Therapist Todd Baratz joins Jess to discuss the costs and potential benefits of avoidance behaviours. He shares his thoughts on:

The ways in which avoidance can be functional

The stress and anxiety associated with sexual avoidance

How to manage conflict avoidance

The importance of conflict in relationships

Specific strategies to break the avoidance cycle

Follow Todd on Instagram here. Check out his podcast, Your Diagnonsense.

 

 

 

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Your Diagnonsense: How to Break the Avoidance Cycle & Set Your Own Relationship Goals

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You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight. Hey Hey Jessica Rally here your friendly neighborhood sexologist and I'm here with psychotherapist todd. Barrett's you're in private practice in New York City you specialize in relationships and sex and I found you through your instagram page. So your instagram page is your diag- nonsense grand and it's full of gems. I I really admire people who are able to sink convey these really meaningful messages with takeaways in such a short amount of taxed. There's another therapist based in Austin Texas. Who's able to do the same atom our from Moon Tower counseling? Soy follow the both of you so excited to talk to you because I'm always green grabbing your stuff saying Oh man I need to ask him about this so happy to have you here. You just came back from Mexico City I did. I'm happy to be here to We've been deeming here in there And it's nice to finally meet you to be here with you to chat about this stuff so I'm super excited but yes just back from Mexico City Great City. Great Time what was the highlight. The highlight was definitely the food The food like literally everything I ate was so so effing good The pyramids are also super cool to Did you go and you have you been no. I've been to the Pyramids along the Mayan. It's a it's an hour trek outside the city. Yeah it's an hour. Wasn't that bad though. It went by pretty quick Especially because if you're driving around an area that you don't know it's Kinda Nice to look at everything The tour was kind of a bit long so I'm not a person it's like. Okay I've seen it like I'm done So it's a little bit longer but still super cool. So is the other highlight. Well I think we're on the same page. If the food was your highlight for sure. Mexico City is so good so good and you live in New York City. You live right down here in the meatpacking. So you've got everything at your fingertips and you still love Mexico City. Oh yeah totally. I mean the food and New York great to But it's also like five times as expensive And I think I had a six dollar croissant this morning. Yeah it's crazy which is like eight fifty Canadian. It's crazy it's just. Everything's so expensive everywhere. Toronto'S EXPENSIVE TO TORONTO is but at least we you know as an American coming in. You've got currently like thirty three percent bump on the dollar so at least a croissants three bucks. It's only like two fifty. I'm don't get me on my mouth. Okay but her numbers but what is? Your thing is giving practical advice around relationships that is grounded in data research base. Psychologically sound and you recently posted about avoidance and.