You Look Like Me

'We are the stories we tell about ourselves and the stories told about us'

Louise speaks with academic psychologist Dr. Sophie Zadeh about the power of owning your own narrative. Sophie draws on 15 years of research exploring the lived experiences and long-term perspectives of donor-conceived children, young people & young adults. Her recent talk was entitled: "Stories, silences, and secrets: donor conception, identity and belonging in contemporary families".

And while you're here.... You Look Like Me is a labour of love from a two-person team, produced alongside our day jobs. If you want to support us, you can buy us a coffee: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://ko-fi.com/youlooklikeme⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠or support us on an ongoing basis on Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.patreon.com/YouLookLikeMe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For a special offer from GEDmatch go to:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.gedmatch.com/you-look-like-me/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code YOULOOKLIKEME

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This episode was produced and hosted by Louise McLoughlin.You can follow You Look Like Me on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠@YouLookLikeMe_⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

In this final episode, Louise talks to some of the people whose stories have shaped this season but whose voices we've yet to hear. She sits down with her newest half-brother to hear what it was like to become part of the wider bio family.

Louise also speaks with James’s daughter, Edwina, whom he spoke about in Episode 2, who reflects on what it means to heal as a family and explains why progress is rarely a straight line.

You can listen to James' full interview in S3 #2: Now She Knows

And while you're here.... You Look Like Me is a labour of love from a two-person team, produced alongside our day jobs. If you want to support us you can buy us a coffee: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://ko-fi.com/youlooklikeme⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠or support us on an ongoing basis on Patreon ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/YouLookLikeMe⁠⁠⁠⁠

For a special offer from GEDmatch go to: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.gedmatch.com/you-look-like-me/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code YOULOOKLIKEME

You Look Like Me season 3 is written, produced, and hosted by Louise McLoughlin and executive produced by Tamsin Hughes. You can follow You Look Like Me on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠@YouLookLikeMe_⁠

Louise takes a road trip with Neil to discover her roots.

As she explores the importance of knowing our geographic, historic, and ethnic origins she also speaks with Karen, and asks if it's okay if we connect with certain discoveries more than others.

And while you're here.... You Look Like Me is a labour of love from a two-person team, produced alongside our day jobs. If you want to support us you can buy us a coffee: ⁠⁠⁠⁠http://ko-fi.com/youlooklikeme⁠⁠⁠ ⁠or support us on an ongoing basis on Patreon ⁠⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/YouLookLikeMe⁠⁠⁠

For a special offer from GEDmatch go to: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.gedmatch.com/you-look-like-me/⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code YOULOOKLIKEME

You Look Like Me season 3 is written and hosted by Louise McLoughlin and produced by Tamsin Hughes. You can follow You Look Like Me on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠@YouLookLikeMe_⁠

As Louise’s matches grow, she looks at how these new groups can extend, blend, and impact people beyond the centre.

And while you're here.... You Look Like Me is a labour of love from a two-person team, produced alongside our day jobs. If you want to support us you can buy us a coffee: ⁠⁠⁠http://ko-fi.com/youlooklikeme⁠⁠ ⁠or support us on an ongoing basis on Patreon ⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/YouLookLikeMe⁠⁠

For a special offer from GEDmatch go to: ⁠⁠⁠https://www.gedmatch.com/you-look-like-me/⁠⁠⁠ and use code YOULOOKLIKEME

You Look Like Me season 3 is written and hosted by Louise McLoughlin and produced by Tamsin Hughes. You can follow You Look Like Me on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@YouLookLikeMe_⁠

In this bonus episode, Louise continues her 'Send This To...' series. She speaks with Professor of Forensic Science Dr. Claire Glynn, an expert in forensic biology, forensic DNA analysis, and Forensic Investigative Genetic Genealogy (FIGG). Claire explains what we’re looking for with DNA test results, and what we can potentially discover from even distant relative matches. As the title suggests, the idea is to ‘send this to’ anyone it could be relevant for.

To access GEDmatch’s Tier 1 tools mentioned in this episode go to  ⁠⁠⁠https://www.gedmatch.com/you-look-like-me/⁠⁠⁠ and use code YOULOOKLIKEME

And while you're here.... You Look Like Me is a labour of love from a two-person team, produced alongside our day jobs. If you want to support us you can buy us a coffee: ⁠⁠⁠http://ko-fi.com/youlooklikeme⁠⁠ ⁠or support us on an ongoing basis on Patreon ⁠⁠https://www.patreon.com/YouLookLikeMe⁠⁠

You can follow You Look Like Me on Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠@YouLookLikeMe_⁠

"This hug has been waiting for you for many, many years"

Donor conceived journalist Louise McLoughlin records a first-time meeting, as she picks back up with the three women we met in episode one. But (naturally) there's more than one surprise in store.

And while you're here.... You Look Like Me is a labour of love from a two-person team, produced alongside our day jobs. If you want to support us you can buy us a coffee: ⁠⁠http://ko-fi.com/youlooklikeme⁠ ⁠or support us on an ongoing basis on Patreon ⁠https://www.patreon.com/YouLookLikeMe⁠

For a special offer from GEDmatch go to: ⁠⁠https://www.gedmatch.com/you-look-like-me/⁠⁠ and use code YOULOOKLIKEME

You Look Like Me season 3 is written and hosted by Louise McLoughlin and produced by Tamsin Hughes. You can follow You Look Like Me on Instagram: ⁠⁠@YouLookLikeMe_⁠

How does it feel to say 'sorry' after keeping a secret for almost forty years?

Donor conceived journalist Louise McLoughlin hears from three parents who used a donor to have their children, who offer key insights into the importance of honesty and compassion.

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And while you're here.... You Look Like Me is a labour of love from a two-person team, produced alongside our day jobs. If you want to support us you can buy us a coffee: ⁠http://ko-fi.com/youlooklikeme ⁠or support us on an ongoing basis on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/YouLookLikeMe

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For a special offer from GEDmatch go to: ⁠https://www.gedmatch.com/you-look-like-me/⁠ and use code YOULOOKLIKEME

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You Look Like Me season 3 is written and hosted by Louise McLoughlin and produced by Tamsin Hughes. You can follow You Look Like Me https://www.instagram.com/youlooklikeme_

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For more from Hayley King go to https://allthingsdonorconception.com

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For more from author Kristina Rahim see ⁠www.kristinarahim.com⁠

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Check out comedian Caroline McEvoy

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Donor conceived journalist Louise McLoughlin examines the human fallout of industry-wide errors, as she meets three UK women who were incorrectly matched as half-siblings. Together, they move through confusion, grief, and unexpected connection, and uncover new discoveries along the way. Louise also gets a new match of her own.

And while you're here.... You Look Like Me is a labour of love from a two-person team, produced alongside our day jobs. If you want to support us you can buy us a coffee: ⁠http://ko-fi.com/youlooklikeme ⁠or support us on an ongoing basis on Patreon https://www.patreon.com/YouLookLikeMe

For a special offer from GEDmatch go to: ⁠https://www.gedmatch.com/you-look-like-me/⁠ and use code YOULOOKLIKEME

You Look Like Me season 3 is written and hosted by Louise McLoughlin and produced by Tamsin Hughes. You can follow You Look Like Me on Instagram: ⁠@YouLookLikeMe_⁠

For more about some of the issues mentioned in this episode, check out: 

• https://www.hfea.gov.uk/donation/donors/faqs-relating-to-incorrect-donor-information/ 
• ⁠https://youtu.be/AabfIsWle6I?si=zbkA72LgH3AIYaBk⁠
• https://donorconceiveduk.org.uk/a-statement-from-dcuk-on-incorrect-donor-information-in-response-to-channel-4s-investigation/

In this bonus episode (recorded live) Louise continues her 'Send This To...' series. She speaks with Amanda who went public with her story in a documentary with a major UK broadcaster. As the title suggests, the idea is to ‘send this to’ anyone it could be relevant for.

And while you're here.... You Look Like Me is a labour of love from a two-person team, produced alongside our day jobs. If you want to support us, you can buy us a coffee: ⁠⁠⁠⁠http://ko-fi.com/youlooklikeme⁠⁠⁠ ⁠or support us on an ongoing basis on Patreon⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.patreon.com/YouLookLikeMe⁠⁠⁠

For a special offer from GEDmatch go to:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.gedmatch.com/you-look-like-me/⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code YOULOOKLIKEME

'Send This To...' is produced, and hosted by Louise McLoughlin. You can follow You Look Like Me on Instagram:⁠⁠ ⁠⁠@YouLookLikeMe_⁠⁠

In the final episode of season two, donor conceived journalist Louise McLoughlin speaks with people who found half-sibling matches — only to later discover that they weren't related at all. Meantime, as she meets her most recently-found half-sister, Louise reflects on the joys and complexities of an ever-growing sibling group.

And while you're here.... You Look Like Me is a labour of love from a two-person team, produced alongside our day jobs. If you want to support us, you can buy us a coffee: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠http://ko-fi.com/youlooklikeme⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠or support us on an ongoing basis on Patreon⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠https://www.patreon.com/YouLookLikeMe⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

For a special offer from GEDmatch go to:⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠https://www.gedmatch.com/you-look-like-me/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ and use code YOULOOKLIKEME

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Season 2 of You Look Like Me is written and hosted by Louise McLoughlin and edited by Nathan Moore. You can follow You Look Like Me on Instagram:⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠@YouLookLikeMe_⁠⁠⁠⁠