Your Other Family

Our holiday hiatus ends, and the new year begins with returning guest and community member, Adam (later known as Dawson in future episode appearances). Dawson joins Tom to talk about staying positive in this Side B life as we learn more of his story. We explore our top strengths from Strengths Finder and recount some of our favorite retreat moments this past fall. Dawson also shares what he's excited for in 2023, including Second Christmas!

➡️ How do you stay positive in this life? What's one thing you're excited about for 2023?

➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2023/01/07/yob-convocast-058-tom-adam-stay-positive-in-this-life

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

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➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Tom welcomes back fellow FOUR-TIME retreat-goer Eugene to recap our recently held YOBBERS retreat. Eugene shares a glimpse into his artist’s process handling retreat decor like glow-in-the-dark nametags and tribe stones, which turned out a tad slimier and stickier this year. Our tribe times were the favorite block of the retreat this year, from heartfelt discussions to the new silly photo contest! Eugene also catches us up on a new development in his life back home: joining a porn/sex support group with all straight guys.

➡️ Eugene's blog, "My Straight Friend Won't Touch Me"

➡️ What was your favorite part of this year's YOBBERS retreat if you attended? Have you joined a sex-related support group and found success and connection?

➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/12/10/yob-convocast-057-tom-eugene-got-sticky-stones

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

➡️ Eugene's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/eugene

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➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

After six years we finally arrive at our 100th YOBcast episode! Tom is joined alongside a super-sized cast of Ryan, Aaron, Ben, and Will to commemorate the occasion, recounting favorite jokes, guests, topics, and moments together from the last 100 episodes. We also hear from a slew of listeners (including our favorite guest) and respond to all the feedback!

Here's to 100 more, fellow sparrows. Couldn't still be here without you all.

➡️ YOBcast 040: Change

➡️ YOBcast 041: Why Side B

➡️ YOBcast 046: Church Inclusion w/ Matt Stevens

➡️ YOBcast 047: Intimacy

➡️ YOBcast 049: Letting Go

➡️ YOBcast 051: Attachment Styles w/ Taylor Zimmerman

➡️ YOBcast 061: Gratitude

➡️ YOBcast 074: Belonging w/ Gregory Coles

➡️ YOBcast 076: Coming Out to Your Brother w/ Andy Zuniga

➡️ YOBcast 083: Covenant Friendship w/ Dr. Paul Eddy

➡️ YOBcast 087: Heavy Burdens w/ Bridget Eileen Rivera

➡️ YOBcast 088: Advent & Sexuality

➡️ YOBcast 090: Bitterness

➡️ YOBcast 094: Lent & Sexuality

➡️ What's your favorite episode, guest, joke, or moment from 100 episodes of the YOBcast?

➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/12/03/yobcast-100-the-story-of-yob/

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

➡️ Ryan's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/ryan/

➡️ Aaron's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/aaron/

➡️ Ben's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/ben/

➡️ Will's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/willc/

📞 Call the YOBline: 1.706.389.8009 or email us a voice memo

📧 Email us: [email protected]

✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

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➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

➡️ “The Best is Yet to Come” by Tim Halperin; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

➡️ “Born Again” by Cory Asbury; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

We're back to finish discussing this wonderful world of Side B resources, this time with Tom, Ben, and Will! Ben and Will share their first exposure to Side B resources as we recap some resources mentioned from Part 1, then jump to more of our favorite ones. Check the list below for links to each of the resources referenced in this episode!

Our 100th YOBcast is coming soon, and we'd love to hear from you! Call the YOBline at 1.706.389.8009 and tell us why you love our show, or your favorite episode topic, or your favorite inside joke, or anything really – we'd love to play your voicemail on this special upcoming episode. Additionally, you may email us a voice memo to podcast[at]yourotherbrothers[dot]com. Thanks to all who have contributed to this effort thus far! We're excited to play all those listener/supporter messages on our 100th episode soon.

See you then on the other side of our retreat!

➡️ Out of a Far Country by Christopher and Angela Yuan

➡️ Posture Shift

➡️ Guiding Families of LGBT+ Loved Ones by Bill Henson

➡️ YOBcast 065: Loving LGBT+ People w/ Bill Henson

➡️ Real Sex: The Naked Truth about Chastity by Lauren Winner

➡️ Heavy Burdens: Seven Ways LGBTQ Christians Experience Harm in the Church by Bridget Eileen Rivera

➡️ YOBcast 087: Heavy Burdens w/ Bridget Eileen Rivera

➡️ Spiritual Friendship: Finding Love in the Church as a Celibate Gay Christian by Wesley Hill

➡️ No Longer Strangers: Finding Belonging in a World of Alienation by Gregory Coles

➡️ YOBcast 074: Belonging w/ Gregory Coles

➡️ The Life on Side B Podcast

➡️ Leaving the Fold: A Guide for Former Fundamentalists and Others Leaving Their Religion by Marlene Winell

➡️ All But Invisible: Exploring Identity Questions at the Intersection of Faith, Gender, and Sexuality by Nate Collins

➡️ An Impossible Marriage: What Our Mixed-Orientation Marriage Taught Us about Love and the Gospel by Laurie and Matt Krieg

➡️ Struggle Central: Quarter-Life Confessions of a Messed Up Christian by Thomas Mark Zuniga

➡️ What are a couple of your favorite Side B resources? How did you first learn about Side B theology and walking this particular faith journey? What Side B resources are missing from this landscape?

➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/10/29/yobcast-099-side-b-resources-part-2

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

➡️ Ben's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/ben/

➡️ Will's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/willc/

📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

📧 Email us: [email protected]

✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros​

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➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

➡️ “The Best is Yet to Come” by Tim Halperin; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

➡️ "Born Again" by Cory Asbury; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Michael makes his ConvoCast debut as one of YOB's newer bloggers and a fiercely established welcomer in our community! He shares with Tom about his love for Seattle and how his dog Rumour will not be making an appearance in this episode. Tom recounts meeting Michael for the first time at the 2019 YOBBERS retreat, including the brave moment when Michael “came out” to the whole group, and the guys share their excitements and anxieties for our upcoming retreat just a couple weeks away!

➡️ What's the coolest dog name you've ever heard? If you've attended a YOBBERS retreat, what were you most excited or anxious about?

➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/10/22/yob-convocast-056-tom-michael-prep-for-the-retreat

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

➡️ Michael's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/michael

📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

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✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

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➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

It’s an episode topic long requested and finally tackled as we discuss the world of Side B resources (or, those with a traditional sexual ethic). It's a world that has, thankfully, grown quite a bit in recent years. Join Tom, Ryan, and Aaron for a conversation on our first found Side B resources and then our favorite ones, from books to blogs to various ministries. Check the list below for links to each of the resources referenced in this episode.

We have our 100th YOBcast coming soon, and we'd love to hear from you! Call the YOBline at 1.706.389.8009 and tell us why you love our show, or your favorite episode topic, or your favorite sponsor, or anything really – we'd love to play your voicemail on that upcoming episode.

But before we get to that one, we still have more resources to discuss! Join us next episode for a Part 2 to this Side B resources discussion with Ben and Will.

➡️ Spiritual Friendship

➡️ Washed and Waiting by Wesley Hill

➡️ Single, Gay, Christian by Gregory Coles

➡️ People to be Loved by Preston Sprinkle

➡️ Torn by Justin Lee

➡️ Out of a Far Country by Christopher Yuan

➡️ Redeeming Sex by Debra Hirsch

➡️ Understanding Sexual Identity by Mark Yarhouse

➡️ Us Versus Us by Andrew Marin

➡️ Revoice

➡️ Posture Shift

➡️ What are a couple of your favorite Side B resources? How did you first learn about Side B theology and walking this particular faith journey? What Side B resources are missing from this landscape?

➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/10/15/yobcast-098-side-b-resources-part-1

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

➡️ Ryan's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/ryan/

➡️ Aaron's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/aaron/

📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

📧 Email us: [email protected]

✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros​

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➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

➡️ “The Best is Yet to Come” by Tim Halperin; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Tom hits the road and talks with longtime friend Matthew in the same room! The guys cover their weekend together in the Land of Enchantment (New Mexico), from the magical Balloon Fiesta to mystical White Sands National Park and multiple church services interspersed! The guys reminisce on 12 years of friendship, affirming one another for the growth they’ve seen in the other. They also discuss straight guys in the backseat yearning for hot girls, sharing adventures with others versus going them alone, and Jesus' fulfilling the Tabernacle of old.

➡️ Do you prefer adventures alone or adventures with others? What is a special location or experience you've shared with someone else?

➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/10/08/yob-convocast-055-tom-matt-bro-down-with-balloons

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

➡️ Matthew's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/matt

📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

📧 Email us: [email protected]

✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros​

➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com​

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➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros

➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

We open the scroll on our favorite Scripture stories once again, this time with Tom being joined by Ryan and Aaron! We discuss several Old Testament stories like Abraham and Isaac, Jonah, Hosea and Gomer, and Mephibosheth, as well as some New Testament stories like the man born blind, and Jesus and John at the Last Supper. How do these stories hit us in the crosshairs of our faith, sexuality, and masculinity?

We spend some time catching up on our summer trips after a long break! Aaron went to Yankees games and Broadway shows in New York, and Ryan survived a trip to Mexico without any sickness or sunburn.

Enjoy this second part of our big comeback episode! And please, if you would, call the YOBline before our big 100th episode celebration and let us know any favorite podcast moments or why you enjoy our show!

➡️ Aaron's Jonah blog: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2019/08/06/running-from-the-call-to-come-out/

➡️ "Carbon Ribs" by John Mark McMillan: https://youtu.be/wCq6u_8q_iE

➡️ What are some of your favorite stories from Scripture that speak to your journey with faith, homosexuality, and masculinity?

➡️  https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/09/23/yobcast-097-scripture-stories-part-2

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

➡️ Ryan's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/ryan/

➡️ Aaron's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/aaron/

📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

📧 Email us: [email protected]

✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros​

➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com​

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➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

➡️ “The Best is Yet to Come” by Tim Halperin; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

➡️ “Born Again” by Cory Asbury; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

Tom welcomes back Marshall to talk about things DEFINITELY NOT related to the Enneagram whatsoever. Marshall catches us up with his busy life on the farm, including a major life update of a dear friend’s impending marriage. Marshall shares both the negative and positive emotions involved in this coming change to the friendship, including being asked to be a groomsman. He reads from John 3:29 and discusses his joy as a “friend of the bridegroom,” and the guys discuss the effects of marriage on a mostly single/celibate community like YOB.

Tom also debuts an exciting new prop for the ConvoCast! And he affirms Marshall as a great dancer at weddings. Listen to our full conversation below as the ConvoCast returns to its usual half-hour length with (mostly) lack of Enneagram focus!

➡️ How have you navigated the changing season of a friend's marriage? How have you reacted to being asked (or not asked) to be the best man or a groomsman?

➡️ https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/09/16/yob-convocast-054-tom-marshall-ever-the-groomsmen-never-the-groom

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

➡️ Marshall's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/marshall

📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

📧 Email us: [email protected]

✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros​

➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com​

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➡️ TikTok: http://tiktok.com/@yourotherbros

➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

➡️ “Growing Pains” by Layup; 100% clearance through Musicbed.

After a summer of Enneagram ConvoCasts, we’re back with a new YOBcast! It's a two-part episode where we dive into some stories in Scripture that speak to us as SSA/LGBT+ people of faith wrestling with these matters of sexuality and masculinity. For Part 1, Tom is joined by Ben and Will to discuss Hagar, Rahab, the woman at the well, and the early church.

We also spend some time catching up with one another after a long break! Ben moved to another part of the Mitten, Will gives a strong take on instant coffee, and Tom traded his smartphone for a dumb-phone. We get a little crazy in the opening, and we also announce our next YOBBERS retreat coming this November! We'd love to see you there.

Enjoy this big comeback episode, and join us next time for Part 2 of Scripture Stories with Ryan and Aaron! And please, if you would, call the YOBline before our big 100th episode celebration!

➡️ Tom's anger blog: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/09/01/am-i-actually-in-touch-with-my-feelings-as-a-gay-man/

➡️ What are some of your favorite stories from Scripture that speak to your journey with faith, homosexuality, and masculinity?

➡️  https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/2022/09/09/yobcast-096-scripture-stories-part-1

➡️ https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/your-other-brothers-podcast/id1142011465

➡️ Tom’s posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/tom/

➡️ Ben's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/ben/

➡️ Will's posts: https://www.yourotherbrothers.com/author/willc/

📞 Call the YOBline: 706.389.8009

📧 Email us: [email protected]

✉️ Mail us: Your Other Brothers / P.O. Box 843 / Asheville, NC 28802

➡️ Join our Patreon community! http://patreon.com/yourotherbros​

➡️ Shop the YOB Store! https://store.yourotherbrothers.com​

➡️ Give a one-time gift: https://linktr.ee/yourotherbros

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➡️ “Heart of a Brother” Spotify playlist: https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PL9_-P-9jAEy3Ise3zagEOWdnpdlyAcuaW

➡️ “The Best is Yet to Come” by Tim Halperin; 100% clearance through Musicbed.