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So many stepparents think the success or failure of their blended family lands entirely on them. But that’s not now any of this works. Both partners need to work together to blend a family.

Stepparents are like guests at our partner’s cocktail party. We really need someone to invite us in, show us around, introduce us, and generally help us feel at home. Show us the ropes. And that person is the party host, aka our partner.

Now, your partner might not realize they need to do this. To be fair, you might not have known this yourself before right now. So next time you’re struggling, try asking your partner for support. This is something I really wish I’d been more clear about with Dan. Oh you want me to have a better relationship with your kid? Then please help me. Help your kid get to know me. Help me get to know your kid. Help us find common ground and help me find where I fit in in all this.

Your partner really needs to be in this with you, not shrugging their shoulders and expecting you to just figure everything out on your own. Blended family life is complicated, and it takes two.

If you need help explaining to your partner why and how you need their support, Dan & I created this guide to help that conversation head in a productive direction: ➡️ HOW TO ACTUALLY BLEND: THE MISSING INSTRUCTION MANUAL FOR STEPCOUPLES 👀

Or if you need help on your own with just figuring out a way to make the stepparent role work better for you and not feel so uncomfortable and confusing, here’s a workshop to help with that: ➡️ Redefining the Stepparenting Role. Both of these are included with a paid subscription to our Substack community, which also includes a private chat room, Q&As with me & Dan, and access to a ton of other resources. We’d love for you to join us. xo

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