d learned, how to shift our mindset around finances, and why it’s never too late to take control. Let’s break the silence around money and start making it work for us.
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BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch.
Links:
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Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy
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Disclaimer:
Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
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In this Sanity Check episode, we explore a term that resonates deeply with many women: an overdeveloped sense of duty. Julie shares how she first heard this phrase in her early twenties, and it stuck with her. Over the years, she began to recognise how it played out in her life—compulsively taking on responsibility, stepping in to fix things, and helping others without question. Aileen and Julie discuss where this drive comes from, how it plays out in their own lives, and the emotional toll it can take.
This conversation is a must-listen for anyone who finds themselves constantly stepping in, carrying the load, and struggling to say no.
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Does this episode resonate with you? Do you struggle with an overdeveloped sense of duty? We’d love to hear from you!
💬 Drop us a message or share your thoughts on Instagram @YouKeepMeSane
📩 Send us a voicemail or email—your stories matter!
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Disclaimer:
Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
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Why does happiness feel like something we’re always chasing but never quite reaching? In this episode, we dive into why happiness feels so elusive and how we can redefine it in a way that feels more fulfilling. Drawing from personal experiences, Russ Harris’ The Happiness Trap, and Dr. Judith Joseph’s 5 Vs for mental health, we explore how meaning, connection, and small sparks of joy can reshape the way we think about happiness.
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Resources
BetterHelp Paid Partnership
If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a discount on your first month of therapy
BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch easily.
BetterHelp carefully vets their therapists and has over 7,000 reviews with a 4.5-star rating on TrustPilot.
Join the Conversation
What does happiness mean to you? Has your definition changed over time? What are the small sparks that bring you joy? We’d love to hear from you—leave us a voicemail or send us a DM!
If you found this episode helpful, please share it with a friend who might need to hear it.
BetterHelp Paid Partnership - Get 10% off your first month
If you’re struggling, consider therapy with our paid partner BetterHelp. Visit https://betterhelp.com/youkeepmesane for a 10% discount on your first month of therapy.
BetterHelp makes it easy to find a therapist who suits your needs. Their online platform connects you with credentialed therapists, and if your first match isn’t the right fit, you can switch.
Links:
Subscribe to our Newsletter: https://www.youkeepmesane.com/subscribe/
Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy
See https://www.buzzsprout.com/privacy for privacy information
Disclaimer:
Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
Episode Overview
In this week's Sanity Check, Aileen and Julie dive into one of Brené Brown’s transformative quotes:
“It takes courage to rest and play in a culture where exhaustion is seen as a status symbol.”
They explore how society glorifies busyness and how deeply ingrained patterns of justifying our time can impact our well-being. Reflecting on their personal journeys, they discuss shifting from a mindset of relentless productivity to embracing rest, play, and meaningful living.
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We’d love to hear your thoughts! How do you balance rest and productivity in your life? What’s one small step you can take today to embrace rest and play? Let us know by:
Remember, you are enough just as you are—whether you’re busy, resting, or playing.
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Hosts: Aileen Harvey & Julie Fahy
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Disclaimer:
Remember, we’re two friends sharing our personal experiences and discussing everyday challenges. We’re not qualified coaches or therapists, and our content is for general information and supportive conversation only. If you need professional help, please seek advice from a licensed therapist.
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